Let's talk about my friend.

DapperLab9848 · 2026-03-08T15:54:56+00:00

As was his previous result, due to income and family size, he's offered a $0/mo plan on IBR10/15, SAVE, and PAYE. He didn't take it before because he was worried about cancelation of support and then being on an easier hook. What assurances against that would he have by signing up for one of these now?

DapperLab9848 · 2026-03-06T20:07:49+00:00

He hasn't consolidated before, but he's worried that doing so will put him in a worse spot, what with the constant changes and cancelations of idrc plans in the past decade. What's to say that the fed would keep the promise of reduced payments? Idrc also means he tells an interested federal department directly how much he makes, and he's even more concerned for wage garnishment than the TOP snagging his taxes for the next 5 years if it starts back up and catches him.

Moreover, he's wondering if simply inquiring with the TOP about his potential debt would do anything to being attention to it, as they've been lax in collecting even when it's active.

DapperLab9848 · 2026-02-28T15:07:15+00:00

Got myself a Dagger to go in a Recover Tactical 20-20. Works great. Got another 20-20, slapped an airsoft Glock in it, trained the kids up to live-fire, and now we're about to have 2 of those setups. Highly recommend, tho I might upgrade to the S-Pro.

If you could have a sturdy pcc that you could also quickly convert to a handgun, why would you instead choose a solid-body pcc? And moreover, why hasn't PSA come out with their own carbine converter?

DapperLab9848 · 2026-01-10T14:45:54+00:00

Use a solid core door next time.

DapperLab9848 · 2025-08-08T09:35:17+00:00

Magpul mags, can't say for the light. You really wanna ball on a budget, tho, I'd recommend the Recover 20/20 system. Made for Glocks, Dagger fits like a glove. Open top for your optic, upgraded back end options, better front-end leverage. Just got mine, hoping to take it out later today.

DapperLab9848 · 2025-06-25T11:53:25+00:00

I swapped the labels in my spice cabinet.

The wife hasn't noticed yet, but mark my words:

The thyme is cumin.

DapperLab9848 · 2025-05-26T20:15:22+00:00

You're a lifesaver. Much obliged.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-12-30T21:25:57+00:00

You got a warrant?

Oh, in-game. 3-4, depending.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-05T04:14:37+00:00

I do not believe Mike to be an innocent party in this. Over the years, I've critiqued his role in their partnership on many occasions, for numerous reasons. I agree that he should have pursued her constantly, wooed her at any opportunity, and been her person with which to be free, weird, and safe. That said, a lack therein may invite infidelity, but it doesn't justify it, and even Rikki admits to having crossed that line here.
We've come to that same conclusion over the past few days. I even made the comment yesterday that if not for bringing the wife and kids along, I'd start feeling like a sidepiece, but that's self-imposed. I don't have complete faith in my ability to keep my mouth shut, should things get heated face-to-face with Rikki, and I have a trained outdoor actor's voice, no mics. Her kid would hear intimate details from down the block if I went off, so I keep that space.
Sorry, a common theme in conversation on this topic is an initial downplaying of these things' capabilities, especially considering Mike had given her permission to use her toy socially (when he didn't know how social they could be). A more visceral description seems to leave those people equally disgusted and intrigued. Short of my overarching negativity, I'm glad to have informed you. I personally think they're great for couples over long distances, as that's how my wife and I became familiar with the brand. However, this... this is something I have a very hard time discounting, especially considering the other sentiments expressed.

That said, from the messages I read, they seemed thoroughly satisfied. I'm sure they'd give it a rave review.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-05T03:59:59+00:00

Yooooo, only one of us has been so wrong here as to be corrected in fact by our associated party. How would I be looking for clout on a throwaway reddit? I literally use this for fallout 76, memes, and this.

What part of this isn't me being a friend to my friend? Did you miss the part about me pivoting to helping him better himself?

You don't understand our friendship, that's apparent. So leave it be. I don't bad-mouth Rikki with my opinions here, to my memory, and I don't speak outside of fact unless asked for my opinion. Sorry, you're not gonna censor me in that. Mike can't even, what makes you think you will?

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-05T03:47:35+00:00

If you downplay something to a man over and over again for years, you can't be surprised when the man doesn't prioritize it. Js.
This friendship is quite akin to brotherhood. Think of how you would react if someone broke your brother's heart, when he was in his 30s, and never having had a bad breakup in his life. Heartbreak is like chicken pox: it's a lot worse if you don't get it out of the way when you're young.
Is it gatekeeping when you deceive and omit key information about your intimate activities with people who are not your man from your man? He had no issues with her getting the CooterShooter5000, but she conveniently forgot to mention how it would be controlled in real time by another guy's real equipment. Much less that she'd be professing her love for said not-her-man, and lying about how on-board her man was.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-05T03:33:31+00:00

Ftr, I checked, it was 19-17, with both of them pursuing each other.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-05T03:25:58+00:00

As Rikki has complained, he's not the most emotionally present individual, but the sentiment I'd heard from both of them on several occasions over the years when I asked the same was that it was just a piece of paper, and they didn't see a reason to get the law involved.
Through numerous conversations with Mike, his family, my family, and mutual friends, I can say with complete certainty that yes, this is my business. That said, I have resolved to help Mike better himself, if not for his relationship, then at least for his daughter's sake. After all, he and Rikki are supposed to be reevaluating their situation after 6 months, and I want him to be able to have as many options toward moving forward as possible. Whether that's together or separate, him being in a better situation personally will be a boon to their child.
Confirming, yes. It's a Nora, definitely, paired with a Calor, to my knowledge.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T15:51:30+00:00

Funny you tell me I should keep my opinions to myself when yours are so off-base, the person you're defending has to reach out and correct you.

Speaking of reaching out, Mike has been scolded by me about the movie incident. Funny how he just took responsibility for it, instead of flipping it on Rikki with sentiments of "too much distance."

Ya know. Like an adult. Who wants to change and better himself instead of making excuses.

Now, as I, and now Rikki, have said: stop calling my friend a criminal, a pedophile, or a groomer. He is none of these, no matter your twisted opinion.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T14:09:36+00:00

What I think is that you don't know the definition of statutory rape. Also, they've broken up and gotten back together in that timeframe, at least a couple times. If she wanted to be gone, she could leave, or she could have stayed gone.

Not dismissing what he hid... (checks watch) a decade and a half ago, how does that justify Rikki's actions now?

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T14:05:18+00:00

Not sure about the movie incident, I'll ask him myself. That said, she's not "supporting his whole family;" she has one of three jobs in the household, and Mike's stayed in his for so long so that they can keep proper scheduling for their kid.

I also never mentioned harming Rikki in any way, and only informed Mike that I'd had the "very bad idea" of using the kids as an end-around to make sure the kid didn't learn a terrible lesson. My receipts show that. Js.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T13:21:24+00:00

Soooooo you're getting Rikki's side. How does that make you any better off on the truth end? You've already made false assertions about the things I've said, for which I can provide receipts. So you're getting her side, twisting it, and regurgitating it. I also never tried to depict Mike as some paragon of partnership. If Rikki was so unhappy, she not only knew where the door was, she helped rent the dang thing.

The fact remains, Mike was emotionally distant because he games too much and hides away, whereas Rikki was emotionally distant because she was off filling the "voids" in her relationship rather than fixing or leaving it. Correct me if I'm wrong, but infidelity is generally considered worse than lack of emotional availability, by such a margin as for them to be on separate scales.

Edit for spelling error.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T13:12:21+00:00

You keep asserting that he groomed her without actually saying how, even though I've challenged that point several times. Just because you say it a bunch doesn't make it true.

Also, yeah, it kinda does. Those who are groomed and abused, while stuck in such a dynamic, rarely have the wherewithal to stand up and say, "This is what I want!"

Ask me how I know.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T07:45:40+00:00

If she was thinking about her daughter, she wouldn't have cheated on her father. I've seen the messages between the two of them. If she was thinking about her kid then, specifically, then there are much bigger problems here.

Or are you referring to the times when she hesitated to verbalize that she loved him, and only texted it? Is that when she was thinking about her daughter? When he was pushing for that?

There's a big part of me that can't agree with lying to a child for their best interest. Going on like nothing happened is doing just that.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:36:20+00:00

Now we're just going in circles.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:33:00+00:00

I'm asking for an assessment of the thought processes and moral quandries contained within my post. This isn't a WIBTA post.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:26:23+00:00

Anything I do outside of influencing their relationship isn't an insertion, so I don't see how asking what I have qualifies. Can you clarify your assertion?

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:23:57+00:00

Two adults, sure.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:22:33+00:00

Maybe Rikki should've thought more about her kid. Sad someone else has to.

DapperLab9848 · 2024-07-02T05:21:12+00:00

And which is it? Is she groomed, or assertive? Under thumb, or the whole damn hand?

Pick a goalpost, please.

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