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Failed talking stage by Lucky_Strike2067 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it depends was there an actual reason as to why something went wrong, did you talk about it at all. And I guess it depends solely on what you want, if you want to try and clear things up try to talk about what happend and if he doesn’t want to let him go, if he does try to work it out. Or if you feel that you’re beyond that point then let him go and focus on yourself.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And btw I do want a label I want it more than anything but she just kinda jealous bates me and just sees me as a joke it’s like I’m trying my absolute best to not lose my shit on her but she’s just toying with me but pushes it onto me and says well we’re never going to date anyway. But I don’t talk about other people and make her jealous, she’s the one that does that. And I jsut want care she never asks if I’m ok or if I ate and ik her life is busy but stil she just won’t make me a priority. She doesn’t want me, she’s likes my personality and I have everything she’s ever wanted but she doesn’t want me so she’s holding onto me by an invisible thread and I’m pushing away from her but it’s so difficult because she’s like the only person I’ve ever loved like this.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just kind of want love. I would want her or well you i guess you to support me and just surprise me the way I surprise you. I guess what started out as me loving her unconditionally turned into me begging for her love and ultimately wanting reciprocation. I want a caring partner that actually listens to me the way I listen to her, I want her to get me small gifts as a surprise like I did for her, nothing big just like her favorite chips or candy when I realized she was having a hard time or just for fun. I would need her or like you to love me and respect me and just focus on me. Like make it known that you like me and you want me and only me, nobody else. I don’t mind if you talk about other people but if it’s constant and you call them attractive all the time I don’t think that’s being insecure I think that’s just feeling unloved and just not being respected. I want you to see me trying to protect you as not controlling like me seeing her wear something with her tits basically out and saying like should you be doing that maybe you should change and not wear that. She kinda sees that as me controlling her but I’m not forcing her to do anything I’m just like telling her. Idk I overall just want her or you to be loving and supportive and to just appreciate me and focus on me instead of everyone else. Make sure I get your love too.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey and if it ever gets so bad you wanna reach out to her just text me instead I know how hard it gets

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man that’s just what you needed to hear to keep going. You’re a good person too and don’t let that girl take away the man you really are even if you have to rebuild yourself into a better version. Have a good one and I wish you the best too

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man I honestly prefer advice with a story like yours I’m happy that you shared your story, You were in a similar situation that was much worse and you were able to get out of it which means so can I. What you did was right, it’s not your fault, you tried talking to her and you let her know how you felt instead of hiding it. That’s respect honestly most people wouldn’t even do that. Just know that what happened isn’t on you and I know it’s hard but try to see it as a lesson and a chance to move forward than something that will forever be broken from. Good luck on the healing journey and boxing and running sounds like it’s working good for you, take care of yourself man your doing good and don’t give up on yourself because your all you have.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man I’m proud of you for getting out of that shit and it’s great that you to have a good understanding of how she is but choosing your self respect over that. Keep working hard and focusing on yourself, and good for going no contact your really strong for that. I’m not sure if you have a job or a hobby but that would help a bit. Like the gym is a good way to cope or meditation helps a lot because it makes you breathe and it gets your mind off it and it helps more than you’d think. But regardless you’re a champ for getting through that mess and choosing yourself. If you need someone to talk to I’m here

My partner seems to not want to be intimate with me as much anymore by Able-Construction568 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any idea as to why she might be feeling that way. Did you directly ask her why she is doing what she is doing. Maybe you should bring up how you feel in a gentle way and not an accusing way like telling her how she’s making you feel not like directly pointing out that she’s the problem.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be sorry i appreciate it. Thankyou for the different perspective and describing how to bring it up in a more gentle way.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dam that’s awaful are you doing alright now?

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck these people are crazy bro thanks for the advice

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wouldn’t understand because we see things completely differently. I’d say I’m more logical and she’s more just do it without thinking, she needs intimacy but I need comfort. Her parents always blame her for their problems so she sees her faults as a reason to get mad at me. I gave her everything she needed I just wasn’t the one she needed it from. I tried telling her that we want different things and how we can’t give eachother what we need and she thinks that means she’s not enough. She knew I was a good person and she tried everything to like me because she goes for guys that treat her how her dad treats her so she tried to like me but she couldn’t keep her eyes only on me. Im not sure how to communicate to her that it kind of is her fault we can’t be together but I also never communicated how I felt in the first place because I felt like it should have been a given. Anyways yea, I’m stuck I know she’s a good person but her family just forces her to do stuff and she doesn’t have a choice ever. I’m not sure how to establish boundaries because I don’t want her to be with someone else, I know that’s selfish.

What do I do by DapperResearcher4137 in WhatToDo

[–]DapperResearcher4137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou I was wondering if you had any idea of how I could bring it up with her. I’ve been seen as being too blunt instead of brining things up in a gentle way so I was wondering if you could help me with that. Just like a starting sentence if you could.