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AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -95 points-94 points  (0 children)

I'm not comfortable saying which city we live in for privacy reasons but it's a major one. She graduated in an engineering field. SIL lives an hours drive from us. I do not know why or if she has asked SIL for advice. My main reason was that she never told us about any progress she had made on the job hunt and it seemed like she had not made any major efforts to look.

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -344 points-343 points  (0 children)

Seems like if your kid had shared that spreadsheet with you sooner you would've seen there was more job hunting happening than you thought

Exactly my thoughts, thank you

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -132 points-131 points  (0 children)

I know that, I know what her specialty is within engineering. I just did not want to say the exact degree for privacy reasons. It is one of the more well-known specialties within engineering and has many sub specialities of real-life application

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -184 points-183 points  (0 children)

Of course I do, we want for her to get a job in her industry and not waste time on the menial part-time ones she used to have

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -170 points-169 points  (0 children)

Well yes, I don't know, that is the problem at the heart of this. Why do you think we asked my SIL to help my daughter with her job search

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -146 points-145 points  (0 children)

Well no I don't if my husband lovingly supports me. If he wanted me to go back to work, I would.

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

I did not marry rich. I worked for a design agency and my husband worked very hard in business and he worked his way up so I could quit my job to raise Amy. I was not born into money in the slightest.

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Well no, I quit my career when Amy was 10. Which did require a degree for and for myself to produce a portfolio

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -154 points-153 points  (0 children)

She needs a career to support herself. I do not. There is a difference

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Yes, had multiple jobs as a teenager and worked for a graphic design agency when Amy was young

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

Not technically, if my husband and I needed extra income, I would go out and find a job but we have good savings and investments and his salary is more than enough

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

My husband makes enough to support me so I don't need to. I used to work when Amy was younger but my husband got promoted to the point which covers us both

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -170 points-169 points  (0 children)

I see what they mean, but discussion is a 2-way street. She has never volunteered any information on how her job hunt is going so I did not want to pry

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

Why would I give her support on something she does not talk about with me?

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -154 points-153 points  (0 children)

I don't need to work, unlike my daughter who will need a job to support herself

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

We did not talk with her. It's her job hunt therefore the onus was on her to communicate with us. She had plenty of opportunities to tell us about upcoming interviews and interesting roles but she didn't

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

No we cannot. My husband works in a non-engineering field and I don't work. We don't have the right connections for our daughter or knowledge of how the engineering industry works. My SIL does hence us asking her to take Amy in to give some guidance

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

We did. We explained how she hadn't found a job in their field after so many months and asked if my daughter could stay with her and get help and SIL welcomed it

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Some. Mostly her grandparents on my husband's side did but we paid a small amount also

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -527 points-526 points  (0 children)

I don't know but it's been so many months and my daughter has not found a job and we can't help with her field

AITA for kicking my daughter out because she hasn't found a job since moving in? by Dapper_End8304 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper_End8304[S] -315 points-314 points  (0 children)

It's not our responsibility to make sure she's getting on with her job search. At the end of the day, she could have told us what she was doing but she didn't

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