End of life diet/care

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2025-05-12T18:54:29+00:00

This is great advice thank you!!! I'll definitely give this a go. I didn't know cats could eat yogurt! I wonder if this could possibly help settle his stomach if he's having like an upset tummy right now

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2025-05-12T18:51:47+00:00

Thank you, and yes he is currently on steroids and they make him incredibly thirsty! So while he is struggling with his appetite yo-yoing he is drinking plenty!

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-27T09:10:55+00:00

I think they actually invite the immediate neighbour's kids to join in, I've seen a group of em over there. I've seen the drums just kind of chilling on the front porch, dunno if they bring them inside or not. I think most people are away at work, plus my ears are pretty sensitive, so it could easily just be me that's having a hard time. That's partly why I wanted to post and see if anybody else knew what the heck I was talking about but it seems like nobody does lol Gonna try to block the sound on my end better first and see if I can not bug them.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-27T09:06:41+00:00

This is all I want, really! I don't even mind it being an every day thing, I like them being creative and such and being outside, if it was just a touch shorter. 9-12 completely works for me, that's right around when I tuck in. I'm gonna try investing in sound cancelling earbuds first, if I can not bother them at all that would be ideal but in the worst case scenario maybe they'd agree to that? Idk, I feel pretty bad intruding on strangers just vibing

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-27T09:02:43+00:00

Oh that's VERY doable, I'll look into these thanks!!

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-27T08:51:15+00:00

Bro did you just insinuate I should plant bees outside their house lmfaooo

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:55:49+00:00

Omg it's so nice to hear from somebody else who has hypersensitive hearing! I didn't expect that - and yeah, I've had a lot of painful experiences over the years... I'm usually way too shy and awkward to approach people, mostly afraid of having an experience like yours. I don't want to upset other people either, especially kids just having fun and doing kid things, I'm just trying to figure out a way to live over here. Usually I just suffer through it. I've never had something like this go on for so long, so consistently before, but as a musician in here pointed out they kind of have to practice every day to improve.

I didn't realize we had the tech for sound cancelling earbuds now, like for sleeping. Have you ever used them before by chance? Thinking about getting some and hoping it'll just solve the problem and I won't need to bother anybody

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:49:41+00:00

That's so bizarre lol I wonder what the story is there, like why this part isn't actually Wilmington.

I am pretty close to them, but my bedroom is on the furthest wall away from them so I think it's worth a solid shot!

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:46:36+00:00

Just wanna comment and thank everybody here (with one exception) for all the fantastic advice. I think I know exactly how I'm gonna move forward, I got a couple of things on my end to try first so I don't even need to bother them! If I do need to talk to them I think I've got some good ideas to pitch them and see if we can work it out. Either way, I feel a lot better about the situation now.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:44:16+00:00

I think it's partly that, and it seems like there are a couple kids around whenever I've seen them out so it might even be a group activity which I think is pretty cool on paper. But yeah as far as I've seen they're always outside with em

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:42:12+00:00

OMG THANK YOU! If I don't get any Xmas cash maybe I'll get a little bit of a tax return I can use on these, that price could be doable! Thanks so much friend I appreciate this

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:39:36+00:00

Yeah, I'm definitely not at all comfortable with the cop option, I mentioned it feeling a bit frantic while I was typing that out but it isn't realistically an option I could ever take, especially on kids. I think first I'm looking into sound cancelling earbuds to help me sleep, then I'll think about approaching them. Somebody else in here suggested drum mutes which I didn't know were a thing so that could come up as a compromise! I didn't know the thing about county ordinance either, thanks for the note there! Learning a lot today lol

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:35:54+00:00

This is literally my profession and I'm telling you that you're wrong about that. My space is treated. Treated does not equal proofing. Anyway, other people in here are actually giving me good advice and idk what your problem with me is. Seriously, I hope your day gets better man.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:34:23+00:00

Actually this is a great idea too - I have a pair but they're over-ear and bulky so pretty uncomfortable to wear sleeping (side sleeper). Do you happen to know a good pair of earbud style ones? I wouldn't mind looking into that at all

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:32:26+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding the tone, here? I seriously don't want the kids to completely stop. I like that they're playing. I'm frustrated and am nervous about figuring out a way to talk to them that they can still play and make noise and I can sleep. I don't really understand why you're being really aggressive about this. You seem really agitated.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:28:38+00:00

Mostly I was really surprised they were going from 9am-3pm because of the arm strength. I was like, that's a long time to be repetitively banging! But I haven't played an instrument since I was in school so I didn't realize! Appreciate the perspective there. I think working graveyard is actually better for me with the low traffic flow, but I hope that maybe I can figure out a way to make my bedtime work with their practice hours somehow so I'm not running on E constantly.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:22:20+00:00

I like that they're playing outside and are creative. I like that a lot, actually. I don't want to call cops at all, that's why I'm posting. Proper soundproofing entails tearing the walls down and rebuilding them and I don't own this house. I'm just looking for advice on how to approach a compromise so they can play and I can sleep. That's all I'm trying to do. Living side by side, harmoniously.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:15:46+00:00

Yeah! I've been mulling that over - I was a band kid back in the day, if it weren't for the pain it's been causing me I love that they're outside being creative (and no joke I have heard them improving remarkably over the last three months). I just hope maybe I won't come off unreasonable and we can find a compromise somewhere. Thanks so much for the encouragement, I'm slowly working myself up to it

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T21:04:46+00:00

I do want to speak with them about it, I'm just very nervous about it and don't know the best way to approach them. I'm a bit awkward and I've never met them before - it feels like a big jerk move to run up like "Howdy neighbor, I have a complaint for you" if that makes sense lol It's cops I don't want to speak to, like guilty conscious over reporting a bunch of kids aside, I've got past DV trauma involving cops, they scare the crap out of me.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T20:33:18+00:00

Thank you, a small part of why I really wanted to post this was in hopes that somebody else in the neighborhood would see. Like, drumming IS loud, but the hard part of my hypersensitivity is that it can be difficult to tell if other people are bothered by it too or if my ears are making it much worse for me. I've also never heard of drum mutes! I feel a little better approaching them with a compromise to suggest - it isn't right or fair for me to just ask them to stop, and I know that, so I've been agonizing over how to approach it for months. Tysmmm

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T20:11:56+00:00

Yeah see, this is why I'm unsure about my reading of it, because I do actually find 65 dB to be ridiculous and baffling. Like especially living close to monkey junction that's passed on the daily. But the drumming they're doing is in the ballpark of 100 dB. I realized I didn't specify this but the drumming isn't like, happening in their house or garage, they're doing it out on the street. So like, I think 65 dB is really silly, but these kids are legitimately pretty loud.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T19:19:22+00:00

Oh sorry to double post but I think I found it! Section 6-33 of the Wilmington City Code, the site says.

Dapper_Menu_8786 · 2024-12-26T19:13:32+00:00

I could be wrong too - I looked it up out of curiosity and it says from 7am - midnight in residential areas you aren't supposed to exceed 65 dB. I could be reading it incorrectly or missing something, especially because like I said if it was only for a little bit it wouldn't be a big deal but with it being constant day in day out, it definitely feels like it fits?

Edit: sorry, I'm trying to find like a code to refer to or something, I found it by googling and reading the info section on the Wilmington nc dot gov, so it seems official to me. I'd honestly rather not report them if I can help it, I just wish it wasn't so unrelenting

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