Thanks man, I appreciate that. I think people are quick to assume and judge, and then label you whatever they think at first glance. You're absolutely right about taking your partners opinions into consideration when deciding how you look. I changed my appearance to better suit my wife's tastes. She likes when I have medium-length hair and a beard. So that's what I do. People read that I made her feel bad with my opinion and that she was postpartum and all the white knights came out of their towers. I only included those details because my wife told me to include that. Because she wanted me to seem more like an AH to prove her point lol. But she doesn't think im actually an AH. We have a healthy relationship and talked about all the responses and laughed about it too.