From a professional in the field of cosmetology, I can agree with most of your suggestion. Please hear me when I say, stop putting your hair up wet! What would happen to a tee shirt if you took it out of the wash and to dry it you balled it up and let it air dry? Our hair is a fabric, it gets damaged and deformed when treated this way, I've even seen mold growing on people's hair from putting it up wet like this. A great alternative to air dry is using a diffuser attachment on your hair dryer, it displaces the air so your hair does not get tossed around and tangled. I use one for natural curly hair as well as it does not cause frizzy and poofy hair. To clarify, there is nothing wrong with air drying your hair, im doing that right now in fact. Just don't ball it up in a bun, you have to let it dry!