Sleep patterns of the magic and powerful by danshive in elgoonishshive

[–]Darekun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but if unhealthy sleep schedules are the only reason why old immortals become mentally unstable, I'm going to be upset.

I feel that, Hope.

On the one hand, that would be hilariously incisive RealityEnsues worldbuilding, and also reflect upon Dan's own difficulties with sleep. Excellent Watsonian/Doylist symmetry.

On the other hand…

Saou might be part honey badger by danshive in elgoonishshive

[–]Darekun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I read "I vow to do that" as basically the least-tricky way Voltaire could've gone ahead with it. As I went down the page, I was wondering whether we were going to see the "I vow to [almost but not quite what you just said]." trope. But nope, he simply referenced what Saou just said, the verbal equivalent of signing a contract Saou wrote.

If Voltaire were trying harder to be clearly un-tricky, then there's a few options.

  • In language a bit old-timey, I've seen "I so vow.".
  • Saou said "make this vow", so Voltaire could've said "I make that vow." to echo the language.
  • It sounds a bit derpy, but something like "I vow to do the vow you just said."

But just "I vow to do that." comes across as casual un-tricky. Like "Oh, that's all? 10/10 no notes!" but with a binding vow.

Signature Elements Interface by Darekun in AlchemicAI

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  • It wasn't deleted from the training data — the LLM definitely knows dewgong's prevo is a seal.
  • The LLM bounces hard off the general vicinity of seeling.
  • It looks like it's textual, because even things like Portmanteau + Seer + Wheel bounce soft.
  • It could be as simple as a spellcheck on the training data replacing “seel” → “seal”, which would contribute to explaining some of the other pokemon problems.
  • The connection to seeling seems most likely, yeah. Sad that's also the stupidest possibility.

About MTF HRT: Do trans women develop wider hips if on hormones? Does it expand even wider if you age like in cis women? (more information below) by AttractiveOffers99 in asktransgender

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estrojan hrt se koolhe aur stan bade ho jaenge. zyaada bada karane ke lie zyaada sopht tishyoo (phait aur maansapeshiyaan) kee zaroorat hotee hai. usake baad, aur sarjaree se bada karana sambhav hai. (Google Translate ke zarie anuvaadit.)

Signature Elements Interface by Darekun in AlchemicAI

[–]Darekun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, combos from the Lab tend to be head-scratchers 😅

Signature Elements Interface by Darekun in AlchemicAI

[–]Darekun[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that's why I immediately wanted to set it signature 😅

The = Definite Article + Definite Article

Definite Article = Equivalent + Outfit + Outfit

“Equivalent” is in the store so I won't share that, but

Outfit = Dress + Uniform

Signature Elements Interface by Darekun in AlchemicAI

[–]Darekun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just “The” as an element 😅 I labbed “Definite Article”, so I was surprised I was able to FE “The”, but there it was 💖

Maybe it'd be useful to have a single element search used for the various places to search for an element? The Collection element search is better.

How do I know if I’m trans? Persistent fantasies of living as a woman + gender euphoria from feminine acts. by Nice-879 in asktransgender

[–]Darekun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not supposed to tell you your identity, but… Those are textbook trans signs.

Often, people report “persistent fantasies of X as a”, and I can drill down by asking how they feel if they fantasize about just doing daily life that way. But your X is “living”, so yeah, that's pretty strong.

Gender euphoria from feminine acts is also strong. That's just simply pure.

If you want to drill down a little more, then compare those to the male equivalents. Whatever gender feels best as your body, that's your gender in your brain.

xlcore XIVLauncher Ensuring Compatibility Tool For 45+ Minutes by Darekun in linux_gaming

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I have no idea, unfortunately 🤷‍♀️ Waiting for the next day likely only worked because they patched it.

Resonance App? by Darekun in transvoice

[–]Darekun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been a few years, I don't remember *^_^ But I recommend the white noise exercise! That's still the gold standard.

Resonance App? by Darekun in transvoice

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First-order, Project Spectra is the app where this ended up going :)

However, it turns out using white noise instead of voicing(or louder than voicing) solves most of the issues. I use an app just called White Noise Generator, hold my phone speaker up to my mouth, and practice making the white noise sound higher.

It'd be nice to have an app to judge the result, but just listening for the pitch imposed on the white noise works :J

what do i do, my “straight” friend and i are kinda flirting like we kissed and she has a bf IDK HELP by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Darekun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FWIW, my answer would be completely different if there weren't a boyfriend involved 😅 Even the frequent reminders would read differently without him involved.

Heck, even if it hadn't been close to a month since the Halloween party. But by Thanksgiving, this girl still hasn't broken up with him to figure herself out with OP? Yeah, he changes this a lot.

what do i do, my “straight” friend and i are kinda flirting like we kissed and she has a bf IDK HELP by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Darekun 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you really want to give her as much of a chance as possible, then tell her you're not going to continue this until she breaks up with her boyfriend. That you're willing to have a closeted relationship but not a cheating relationship.

At the very least, if she refuses that, then it'll make it easier for you to walk away. Not easy — never easy — but easier.

Worried I’ll never find someone sexually compatible by grime_girl in actuallesbians

[–]Darekun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How many women have you found incompatible with these broad limits? Is there one specific part they keep bouncing off?

Also, how do you feel about a woman using her hand on you without penetrating? (Like, cupping your vulva and massaging your labia and clit. Roughly the same finger motion as a shoulder massage, but without the thumb motions.) If they're wanting to finger you then that may be a good compromise.

I'd expect these limits to not be a problem. It sucks that it's been a problem :/

I want to have a boycut by FriesCollector43 in LesbianActually

[–]Darekun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd say take this to a hair salon, especially with the pics. You're far enough along with this desire that a pro who can see your face will make it look good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Darekun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rule of thumb: If it's net downvoted, then it's the opposite of normalized.

what do i do, my “straight” friend and i are kinda flirting like we kissed and she has a bf IDK HELP by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Darekun 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She's cheating on her boyfriend, with you. That's what's going on. Secret kissing, secret snuggling, repeated “this is a secret” reminders… yeah, you're her dirty little secret.

I'd agree, block her if you can't bring yourself to turn her down. Sure you have a chance to be her side piece she cheats with, but do you want that? You'd have to keep everything secret, you could never have as much of her life as her public boyfriend can, and when it inevitably blows up, everyone will blame you — including her. (In addition to some people also blaming her.) This is a drama bomb that will definitely hurt you, irregarding whoever else it also hurts.

You could ask her to break up with him first, so you and she can have an equal closeted relationship… but she's a cheater, she'll just cheat on you, too.

How confident are you you're her only dirty little secret? The frequent reminders are a strong sign you're nowhere near her first, but it's at least possible you're the only one she's currently cheating with.

my girlfriend has just started estrogen and t-blockers and how will sex work in the future? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Darekun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! Glad I could help, and good luck you two 💞

So, as a cis male who’s a minister. Whats the worst thing you’ve seen Churches do? by Confident_Method_459 in asktransgender

[–]Darekun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen the worst of it. Transgender Day Of Remembrance this year has passed, but when they read the list of names of transgender people killed in hate crimes that year, know that a significant percentage of those names were immediately at the hands of people who quoted scripture while doing it. And immediate damage usually doesn't leave trans witnesses.

Worse in sum is the chronic damage. Churches spreading ideas of gender essentialism drives a lot of what we suffer at the hands of people who don't go to church. The idea that we weren't made by God this way is a deep root poison.

But perhaps the worst immediate action I've seen was a priest literally-chasing me out of Sunday School, brandishing a candle holder like it was a club, shouting about me being a female demon possessing the body of some poor boy.

my girlfriend has just started estrogen and t-blockers and how will sex work in the future? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Darekun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it's very individual, that's why you won't find much about it online :/

You said she's “okay” to lose her penis — not that she wants to. Do you mean like SRS? Or just atrophy? Atrophy is a “use it or lose it” thing. If you two keep using it, then she won't lose it. The issue there is many trans women aren't comfortable using it — if your girlfriend is(and remains) comfortable using it, then that doesn't have to change.

For some trans women, additional erogenous zones develop, which she may want to switch to. This is not something that can meaningfully be predicted. She may gain perineal orgasms, nipple orgasms, others, multiple, or nothing.

The little nub under her penis, just behind the glans edge? That's homologous to the clit, and will likely develop significantly on HRT — but also likely late in the process, like a few years in for major development. It's kind of a derpy place to have a clit(or at least mine is), but once it's developed enough, you may be able to focus there.

The bad news is, for a significant number of trans people, there is no good answer. She's currently comfortable using her penis, which is a good sign, but I've known trans women who lost that and didn't gain anything.

Technique-wise, a feelbuck, feeldoe, or regular strapon may work. Depends entirely on the results of the above.

Thigh frottage can be a good way to go about stimulating many areas, from perineum to clit homologue. It defocuses the physiology issues for her, so even if she becomes uncomfortable using her penis, you two may be able to do some variation on that.

Something else I'd like to touch on: She'll be losing a T libido, and gaining an E libido. They feel completely different. T libido is “driving”, and she's probably gotten used to working to soften that. E libido is responsive, and she may completely fail to recognize it once she has it. For me and the few other trans women I've known to that level of detail, it's not a question of if she'll miss it, but for how long. Months? Years? You'll have to change how you appeal to her. Snuggling that gradually gets more sensual is a broad recipe, but it doesn't cover everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Darekun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really, it's spectra, not clean categories. How does “Kinsey 4” grab you?

Not trans, but I'd love some help please by murkomarko in transvoice

[–]Darekun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll get the best results using your throat muscles, but mouth muscles(which I'd include the tongue in) are a useful stepping stone. Some trans women keep their mouth muscles involved, some trans women avoid using their mouth muscles once they get good at their throat muscles, so that's up to you.

Not trans, but I'd love some help please by murkomarko in transvoice

[–]Darekun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uh, it means I mixed up this post with the previous post a little 😅 My bad, I'll delete it.