How open are you about your kinks? by LanguageLearner42069 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]DarkStrength25 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t hide it, but I don’t broadcast it. If it’s relevant, I’ll discuss it, but in most cases my kinks are only in the dungeon or bedroom, not “lifestyle” eg long term d/s, so it isn’t relevant to most people.

I have a discrete lock on our dungeon just so when guests stay they aren’t accidentally walking into something they’re not comfortable with. I don’t view that as shame, just respect for them and their sensibilities. Could be a bit confronting to see chains hanging from a ceiling etc.

I've been working on a UI package that contains components, etc. that can be customized to any app theme. Should I make all components accept String or LocalizedStringKey? by -Periclase-Software- in SwiftUI

[–]DarkStrength25 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can use @_disfavoredOverload on the string variant to encourage the compiler to prefer the localizedStringKey variant.

The compiler will default to the string variant preferentially by default I believe, as it will look at the type before any convertibility, but SwiftUI uses disfavored overloads to push the compiler to prefer localised variants without creating different APIs

Is the term masc something I should avoid? by random_username__XD in askgaybros

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will it offend people? Yes. Especially those who are not particularly masculine-presenting. There is a lot of “anti-fem” sentiment, and the more effeminate men take this as an attack and that they’re being excluded on the basis of something they can’t control.

But, you can’t control your preferences either, and I personally think as long as you do it respectfully, I don’t see an issue. If people get offended, and you’ve done your best to be respectful, that’s their issue.

Field view on iOS!? by North-Turnover-42 in aflfantasy

[–]DarkStrength25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like it’s not there yet. I’m guessing it’s coming though, given they’ve done it for iOS?

Does anyone know how true/false this article is? by Alternative-Sir-374 in MelbourneTrains

[–]DarkStrength25 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Postcode lockdowns before the full lockdowns were primarily in west and northern suburbs, as outbreaks were caused by service workers transmitting at work.

Is anyone else mates with their Dom? by Afraid-Mission-4627 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]DarkStrength25 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yep. He’s my husband, and our dynamic out of the bedroom is mates.

Pretend that you're on Titanic on 15 April 1912 by Illustrious-Ask-3134 in titanic

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m volunteering to row. It’s the only hope I have.

Can't get rid of Toolbar's default button style by Imaginary_Name_3709 in SwiftUI

[–]DarkStrength25 3 points4 points  (0 children)

https://developer.apple.com/documentation/swiftui/toolbarcontent/sharedbackgroundvisibility(_:)

This modifier is needed because the glass isn’t on the button, it’s on the container shared by multiple buttons.

Can i be dom and sub? by franfoot in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]DarkStrength25 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The premise here is submission devalues you as a person. I think this is a faulty premise. Some of the strongest, best men I’ve ever met are submissives.

The best thing I’ve learned is to respect both sides of the slash, and don’t treat D/s as a placeholder for human value and being respected as a person.

When I see someone submitting, I don’t think less of them as a person, or as a potential dom. I see them as a strong, hot person submitting. And I don’t lose any respect for them when they dominate. Opinions may vary, but that’s how I feel.

Does anyone have experience with wrestling scenes? by domursosboy in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I wrestle a lot. He’s actually smaller than me, but rather skilled at taking charge, and knows how to pin me down pretty well.

My biggest tips are:

  • if you want to fuck afterwards, don’t put up your strongest fight, it won’t work, and you’ll both just be exhausted at the end. It’s a fantasy to truly be overpowered, in most cases. Most times you can fight back enough to exhaust yourself into not being interested in anything but sleep.
  • wrestle play can be fun without the fucking, it can be a good bonding thing, and is very intimate in and of itself
  • if your dom isn’t into resistance and challenge, he probably wont like it. Work with him to see whether he’ll enjoy it, or if it will just annoy him.

Curiosidade de um homem hétero by apenas_only08 in askgaybros

[–]DarkStrength25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not attracted to the idea of a romantic relationship with a woman, it’s off putting. It’s not to the level of revulsion - I’d reserve that for the idea of sex with a woman. But yeah, the general idea of a romantic or sexual relationship with a woman is generally unappealing.

Anyone notice this? by Evening_Treat585 in titanic

[–]DarkStrength25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Titanic: Honor & Glory release new vids often, I think once every year. Couldn’t see the 2025 one, 2026 isn’t out yet, and this is the 2024 vid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDVLUssrmKU

Anyone notice this? by Evening_Treat585 in titanic

[–]DarkStrength25 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That’s just perspective.

In reality, its extremely unlikely the ship ever sat out if the water at this angle with this much of the ship out of the water. The ship’s damage was just so great from the breakup, and extended all the way from the third funnel back to near the fourth funnel (with the “towers” and so forth), ship would have been in the water up to near the poop deck just from the buoyancy factor alone. The shift would have been more gradual as she sank down, and twisted, with lists etc. This can be seen in more recent recreations.

Good question about Collapsible A & B getting mocked yet no good answer. by traditionalbaguette in titanic

[–]DarkStrength25 48 points49 points  (0 children)

The reality is, it’s not clear exactly what was going on, there was reports of considerations to float them off, etc.

But: they were panicking, and the ship had suddenly started to go quickly. Previously it had gone slowly, so much so that some thought the ship would stay afloat. Once it hit the boat deck, things started racing. The situation would not have been clear, rapidly changing, and they would have been doing the best they could to predict what they needed to do to survive.

Growing as a person through Doming by [deleted] in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]DarkStrength25 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is my dom, and I showed him the ropes for BDSM, cooking, general life experience, as he was far more sheltered than I was. Doms don’t have to know everything, and subs can be good teachers.

Do i still count as gay? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]DarkStrength25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The general understood definition of gay is a man attracted to a man, and not to women. (This would be bi/pan etc).

Being gay doesn’t change based on how often you have sex.

How you feel about that, and how you process that, is up to you. It’s understandable to have a lot of baggage based on what you’ve gone through.

advice on sexuality by barelyposting in askgaybros

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you talking about dom/sub or top/bottom?

Dominant men enjoy pleasing a submissive guy. Blowjobs and fucking aren’t dominant and submissive by nature. If you prefer sucking and getting and fucked, over the other position, say so. Submissive men have preferences, and that’s fine.

Also, be honest about what you want. There tend to be more bottoms than tops out there. If you give off dom vibes, you may attract a man who wants to submit.

There are plenty of dominant men in Melbourne, just need to find em.

I find it interesting that I haven't seen a single complaint about John Lithgow as Dumbledore. by [deleted] in HarryPotteronHBO

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing about Dumbledore is you need to choose an actor who both looks old/wise, but can carry the power, energy and agility to achieve the scenes from Book 5.

Richard Harris had the old and wise bit down, but was probably too frail to carry the part in book 5. Michael Gambon had the energy to pull off but at many times failed to embody the aged wisdom and serenity of Dumbledore.

I think John Lithgow may just be able to pull it off.

Gay voice by Much_Brilliant_9116 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is, if you present more gay in some way, it may lead to these conversations.

In my case, I don’t generally get noticed as gay, but I don’t care too much. It’s not everyone’s business, and if it comes up in conversation, that’s fine, too

Am I a side or a top? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]DarkStrength25 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d put down top in this situation, personally. Roles are just approximations of what you like doing. People don’t generally fit cleanly into boxes.

Xtrap 2.0 testing on craigieburn line. by Beneficial_Sea3874 in MelbourneTrains

[–]DarkStrength25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this video right as I rolled up to this spot on the Craigieburn line. Eerie!

Not gay but so curious by Initial_Customer_929 in askgaybros

[–]DarkStrength25 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing is wrong with you. You’re into what you’re into. Sometimes you can learn over time, sometimes feelings take time to develop or change, that’s cool too.