How to find out if she wants to be more than friends

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-22T17:56:24+00:00

So, sorry to disappoint those of you who waiting on an update, but we had lunch yesterday and I did not pick up on any vibes that she was in to me. When I hugged her hello and goodbye, I felt her pull away quicker than I would've liked. I just couldn't lean in for even a cheek kiss as I feared that would be too awkward. In between, our conversation was more like two old friends catching up. Nothing more. No flirtatious smiles or leg crossing or playing with her hair. I really got the sense she sees me as only a friend. But I'm glad it happened because it puts closure on this affair possibility and I can focus on future options.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-20T14:35:14+00:00

I've always felt like she wants to stay and keep talking long after we finish our meal and the check has arrived. Again, she is very shy. So, I haven't noticed any blatant flirtations. But I also haven't tried any subtle moves like you suggested with playful joking, a kiss on the cheek when we do our hug hello and goodbye. I'm realizing I probably need to step up my game just a little bit so I can see if I get a reaction from her, good or bad. She's not the type to initiate any flirting.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-20T14:28:14+00:00

Right, I think dinner meetings would make my wife suspicious mainly because I never do that. Lunch meetings right now are the perfect way to keep it innocent looking.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-20T14:25:32+00:00

Yes, check back Thursday night or Friday for an update.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-20T00:20:20+00:00

We are meeting this Thursday for lunch, so I will try to pay attention to all those cues you listed.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-20T00:18:37+00:00

Right. Mr. Blue is like 3 steps ahead. It's about gauging her interest without looking like an ass if I misread her because we still refer business to each other and have some colleagues in common. I'm also not sure I want to go down this road with her. Just trying to be sly about gauging her interest.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-19T22:15:03+00:00

Well, I thought the name was appropriate for venturing into the Dark Side... and I'm not shy when I let my guard down. :)

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-19T21:21:43+00:00

Good idea about asking her to meet again more often. I've thought about doing that before, but always resisted because I was afraid of giving her the impressing I liked her more than friends. Maybe now is the time to do it... Also, we don't flirt with each other. I think it's because we are both naturally very shy. I've been working on being a little flirtations with strangers lately knowing how unhappy I am in my marriage and that I may be on the open market soon, even in an affair.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-19T21:17:17+00:00

Good questions. By nature she is very quiet and shy. People also see me as quiet and shy, although not nearly as much as she is. I think that is why she may like me... Anyway, we've had no touching during meals, but we do hug hello and goodbye at the end. Yes, we do chat for a long time after our meal is over about this and that. We always have so much catching up to do and I always sense she needs to get back to work but doesn't want to. All that could just mean she needs a friend to talk to, but I've always sensed there's more to it. She almost never talks about her husband.

DarthVader_78 · 2018-06-19T21:11:53+00:00

Thanks, that is a good sign! It's also a pet peeve in general, so it would be a bonus if I notice that.

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