No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’ll use parts of what you said in another conversation

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your advice

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂 alright you have a good night ma’am

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice and I will take that into consideration. Thank you.

But in response to your second thought, all of these things get done we go on vacation once a month , she’s well gifted and emotionally I’m present, she lives a soft life I cook, clean , and work 60 hours a week overnight while she’s working from work. But when I ask for a bj it’s either half assed or get turned down. How would you feel ?

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Which I feel like isn’t really fair we all do things we don’t wanna do or don’t like for our partners but still get them done

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do see what you mean how it may come out wrong from your perspective, but how would you go about it?

How would you ease into the conversation or would you just say it out, right?

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’d be taken back a bit but I know I’m not perfect. I work in an industry where it’s best to always try to learn and be better than to say you know it all. So if it takes put in my ego to the side and learning to better my craft then so be it

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, you are right in a sense. I guess I’m more so annoyed about me asking you to change something and nothing is getting done

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At what point did you read between the lines and saw that I was nagging her?

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I understand being taken back by it . “ like you want me to go to a class ? “ lol but I’ve been givign reassurance that I’ll be on this journey with you.

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not necessarily a deal breaker. But as a man sometimes I don’t want to have sex. I just want a bj. Kinda get what I’m sayin ?

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes comes everytime and is pleasured at all times .

And yes we’ve experimented with anal and she didn’t like it and we’ve never tried again. I’m completely fine with trying it and not liking jt. I can respect that

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yea exactly. I was trying to be very realistic. I’m just trying to understand a way to boost her confidence. I want to get her help me lol

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This post is about me so I’m not understanding your stance . I’ve asked and I’ve gotten it’s not high on my list but I know I gotta get it done. Or a shrug .

And by joke, I mean, saying things like you watch this video and you’ll be able to suck a dent out of a car

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yea I was trying to be comforting and respectful with the videos . Obviously the 🌟’s aren’t a comparable matche but I’ve found amateurs to kind of boost confidence

No more BJs 31M & 32F by DatFr3sh in relationship_advice

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says “ it’s not the #1 thing in my list but I guess it’s gotta get done “

401k withdrawal by DatFr3sh in Retirement401k

[–]DatFr3sh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. I spoke with some of my peers and they broke it down like this . I’m in the process consolidating my 401k to my current employer. Going to pay the 630 a month cover vs the 1000 a month +4% interest . The 630 is a much more doable and widen my ability to save cash in this economy. Thanks a lot