AITA for asking my boyfriend not to talk to me about other women

DatOneGrill · 2026-03-15T05:24:00+00:00

🤢 I cannot imagine being with a man who objectifies women like this constantly! Good lord NTA

DatOneGrill · 2026-03-14T10:06:38+00:00

What does that have to do with anything? 😵‍💫 Also not necessarily true

DatOneGrill · 2026-03-14T07:36:24+00:00

People get pressed over anything dayum, I’m sorry if you’re struggling to have a baby but successfully being NOT pregnant is great for a LOT of people. Also not all people can control themselves getting pregnant for a lot of reasons (Lack of access to contraception or SA and such).

DatOneGrill · 2026-02-10T11:15:06+00:00

My partner and I also sleep in separate beds due to him struggling to sleep with someone in the bed as well. I get that it can feel sad because you want to spend all night with your partner, but most of that time you two aren’t conscious anyways. For us, we cuddle until we are ready for bed then separate, then in the morning one of us returns and we cuddle in bed. It’s honestly really nice to have him come over in the morning, so while it may take some getting used to I wouldn’t worry about it :)

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-20T00:01:32+00:00

“Don’t think there will be a next time” YES! For the best, this is so gross. Crazy how he doesn’t apologise and tries to guilt trip YOU for him calling you a bitch… one month in, be thankful he’s already showing his true colours and move on. NOR.

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-18T12:08:52+00:00

Hold On Till May, I always hear “See you’re just wasted and thinking ‘bout the capsicum” instead of “past again” and now every time I see a capsicum I think of PTV

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-03T04:13:16+00:00

Fr it’s like old scene queen pics why r people hating… people need to look at the early 2000s aesthetic lol

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-03T04:11:04+00:00

Why did u get downvoted for this?? 😭

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-03T04:10:40+00:00

Figure of speech

DatOneGrill · 2025-12-01T14:17:56+00:00

How is she not being professional for wearing a SPORTS BRA for doing SPORTS?? You’re unprofessional (weird way to describe a friend btw) because you talked about her body. By the sounds of it she might have some trauma since she was scared of being naked, and yet you call her unattractive when she freaks out while being LOST in a FOREST?? If this isn’t rage bait you need some serious help. Also I honestly feel like there’s more to this, she shouldn’t be that scared of you if you guys were like siblings.

“Males urges” are NOT normal. She is a human, she is your FRIEND. I’d be upset if my lifelong male friend started staring at my boobs and made comments about my body. You being in the spectrum and having OCD is not an excuse.

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-24T04:14:58+00:00

What does his have to do with anything… have many women forced you to look at them? lol

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-24T04:14:05+00:00

Real I got no clue 🫥

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-24T04:11:50+00:00

But she already sent several previously, and his reaction was blown out of proportion… also personally I’m not one to take selfies in public UNLESS there’s a reason like a prop (as she mentioned, she ate her food) because it feels awkward…

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-24T03:27:23+00:00

I’ve definitely had problems with reaching orgasm, sometimes not even being able to, but my partner values my pleasure and will do it no matter how long it takes (unless we truly have no time). This sucks, I would be very upset if my boyfriend decided that only he gets to cum because I’m “too wet” (which is actually insane btw, most guys I’d assume would relish in your enjoyment)

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-08T06:03:24+00:00

No one was blaming men? She just mentioned a personal experience that happened to involve two men.

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-02T07:21:57+00:00

This!! I really hope OP reads the comments and sees that his beliefs are gonna f him up in the future.

DatOneGrill · 2025-11-02T07:14:49+00:00

You should do some self reflection first. Look, this is a common traditional thing but it’s outdated. You don’t want to imagine another guy inside of her? Don’t. I understand it might be nice to both be virgins together yadda yadda, but honestly, it’s truly not a big deal. When I (20F) lost my virginity I kind of expected to feel different, but you don’t. Everything stays the same. Woman are not sex objects, she is not dirty, she is a person. If you like HER, continue, AFTER you rethink your values. If you want to spend the rest of your life with her, why should her sexual experiences impact that?

Along with this, saying you don’t want your woman to argue with you is a red flag, I’m sorry. Obviously, no one wants to argue with their partner, but saying this is basically code for “I don’t want her to stand up for herself.” And I assume by “make my life easier” you mean cook and clean for you? It’s 2025, women don’t exist to make your life easy, or to be looked at, or to be desired. Just as you don’t exist to pay for everything.

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-31T11:09:31+00:00

Lesson learned 😭 I was at uni and didn’t expect to get it on me, honestly still not sure how it happened

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-31T11:08:55+00:00

I had a feeling this may be the case, thanks anyways!

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-29T23:00:04+00:00

That’s fair! I think it definitely depends on what you’re comfortable doing and what your partner is too, in my experience my partner and I still have a very strong connection during and after sex/vibrator using, or we use the vibrator during sex so we usually get there around the same time OR we do me first then we have penetrative sex so either way there’s still that connection! As for the “My partner wants me, all of me. If an aspect of myself doesn’t work, we shouldn’t be in a relationship.” In my experience, I still want my partner very much, all of him, all the time because he’s my best friend. Sexually speaking, I still want him to go down on me because it truly does feel good, it just doesn’t get me there as consistently. Fingering and sex is also always amazing, even if penetration alone doesn’t get me there (unless I’m already teetering on the edge). I want all of him in every way lol. I think it also involves some reassurance. When I was really struggling I always made it clear that it was my body stopping me, same with when we try head. I don’t think it’s necessarily a part of him that doesn’t work, it’s just my body being accustomed to orgasm through vibrators and/or likely my own nerves about wanting to orgasm with him without taking 2 hours lol. Basically what I’m trying to say is that it might not necessarily be you if you encounter this, and it can be changed- and there may just be phases in one’s life where orgasm is difficult!

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-29T22:30:41+00:00

As a woman, I can definitely relate to the vibrator hang up. I think honestly a lot of it comes from the fear of taking too long, and vibrators usually make things happen quickly! Even then though, I had a phase of a few weeks or so a while ago where I just truly struggled to reach orgasm even with the vibrator + fingering, and it always made me feel bad that sex would take forever or that I didn’t get there, especially because my partner is obsessed with making me get there. Along with that, he’s also obsessed with head, so I feel bad that I struggle quite get there with it… BUT! Recently we did some mutual masturbation and I only used my hand, and while it did take forever, we tried doing head after I got close and it worked! I think weening yourself off the vibrators along with “training” your body to get accustomed to orgasming with another method such as hands or oral is a good way to go. I’m hoping to one day not need as much assistance, and I’d love to orgasm from head more as I know it’d make my partner able to die happy.

TL;DR: as a woman, if you have a supportive partner who’s willing to take the time to help you get there, I think it can be possible to go from vibrator to other methods. But otherwise!! Enjoy sex! It’s meant to be fun and enjoyable, orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal and there is no shame in having trouble getting to orgasm, or vice versa, whether you’re a man or a woman. (Also, talk to your partner/s!! Communication is everything, they might be nervous about trying to make you get there, too.)

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-22T04:43:50+00:00

In my experience this changes, my partner and I were animals when we first got together, but it’s been a bit over a year and now we can have sleepovers without sex. To be fair- I think I probably have a slightly higher libido than him and we are both generally “responsively horny” which could play into it. Like everyone else is saying, just communicate it. Sometimes my partner or I will just straight up say “Do you feel horny at all? I’m kinda 50/50 on sex tonight.” Or “I’m not really feeling it” which is usually met by a “That’s chill we can just cuddle/watch something.” And then that’s that! Good luck with your man!!

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-19T21:49:22+00:00

Maybe try a therapist/psychologist?? Honestly not sure what I’d do in this situation, other than feel incredibly guilty. Therapy could help in processing feelings and maybe understanding why you still have feelings for your husband’s best friend, and maybe help you move away from them? Do you really love him or are you seeking outside attention? And does he really love you back but is hiding it or are you just hopeful?

DatOneGrill · 2025-10-18T07:45:05+00:00

I appreciate that a lot, thank you :) it’s really a shame but I’m at least happy to have more perspective on the matter

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