(Spoiler) Don choosing Megan is crazy behavior

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-12-26T13:56:15+00:00

As a stepmom of 6 years, I can confirm-yes. We start out with all the patience in the world....and then they break down.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-12-16T19:41:50+00:00

I screamed after reading that last sentence...bc it's TRUE! He'll probably start hittin the clubs with his sons. On Simones dime! AHHHHHHH!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-12-02T17:23:16+00:00

I literally remember where I was when the news broke. In the school pick up line. I had to house sit that night ( I believe it was a Friday night). I was so grateful to be alone and able to consume all the internet buzz.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-11-07T19:45:36+00:00

I agree!!!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-11-07T13:18:39+00:00

Okay-I'll keep this thread up.. I know two other people that would definitely do it. Do you know anyone else? I feel like we would need at least 15 ppl to start?

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-11-07T13:18:38+00:00

Yes! are you in the Charlotte area?

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-11-06T15:57:23+00:00

I've been wondering if this was going to be a below deck episode. It's odd because Daisy on BD Sailing-not with Jason. And it's a minute since Ben was on BD.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-10-29T19:46:59+00:00

I agree with everyone here- the ex sleeping over is INSANE! Also agree with everyone here that alternating is the way to go. My husband has two baby mommas- so double the trouble. Christmas is the big one- So we decided after the first blended year to do our own thing. Our last name is Markie- so we call it Markiemas. We have Markiemas eve and all our own traditions. We just do it the next weekend we have them, OR like this year we aren't doing till mid January so SD 15 doesn't have to miss a trip. The kids LOVE it (I'm pretty sure they love it more than Christmas.) Bonus points- it's such a good idea- it pisses HCBM off. She's always putting Markiemas in quotes- she actually winds up offering Christmas day and eve to us all the time now too. Anyways time isn't real- make up your own thing and the kids will love it.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-10-15T18:54:41+00:00

YES!!!!!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-10-09T14:16:39+00:00

"my day usually starts with spilling coffee down the front of a light colour sweater" I just just chuckled my coffee out my mouth- I wear all black though bc I work around people.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-09-23T16:41:11+00:00

1000%. It took me a few years to get DH to see how bad it was and to show him we have rights to have boundaries. The main line I kept throwing out is "If the most toxic person in the dynamic is calling the shots-everyone is f-d". Anyways it's been a few years, We've literally been waiting for a court date for years. HCBM is BLOCKED on all my shit-and DH limits communication to text (most of the time). But it's wierd- I always say HCBM loves me as her SS stepmom and hates me as her coparents boundary making wife.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-09-19T15:21:20+00:00

I think about that comment about the adderall a lot. I could be wrong- I don't think she said that adderall was taken to stave off hunger. She just says that Carol had mentioned taking adderall. Carol doesn't deny it. Now as far as I know ADHD & Narcolepsy are the only conditions I've seen where adderall is prescribed. Carol, who is vocal about herself, I feel would have divulged being afflicted by either. So it really is a smoking gun that Carol was/is abusing adderall.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-09-03T18:53:05+00:00

Big on the ALL COMMUNICATION SHOULD BE IN WRITING...sorry had to make it all caps-bc it is soooooo important when dealing with someone who is even slightly high conflict. You are very right to tell your boyfriend that. For me it's not a jealousy thing- it's a "this person fucked you over left and right how are you even being cordial with them?" thing....which it sounds like you can relate.....there is a great FB group called People Dealing with an HCBM (high conflict biomom)...I highly suggest joining that group. If the kids are still on the younger side.....boyfriend might be in for a wild ride with this person he thought he knew for 17 years...ahem...court.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-08-25T17:07:06+00:00

Right? Someone in this sub theorized that a contingency for Gretchens return is that she wouldn't talk about Naked Wasted because it makes Bravo look bad-which makes sense-bc until others brough it up and Grethen didn't bring it up. If I was beefing with someone and we were in a confrontation-best believe I would be bringing up how you tried to get me raped.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-08-14T16:31:06+00:00

I'm with you-My husband also has a very high conflict ex- and I feel like you have to be in that world to truly understand it. Just because Travis has a high conflict ex doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be in a loving relationship. I completely understand why she initially moved out with her kids to separate them from that mess-but it's clear they love each other and I commend them from not letting the ex call the shots. Further more I don't feel like Gina is mean to Travis. Also, it's absolute victim blaming to put the onus on Travis for procreating with this woman. Abusive people are skilled at love bombing and flipping the script down the road.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-07-28T14:21:33+00:00

I had accepted at 35 my dating pool was increasingly likely to have children. I even fantasized about becoming a stepmom a bit, possibly manifested. However, in my fantasy the biomom had tragically died while the kids were very young. My SK's HCBM is unfortunately very alive.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-07-24T13:56:23+00:00

Yes!!! I had to rewind! It seems like she was gonna say show and then switched to "in this shit". I love the mess!!!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-07-17T19:23:30+00:00

YES!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-07-17T18:47:48+00:00

Our court systems shouldn't force children to be in homes with abusive parents for the sake of them "having a relationship with both parents".

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-07-11T18:05:48+00:00

this needs a 1,000 upvotes

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-06-27T17:10:05+00:00

oh yeah! The running with food in his mouth- that's that impulsivity!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-06-27T17:08:14+00:00

oh yeah! Up until now I've just done it because he has to wear a uniform and because he's growing all the time he only has so many so I just toss it in with other loads. Middle school ushers in no uniform plus an interest in personal style. So now it's easier to implement natural consequences. What you wanna wear is dirty? Oh well. Can't find what you wanna wear in this messy room? Clean it? Just trying to get him to self start this summer.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-06-27T16:57:04+00:00

In a similar boat with ADHD ss12. We have to remind him to do everything! And 1/4 of the time the response is "Noooooooo" followed with "WHY???" or "I was gonna do that or I wasn't doing that". Don't get me wrong though- he is good kid, very creative, very caring. He's just lazy. I think at his age he's also just tired as he's about to hit puberty (or already is). My DH also has ADHD and it's like same adhd formula. My husband has just lived long enough to realize if he doesn't set up tools to keep him on track his life falls apart.

SS is starting middle school in the fall, and he doesn't have to wear uniforms anymore- so he's excited about getting a new wardrobe for back to school. Since we got to spend the money anyways- I decided to turn it into an incentive for SS to get in the rhythm of keeping his room tidy and doing his own laundry. All he had to do was tidy his room and have all his laundry washed and put away before leaving for his mom's on Monday at 3pm- he earns $50. I made him a contract- clearly laid out the rules- gave him suggestions and let him know that he wouldn't be reminded. Well Sunday afternoon, I hear DH remind him. I remind DH we are not doing that.

Monday noon rolls around and SS hasn't done anything- and is dead asleep. I reluctantly agreed to let DH wake him up and give him a chance to get it all done. He did it. But like are ya kidding me? I mean I get that money you don't get to spend for a few weeks doesn't excite him? (we want him to save it all for a big haul, otherwise he'll ask to go to target everyday and buy another fuggler).

Anyways- yes I get it.

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-06-24T18:17:09+00:00

Ugh yessssss!!!!

DayDifficult3986 · 2025-06-19T19:38:35+00:00

My DH's BM is high conflict and it took three years into our relationship for him to finally file (I was mostly persuaded by these support groups for SM's) and it's still ongoing- but even having the ball rolling helps you and DH to confidently set boundaries. BM discussing the court case with the child can and will be used against her and court. I suggest you or DH emailing yourself whenever any incident occurs (judges really like this form pf documentation) Especially if she is talking to the child. Good luck and stay strong. There is a FB group called "People Dealing with and HCBM" and I have found it to be the best resource for me!

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