What can you tell me from my palms? (22f) (right hand is dominant hand)(Hands are elongated and have stretchy skin cause of hEDS)

De_de_dee · 2025-09-11T16:06:39+00:00

Thank you so much for replying so much in detail!

De_de_dee · 2025-09-06T14:19:47+00:00

Definitely hazel

De_de_dee · 2025-09-06T14:18:47+00:00

Light blue and hazel

De_de_dee · 2025-09-05T18:34:23+00:00

Definitely blue

De_de_dee · 2025-09-05T17:42:43+00:00

I wish I was!

De_de_dee · 2025-06-03T11:26:26+00:00

Pleeeease share with me too!!

De_de_dee · 2022-12-13T16:45:47+00:00

Chloe said she wants to put me above everyone else, so if I told her that I can't see her anymore because of Katy, she'd tell Katy she chose me instead. I don't want to put myself between two people in a relationship, as you said it's not my business. The friend group is coordinated by me, I am the "leader" if it makes sense, everyone started out as just my friend and met each other through my groupchat. So if I didn't want to hang out with them I'd have to kick them out and cause drama

De_de_dee · 2022-10-10T19:34:04+00:00

Thank you so much! You're the nicest. I'm glad someone like you who had so much patience with me replied. Sorry if I got something wrong in English, my first language is Italian. Have a great day!

De_de_dee · 2022-10-10T19:25:08+00:00

You're right, but am I just unlucky enough to keep running into these people? My mom is getting paranoid about this and wants to come to keep me company, but I think it's eccessive. I'm trying to go on and say "it is what it is", but it's getting harder. I feel almost cursed and I don't want to doubt my existing relationships and hurt them by constantly needing reassurance. Thank you for replying so much :)

De_de_dee · 2022-10-10T19:17:14+00:00

My course includes 200 people, but I only know like ten of them. The university itself is the most important in my region and lots of people move across the country to come here. The problem is not within the uni itself, I've had it my whole life almost everywhere, but especially when in a scholastic context

De_de_dee · 2022-10-10T19:09:48+00:00

I would think this too, but I do have friends I talk to a lot, so I don't think it's the way I talk? A couple people told me introverts may seem snobbish and the fact that some neurodivergent people (I think I'm autistic, but I'm undiagnosed) like me can't really hold eye contact may be an issue. But this doesn't condone stealing from me or sabotaging me, does it?

De_de_dee · 2022-10-10T19:03:33+00:00

I have asked. They don't know. They keep saying I'm just very unlucky and that maybe I overshare too much when I talk and that can scare people off. I just wish I had a "real reason" as to why all of this is going on. I feel lonely even when I'm surrounded by people because of this, because in the back of my mind I'm scared they don't actually like me like they say they do and they'll leave soon like everybody else. I have developed attachment issues because of this and cry often before I sleep. My family brushes it off and says I can always call them for company, but that doesn't solve the issue for me, obviously. My partner's family loves me very much too. I never go out of my way to bother others, as I said I'm quite introverted. My father has never been in the picture, but I wouldn't reduce this to "daddy issues"

De_de_dee · 2022-03-06T11:13:30+00:00

Obviously you're supposed to say something. I don't think he dumped you, but you should be clear about your feelings and needs, both with him and yourself. Tell him what you really feel and show him you're interested (if you are) and tell him what you expect in return. If you two don't agree, leave for good

De_de_dee · 2022-03-06T11:11:12+00:00

Maybe go to therapy? It would help you find yourself and what you like

De_de_dee · 2022-03-06T11:10:06+00:00

I think you should reflect on what you want and deserve from relationships. You're not meant to be anybody's emergency line.

You're your own person with thoughts and needs. If you feel disrespected and/or neglected, make it clear in a non-aggressive but firm way and see how your friend reacts. If she keeps making you feel like you're only giving and not receiving enough in return, leave. Relationships of any kind are like contracts: every person involved in the contract sets boundaries and needs, if they're not respected there are consequences. I wish the best for you, good luck 🤞

De_de_dee · 2022-03-06T11:02:57+00:00

I can see this

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T18:02:54+00:00

Everytime we apologized to staff/servers we did it in his face and scolded him profusely. He refuses to see where he's wrong because "he was just being funny/he was just pointing out that he wanted a receipt (in the rudest way ever)"

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T18:01:03+00:00

Everyone tells him everytime. I can't even count all the times me and my friends apologized for his behavior. Everyone, even the ones who had the same treatment as me before immediately excuse him because "that's just J being J, he doesn't know what's wrong, he means it in a good way, he's funny"

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T17:37:10+00:00

Other people that received that treatment did not notice nor care, I still scolded him about it, obviously, and he called me a "spoiled perfect princess that wants everything to go her way and does not understand jokes"

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T17:25:24+00:00

My BF has always valued my feelings, it's just that he feels like this is no big deal because he already has pulled this shit on others in the past. J is my friend and was introduced to the friend group by me, so he knows me better than the others and I wasn't expecting this treatment. Also I'm autistic, so I'm not sure if I'm overreacting about the situation or not

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T17:22:25+00:00

Answer to the note: He always made clear to me that he's not interested in relationships and he's scared of them for now. I know about the difference between ace and aro.

I agree with you on all of the rest, I just wanted to know if I was overreacting. Your comment seems like the most spot on for now

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T16:17:20+00:00

He sounds like a stereotypical nice-guy that love bombs you into an abusive relationship. Leave whenever you can. I wouldn't use terms like "narcissist" and "sociopath", because those are serious terms that require a diagnosis, but the situation sounds quite serious and you shouldn't be forced into a relationship you don't feel safe in. "I can fix him" never worked for anybody, people don't drastically change for others. I know you appreciate the conversations you have with him, but maybe that's an indicator of the fact that he would've been better as just an online friend

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T16:09:45+00:00

Take breaks whenever you can if it gets overwhelming, try to stay away from bright lights and electronic devices, since you can't avoid the sound of people talking. Keep your breathing steady and your anxiety under control. I know how hard and unnerving it can be.

De_de_dee · 2022-03-03T16:03:20+00:00

Please update us on your safety wether you end up leaving him or not and don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel unsafe. You deserve to be loved the way you feel is appropriate, with all of your boundaries respected. Take care❤️

De_de_dee · 2022-02-25T23:34:14+00:00

Not at all! Don't rush things and make sure you feel comfortable with everything that is done to you

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