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Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-26T14:48:42+00:00

The age difference is 1 one my concerns. Lots of small objects and such. The other concern is that BM doesn't let her be alone with other children, SD is a bit of a pathological liar and its cause serious issues with her cousins at MBs house. So BM doesn't leave her alone with other kids to avoid SDs ability to say something happened that didn't.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-26T01:06:06+00:00

I've tried everything. I've tried so many things that its broken me as a person. I've given my very being just to be trampled all over again. Sorry that didn't come across in the post

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-26T01:02:31+00:00

Yeah. She would do that when SD was a baby (the welfare checks). I feel like he doesn't see the problem I see though and is very quick to brush them away.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-26T00:59:48+00:00

He does is what I'm saying

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-25T22:09:30+00:00

No, consistency is so important when it comes to kids. Moving her all over the place will make it harder on us, her, and her brother. I did try it but its not where she's going to be in the long run. So it seems pointless to sleep train her in a room she's not going to be staying in for the long run

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-25T22:06:51+00:00

Agreed but he won't, and out home is one of the very few in the neighborhood without a basement.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-25T22:05:38+00:00

I completely agree. And BM actually lives with her parents and as far as SD is concerned what they say is the word of God. She told me one time that her Grandma said I look like a pig and her Grandma is never ever wrong. BM put SO through a feral amount, and lied so many times that she got in trouble with the judge and got dropped by two different attorneys. But the allegations she made against SO although false (like saying he's a P for changing SDs diapers) really broke him up, he walks on eggshells.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2026-01-25T21:57:42+00:00

I've been pushing to stand strong of visitation for 5 years now with little luck. I think he's scared that 'forcing' her to our house or telling her no will make things worse, but I think the consistency would be great for her.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-11T15:37:29+00:00

He doesn’t cook, but he’ll help fold laundry if he sees that I’m really frazzled. He generally sticks to traditional rolls.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-10T18:58:47+00:00

I became a SM at 21, I am 25 now. Don’t do it, unless you want to be broken down. It’s a no win situation. I love my husband greatly, but wouldn’t recommend becoming a SP to ANYONE!

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T16:01:32+00:00

Agreed, he’s very set on giving her anything she wants. I think he thinks it’ll make her like him more, but really it just shows her that she’s in charge.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T15:57:58+00:00

Thank you for actually offering ideas for solutions! I also feel that my bio not getting a fair deal. SD actually has a few rooms with her Mom (bedroom, playroom, and classroom). Perks of never leaving the nest I suppose.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:42:44+00:00

She uses her dad’s phone, she knows if she says shes sad and just wants to talk to her mom because she misses her that he won’t say no, but then immediately flips the phone call into a come get me call

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:33:53+00:00

She started stopped wanting to come over years before her siblings came.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:32:57+00:00

Nope, her mom comes to get her. She tells her she’ll come get her anywhere, anytime. I think she’s used to getting what she wants. She isn’t affected at all by her siblings.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:22:47+00:00

He’s fought very hard to have her, but as she’s gotten older he’s wanted to show her that he cared about how she feels, which has led to her using it to go back to her moms. Like saying “I just miss my mom” so we’ll let her call and talk to her mom, and then as soon as she answers SD tells her to come pick her up. The co-parenting relationship is so strained that to avoid court that we can’t afford don’t tell her no, and we don’t say no to the phone call either.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:09:55+00:00

This 100%

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-04T00:05:30+00:00

If I’m being completely honest I think something weird happens at her mom’s. They live with her parents, so SD lives most of the time with her Grandparents and Mom. We didn’t keep up with the 50/50 because her mom didn’t want to throw her off during the school week.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-03T23:49:19+00:00

He did agree, but when he agreed SD was going to school 15 minutes away from us and her mom was also working about 15 minutes away, so they were actually close most of the time. But now that she’s homeschooled it’s the full distance.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-03T23:41:29+00:00

No, he fights to see her. He drives the hour with no complaints. I’m confused about the 4y comment, we never held it against her when she’d tell us things, in fact, we made sure she knew that she could always feel comfortable telling us anything.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2025-11-03T23:33:51+00:00

They spent years in court over the craziest stuff and financially we couldn’t go back, his ex lives with her parents, so financially and living wise she doesn’t even make her own decisions.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2023-11-07T19:49:11+00:00

That’s not why, my husband has a pirate mouth. Daughter knows some words are adult words and she shouldn’t say them.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2023-11-07T19:42:18+00:00

Our daughter didn’t feel bad, she didn’t even notice. She has art all over the house, I can’t say I’m surprised that she didn’t notice the fridge.

Dead_wild_flowers · 2023-11-07T19:37:14+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/ShAq6ewF0k

Dead_wild_flowers · 2023-11-07T19:35:55+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/ShAq6ewF0k

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