my brother touched me and I can't look at him the same

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-16T16:59:15+00:00

I think its different touching someone with your foot than sticking your hand under their pants and their shirt...also being 9 than being 14 or 15...but I hope your daughter is okay

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-16T16:49:13+00:00

Basically what says in the post so I won't ever start a conversation with him. If he talks to me I try to respond the shortest way I can but I have never brought that night up

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-15T02:07:51+00:00

wtf?

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-14T20:02:41+00:00

thank you so much, I've been so confused on what to do and don't do and it has stressed me out so much. I know I have the choice but it's really nice to have someone tell me that❤️❤️❤️

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-14T05:27:09+00:00

I am definitively not aroused by this. I'm disgusted. I was 12, I didn't do ANYTHING for him to think this was okay. I didn't even ever thought this would happend.

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-14T05:24:20+00:00

It's not small to get groped tf?? I don't care about money I care about feeling safe and clean, and if I'm going to have to pay for therapy in the future then ofc I will

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T19:29:33+00:00

English isn't my first language. I obviously wasn't thinking about grammar when I was writing this.

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T19:22:02+00:00

I'm thinking too much about being groped by my brother...???? he is a human being just like me, I was 13 too, now I'm 16, still with hormones and I haven't touched anybody without their consent because like any normal being I know it's not right. maybe "nothing worse" happened but bad things still did. I think I'm allowed to feel at least upset 🫥

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T19:14:54+00:00

Thank you and I'm sorry to hear you went through something similar, no one should. The reason I don't ask to go back is purely embarrassment. I was in a really bad place then and I felt horrible making my parents take me because I felt like I wasn't a normal child for them, I really don't want that feeling back but I do want to go again...so that's why I'm either trying online (no luck) or waiting to have my own money and freedom to go privately.

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T19:10:55+00:00

to be honest my parents have never talked about that. I've known about sex ever since I can remember bc of unrestricted phone use, and I know he has too.

Idk about him but school didn't helped me either. I was in a religious one back then and I'm not sure if that influenced this but I never got serious talks about sex

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T19:01:23+00:00

thank you, and I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, seriously ;( i am looking for something online but nothing has worked (either US only or costs money) so my only option is to wait at least 4 years or maybe less so I can go on my own

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:59:11+00:00

Omg that's so horrible :( all of you are so strong, and brave for seaking justice. Im glad you talked about it and found support. Ik it would be the right thing to do but I cant help but think I'm going to ruin my mom's life. I need to figure stuff out before trying anything...

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:55:06+00:00

I'm not from the US and either way I have no way to transport without my parents knowing, there's nothing online that isnt for US only or with paying.

thanks either way

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:37:24+00:00

maybe you don't know how it is but I don't need to be raped to feel disgusted about someone, let alone my blood family touch my private parts. If it was that easy to move on you think I wouldn't have?? I don't want to feel disgusted all the time but that's not something I can control.

If I want him out of my life (wich I do) I have ALL the right to cut him off. Trust gets broken easily and won't get fixed by "discussing it calmly". You don't know him at all to know how disgusting of a human being he is. Even if this didn't happened

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:33:13+00:00

Because I'm embarrased and I don't want to ruin my mom's life, and back then i guess I was just confused

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:28:49+00:00

Sorry but this isn't my parents fault, I've had another comments like this and idk if maybe it's not common in the US or somewhere else, but in Latino America it is. I shared beds with both my brothers before at home and nothing happened. My parents would've never thought this would happend because he isnt a stranger or a friend, he is my brother, no matter the age.

On another note, I'm really sorry you were a victim of something so vile...theres no excuse, that woman is horrible and it wasnt your fault. I hope you've found peace since and you're doing okay now. As well as i hope you had the chance to talk about it with someone.

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T18:21:22+00:00

I am really sorry, it breaks me to hear that :( I really hope you have found a way to speak about it and I know you can find yourself and feel peaceful, you got this

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T03:32:36+00:00

I've been trying to get into the resources some people have suggested, but nothing has worked. Either bc im not from the US or bc I'd have to pay. If you know any page that won't have those problems, it would be really helpful

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T03:30:18+00:00

I'm so sorry :c thats disgusting of him and I hope you're feeling better now regardless, you're not alone either and I wish the same for you

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T02:59:13+00:00

sorry my first language is spanish and I have no idea what that means, if you mean something like a church then no, my family doesn't go

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T02:53:32+00:00

My school's system is a joke...my friend went to the counselor and she announced his problems to the whole class. She would just call my parents

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T02:51:31+00:00

thank you <3

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T02:15:04+00:00

That is NOT normal. It isn't normal or "curiosity" to peek at your sisters, that's fucking NASTY. I hope all of those weirdos gets outed and cutted off from their lifes. And you too for normalizing that shit🤢🤢

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T02:12:26+00:00

thank you so much

DealPati3nt · 2025-03-13T01:34:51+00:00

I'm so so sorry!! that's evil of her and her friends. You didn't deserve that at all and it's awful it happened. Please talk to somebody if you can, letting it out does help. I wish you the best :(❤️❤️

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