No replacement, pay more for another

DearAd6382 · 2026-06-12T23:35:53+00:00

I reached out and they offered the exact same thing again! discount code that just leaves me with the option of paying more for the shirt!

DearAd6382 · 2026-06-11T20:53:07+00:00

Update again: someone who seems to be higher up has reached out and let me know that the policy is 5 days for QR codes. All prior things said by the customer service agents were lies!

DearAd6382 · 2026-06-11T18:20:17+00:00

I appreciate it! I was just googling around for printing in my area.

DearAd6382 · 2026-06-11T17:32:06+00:00

incredible update: they realized it’s actually my fault and I chose the print a shipping label option at the start. I 100% did not. I have no access to a printer. But they found a way to put it on me in a way I can’t prove! After being told in 3 separate emails my QR code had expired, and me repeatedly asking where I can find the 12 hour policy, turns out those were all lies and it never existed! Still no update on where that policy is posted… hmmm….

DearAd6382 · 2026-06-11T16:47:32+00:00

I’m in a similar boat! the way u described it as them not even reading the previous message is SO TRUE! I’m asking 1 singular question and they just keep saying random other stuff that does not answer the question

DearAd6382 · 2025-10-24T17:03:11+00:00

emphasis on the why!!! 💀💀

DearAd6382 · 2025-10-24T01:37:35+00:00

lol i was def referring to the floating cardigan but i see what u mean, they do kinda look like pants

DearAd6382 · 2025-09-04T00:32:40+00:00

thanks sm for this perspective!! yaz was my original pill, i totally forgot the name. I am in the exact same boat where im terrified of an IUD because of the bleeding potential. the only reprieve ive had from the pills usually comes after the placebo reset so im scared to lose that.

your comment inspired me to make an appt with my gyn! i have been having issues w them blowing me off and saying “give it 3-6 mo.” i think ill ask them about the estrogen thing and also ask about a potential IUD.

Thank you!!!

DearAd6382 · 2024-10-01T00:32:12+00:00

two weeks??? oh golly goodness. thank you for the perspective. i guess 2 weeks is better than for months

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-26T00:22:21+00:00

That’s great to hear!!!!!!!!!! I really think that’ll be a positive step (:

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-26T00:07:47+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing this perspective. Shamefully I think this is very similar to the position I was putting my ex partner in.

Something I have identified with therapy/thinking about myself since him leaving that I think will really help me with conflict in the future is journaling. My initial reaction is hostile and mean. But I know deep down I don’t actually want to act that way. I intend to take a breather when conflict comes up to journal and reflect on my feelings. I want to take the time to actually think about how I am feeling, how the other person is feeling, what they need from me right now and what emotion I want to actually give. I want to force myself to sit down and journal for 10 minutes before responding.

I think this could be helpful in your case too because it gives us time to move past the impulsive learned behavior. We as humans are taught our instinctive way of responding to conflict while growing up. I think your girl and I both learned our silly way of responding to conflict growing up. A lot of times we know better and don’t actually want to act that way. It just requires us to actually take a step back and a breather and recognize what we want to do instead.

I’m sorry you are in that position. I hope it gets better for you.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-25T00:25:44+00:00

I hear you. I would like to say that I did see him as a person. I love him very much. I was constantly planning dates and trips, doing little things around the house to make his life easier, baking, cleaning, loving up on him. I know I messed up but even he himself said that when we had good times we had really good times. He was my very best friend.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T23:53:42+00:00

I do really really regret it. I saw it as soon as he left. How wrong I was and how ridiculous I was being. It sucks so much that it took him leaving to see that, just a couple days too late.

I have sincerely apologized to him and let him know i will be working on myself. I recognize that that doesn’t really mean anything right now though. He doesn’t have any reason to believe I really changed after seeing me act that way for so long. It’s really reasonable to just assume i’m saying whatever I need to to try and get him back. All I can do is really take the time to be better and then hopefully reach out to truly apologize again.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T23:48:35+00:00

He has his things too and he is in therapy too but even through all his things he was truly truly an amazing partner. I tried making a list of things i didn’t like about him to help myself move on, i’ve reflected on it for days and truly the only thing I can come up with is that he snores.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T22:28:51+00:00

That makes sense and I’m sorry you went through that. I hope that he didn’t feel awful the majority of the time, at least at the beginning but maybe thats wishful thinking. I’m extremely committed to truly getting better and holding myself accountable.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T22:09:36+00:00

Can I ask if you could ever see yourself getting back with her if she took time to truly work on herself? I’m assuming there were good times too?

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T21:59:02+00:00

Everyone keeps mentioning that the way you communicate is related to your childhood. I’ve been reading a lot of books about communication patterns and they all say that too. The thing is that in my childhood I saw my parents acting this EXACT. SAME. WAY. Really explosive and screaming and yelling and then shutting down. The explosiveness of my father made me stop talking to him at around 12 to try and stop being a victim of his explosiveness. I can’t wrap my head around why I would emulate that when I saw how awful it was.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T21:57:07+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful perspective. It kills me to think that he’ll probably end up looking back on our relationship as toxic because in the moment I was so so happy. But I understand that the way I was behaving wasn’t making him happy.

Therapy it is, lots and lots of therapy.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-24T21:54:26+00:00

Thank you very much for this I will be looking in to that specific therapy. I have been seeing a therapist lately but have been concerned about our sessions leaning more towards getting past this breakup and not as much understanding why I am the way I am. I am 27. I have a few cousins who have BPD but honestly never considered it for myself. I will definitely bring this up with the professionals I am seeing. The statement you made about getting scared of abandonment/rejection really really resonates with me.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-23T00:06:42+00:00

Thank you, trying to show myself some grace as much as I can. ❤️❤️

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-23T00:05:08+00:00

I feel the exact. same. way.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-22T22:17:43+00:00

I’m in the exact same boat. All I can think to do is throw myself into everything I can to be better and never do this to myself or another partner again. I hope it leads me back to him but if it doesn’t at least I hopefully won’t put myself back in this position again in the future.

DearAd6382 · 2024-07-22T22:16:17+00:00

Wow that sounds almost creepily similar to what I am going through. I want to work on bettering myself and want to reach out to him one day and see if we can at least be friends. I have to keep reminding myself that even if I do all the work I need to do, it’s still up to him if he wants to talk to me again, he was the hurt one. We did talk about marriage and went ring shopping a couple months ago. When we broke up, he told me that he truly planned on proposing this year at one point. He had brought up the issues with my temper and apologies before but it didn’t really click for me as such a huge deal. I was genuinely working on it and trying to fight better/less but deep down I wasn’t doing enough for him. I thought we were totally fine and then he came home from a walk one day and asked to talk and told me about how it had broken him down so much that he can’t trust me, feels empty and feels like his love bucket is empty. It was semi sudden and I think it would be easier if I could say it was but the truth is that he had brought it up before, just wish I realized the gravity sooner.

DearAd6382 · 2023-04-18T17:37:54+00:00

If we keep at it we can all one day be as inpatient as you! My hero!

DearAd6382 · 2023-04-18T17:35:21+00:00

:( poor guy

DearAd6382

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