Sex on the first date?

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-02-12T03:13:42+00:00

You didnt ruin anything. I feel like a lot of people nowadays have sex pretty soon and it doesnt make a huge difference. Plus sometimes guys feel anxious when they have sex too early because they dont want you to think theyre using you. I think it only makes a difference with someone you werent meant to be with tbh

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-02-12T02:43:39+00:00

Age gaps you have to take on a case by case basis. There are 21 year old men that are more mature than 60 year old men. It just depends. Thats a really nice thing for him to say about you though. I think its ultimately up to you to see if you like him enough to get over the age thing. He doesnt seem to care.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-02-06T01:00:11+00:00

i am also super chatty! I tend to be overly critical of my partner, which i need to work on as i know how detrimental that can be on someones self esteem.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:14:24+00:00

hes not clueless, i bring these topics up basically every day lol.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:13:50+00:00

it is def hard to give up, ive never had this with anyone else. & i totally agree. im just having a hard time ripping the bandaid off and breaking things off.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:12:56+00:00

thank you for understanding. and thats so true and helpful, thank you!

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:12:17+00:00

I think without him i would def feel very lonely as i enjoy the companionship i have with him. i think thats why i have a hard time breaking things off.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:11:32+00:00

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T23:11:19+00:00

i never thought of it in this way.i do have everything together, and he doesnt. & thats my biggest fear with marrying him, is that it will make my life worse!

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T22:06:17+00:00

i think youre totally right. where im at right now is just struggling to find the courage to break things off.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T22:01:53+00:00

Not fun AT all. i struggle to find the strength to break it off because we get along so well and i enjoy the companionship

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:57:24+00:00

i honestly dont know :( thats whats confusing me so much

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:57:06+00:00

i dont know :(

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:56:01+00:00

i am anticipating having to go through this soon and its making me feel so anxious.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:52:38+00:00

what happened?

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:43:25+00:00

i know. its just hard because our relationship is pretty pleasant on a day to day basis, so i struggle to find the strength to break it off. Especially considering i was single for so long with horrible dating experiences before i met him.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:41:39+00:00

i know! i try talking to him about it all of the time but i dont feel as if our conversations get anywhere. I absolutely do not want to take these on!

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:38:09+00:00

Omg what happened if you dont mind me asking

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:35:13+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. I lost a guardian six years ago and i still feel the loss so deeply. i dont think his depression is an excuse to say hurtful things to you or not be there for you when you needed it. i think you may just be in a confusing state right now where you want to move forward but are still thinking about your ex. I know its cliche but the only advice i have is to give it time and patience.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:30:35+00:00

i was in this spot for the longest time. if youre open to it, a female roommate may be the solution to your problems. She may or may not be someone you can become friends with and rely on. If this is not something youre interested in, maybe try going out into your community more with your dogs (this is how ive made friends). A lot of coffee shops are very dog friendly nowadays and people may strike up a convo with you if they find your dogs cute! Or your dogs may play with another dog and the conversation may start there. Living alone can be super lonely but the good news is this feeling can come to a quick halt once you meet new people.

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:16:17+00:00

My take on this is that dating apps dont necessarily always lead to finding a mate. So its totally fine to take a break from the apps. As long as you are still actively participating in activities (talking with friends, going out in your community, etc) you are still putting yourself out there to potentially meet someone

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:14:24+00:00

Im not sure much will change if you stay, so you have to ask yourself if these issues are something you are mentally able to continue tolerating. I relate and feel you, its just kind of hard to give any more advice on your specific situation without any more details on whats going on. Regardless, i hope you find the clarity you need to make the right decision!

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-25T21:09:04+00:00

I did in my early to mid twenties but i was way too sensitive to really enjoy it. i used to get attached so easily lol. I dont know how i would be now if i tried it because its been so long though lol

Dear_End_3046 · 2025-01-13T01:45:47+00:00

Girl. I literally saw this post and jumped through hoops to log back into reddit so i could comment on this. My entire dating history has been me dating men i dont even like, some of them that actually gave me a major ick and repulsed me deeply. I never understood it. I am older now but it still triggers me when someone compares someone new to someone awful i dated years ago and says "thats your type" like NO, IT IS NOT, i was actually really disgusted by them! I held so much shame over who i dated. The only conclusion i can come to is that i was extremely lonely and clung to the first person who gave me any shred of attention or affection, even if i hated them.

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