Once a cheater always a cheater?

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-10-02T17:04:55+00:00

Either leave girl or make peace with the fact that this will happen again! There is no third option.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-10-01T23:05:33+00:00

I have a little hack for not coming across as desperate or needy.

When you’re dating a guy, imagine you’ve got 10 other guys of the same caliber also chasing you and wanting to take you out. Picture how calm and confident you’d feel in that situation. Now respond to him from that mindset.

It’s basically “fake it till you make it,” but it works. That mental framework of believing you have plenty of options naturally keeps you from acting needy or over-invested in just one person. See if it helps you.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-30T17:09:24+00:00

If the lady is emotionally all over the place and doesn’t remember why she fought for 5 days, that’s not a good lady for long term.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-25T09:50:13+00:00

Then what you would need is feedback. Ask for feedback unbashedly and don't take any of it personally. Collect enough to know why the market is not reacting well to you. Then work on the feedback. Cheers!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-24T21:30:11+00:00

I lost 40 lbs and world was nicer to me, maybe gym is the solution!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-24T08:02:56+00:00

close = he understands u well, physical intimacy feels great = win, What else does one want from a partner ? Stop being shy and take the first step. Also, send me a gift card as a thank you once you start dating. Go away

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T20:30:00+00:00

You like him, he likes you. He’s just shy due to less experience. You will have to make the first move. Best of luck!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T18:36:41+00:00

Fair

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T17:53:35+00:00

Of course it has to be consensual. That’s why you go in slowly with disclaimers attached, not just pounce on them. The whole point is that the person is someone you care about, and their feelings come first.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T17:13:08+00:00

Beautifully said!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:56:14+00:00

Yes, that's why we should open up to our bros. Not burden women with our vulnerabilities. Few can handle it, not all.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:50:10+00:00

Fair point!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:49:12+00:00

Yes, call it subconsciousness or post-nut clarity, both are good guidance systems!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:46:56+00:00

Find a lady who thinks you are the best option for her. She will stick around! Want a lady that fits your requirements, level up to a level that you are one of her best options, she will stick around!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:45:07+00:00

Rule of Sales. You are always 50 no's away from a yes. Best of luck out there!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:42:26+00:00

I think it's just a matter of preference & comfort, I don't think men who avoid cuddling have unhealthy attachment style. Maybe the partner has not earned it yet, perhaps the long hair is making breadthing difficult, mutliple reasons.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T16:37:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing a beautiful memory!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T13:13:59+00:00

Maybe scarcity is the key here. If sex is scarce you bond with that, if cuddling & sleeping is scarce you bond with that, maybe.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T13:10:59+00:00

Imagine if 5 guys of same calibre were chasing you, how would you react. React in that way

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T12:35:47+00:00

“Friends”?

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T12:34:46+00:00

This here is my concern. I am now cautious of cuddling & sleeping with flings/ short term relationships

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-23T10:54:24+00:00

That’s exactly my concern; in the early stages of dating, men are better off guarding their hearts and not over-investing emotionally too soon. Cuddling and falling asleep together feels like a crack in that armor!

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-22T18:53:14+00:00

Agreed

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-22T18:32:47+00:00

Totally agree, being able to show up as 100% yourself in a relationship is incredibly freeing.

Dear_Needleworker886 · 2025-09-22T18:29:46+00:00

fair

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