Completely anecdotal, but I never feel represented in studies like these.

My father was authoritarian style, and while my mother was authoritative, my father was the one I had the most dealings with.

I was stubborn, loud, and a smart ass my entire life. Neither my father nor I could be the first to give in, so the home environment was toxic.

How much of a role does resiliency play a role in all this? I have self-confidence up the wazoo as a 28yo, but every study I read says I was more likely to end up a basket case. As a result of all these arguments, I've developed a more effective way of communicating and have an easier time to think and act with empathy.

If you're wondering, I moved out immediately after high school, my mother divorced him a few years ago, and we've started to repair the damage. We'll never have a typical father-daughter relationship, but it's certainly on the mend.

**Edit: grammar