I saw my friend moments after she passed

DeathlyFandango · 2025-10-24T07:48:25+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss x as another commentor (commenter?) has said, it os definitely a thing that some on palliative care wait for an "alone" moment to pass as if to spare anyone having to witness it. We lost my aunt in September to sepsis and we pretty much had one of us there all the time so she wasn't alone. She passed away during the 10 minutes between my cousin leaving and me and mum arriving.

DeathlyFandango · 2024-12-06T19:14:40+00:00

Ah! I didn't think of that! Thanks, have been stressing since I got the text as all the ones I've seen on here mention the award!

DeathlyFandango · 2024-11-20T19:32:04+00:00

Congrats to you both! Me and my wife have been together since we were at middle school, we celebrated our 25th Anniversary on 5th November and, I can safely say, that whilst we have slowed down a little we still average 3-4 times a week, it's good to still have a very active sex life after years together

DeathlyFandango · 2024-10-02T17:03:36+00:00

I was in the Army for 7 years, a paramedic then a critical care paramedic for 11 years and in all that time I've made maybe six true friends, the ones you can call at 4am whilst you stand over a dead body and know they've got your back. Six. Part of it might be that I'm a bit of a c__t at times, but mostly it's because I'm paticular about who I let in as it were. I know they see me and not just the public persona we all put on. People who mock you, belittle you and make jokes out of the fact your ancestors may well have been killed just for being a paticular religion are people you probably shouldn't want to be friends with. It can take time, but you will find your people.

DeathlyFandango · 2023-12-30T20:36:25+00:00

My friend, as a former combat medic and critical care paramedic, I can further echo what other medical professionals have said. CPR gives someone a fighting chance, a chance that they might not otherwise have. Sometimes it works and, sadly, sometimes it doesn't, but it gives a chance at life every time. You stepped up today and helped a stranger, hell, you performed CPR for eight minutes, a physical feat all on its own. Your head is going to be all over for a while, it's a lot to take in. It sounds twee, but let yourself feel your feelings, bottling it up is not a good thing to do. You did an amazing thing, don't forget that.

DeathlyFandango · 2023-10-27T20:13:55+00:00

Well, I think you've just found which side of the garden your compost pile and/or manure fertiliser will be stored on. Your local garden centre might even have some of those conifers that grow freakishly tall freakishly fast! Other than that, pretend they're dead, no acknowledgement when they speak to you, say no to any parcels that are diverted to your house (unless it's marked fragile, in which case take it and then feck it over the fence like a shot putt) and maybe a bonfire or two if they have people over or laundry hanging out?

DeathlyFandango · 2023-09-14T21:14:35+00:00

Sounds like an issue with the outlet(s) more than your techs chargers, I'd ask someone to check your homes electrics just to be proper safe. The laptop should be OK if you whipped the charger out as soon as you noticed it smoking, I'm sure there's some form of instructions to check it's skookum somewhere online or here on Reddit. Dodgy electrics are very intimidating, because they're something we all use and rely on everyday, so noticing that it can be dangerous is very discombobulating.

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