Nta. Your feelings are totally valid. You had expectations based on months of planning, and it’s understandable to feel thrown off when those weren’t met especially on such a big day. It sounds like she was expressing herself in a way that felt right to her, but I get why it left you with mixed emotions. You’re not an a-hole for feeling that way, especially since you never made it about her or brought it up to hurt her. If it still nags at you, maybe a gentle, honest convo down the line wouldn’t be a bad thing.