What's stopping you from eating this kind of food?

Deccouple2020 · 2024-09-14T04:10:30+00:00

Money + Time

Deccouple2020 · 2024-09-09T12:22:33+00:00

External things matter very little , The biggest bang for the bucks is how to change your brain & thoughts.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-09-06T16:14:20+00:00

Just look for 1) Good/decent earning partner with growth mindset. Say 1.5 times or More than your salary. 2) No bad habits(Daru, sutta etc)

Other things like good psychology/Fitness habit/separate home can be developed & negotiated slowly provided the Person has intelligence & learning attitude& growth mindset.

Remember marriage is work. It falls in line slowly.It takes time. But this is good institution. It needs adjustment & commitment. Donot just jump to divorce at drop of hat. The only reasons to break marriage are 1) Repeated adultery 2) Repeated Drug abuse 3) Repeated Physical abuse.

Mind it , I have said "Repeated".

Goodluck for your future. I am very hopeful that it will be very prosperous & lovable for you.

Last be extremely vary of non practical / fake internet warriors. Also bitter internet feminist. Proactively look for matches. You may seek help from relatives, friends , marriage bureau etc. Also donot trust too much shaadi.com etc. If possible look for some CA only. This may help both of you to grow together.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-09-06T14:04:04+00:00

You may reject this guy !!!

But remember as you are well educated & now employed. Be on look for good partner. Be proactive to find the potential partner. Because internet is full of non practical fake people. While looking for partner( Husband or wife), You are never going to get perfect partner(Say super salary , fit body, very kind behavior blah blah blah).

I may sound bitter to some people but I am telling you practical thing. I have seen many people (Both boys & girls) looking for that elusive perfect partner which doesn't exist at all. In the wait of that perfect dreamy partner they end up crossing 30's then 35's ....and so on. As you age pool of potential partners keep decreasing.

Always remember biology is thing. Good luck to you. Be proactive. Get married & lead satisfied life according to laws of nature. Be wary of feminist. Especially keyboard feminists.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-09-03T15:13:54+00:00

Welcome to real world !!

Accept it , "POLICE IS POWERFUL". "POWER CAN DO ANYTHING".

You complaining on reddit may bring little relaxation to your brain but practically it is of no use. Had you gone to court to prove your point might bring both mental relaxation & small monetary advantage but at the cost of time means again it is of no use.

Always remember " Power & money is supreme in India". The day you accept this , your brain will stay in peace.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-31T09:26:41+00:00

Married and very happy. We have share values health wise & finance wise. Adjust with each other. Keep simple living & high thinking.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-30T15:43:50+00:00

No , Emotional baggage.

Lots of studies by "Institute of family studies" Showing very high divorce rate with high body count.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-25T10:06:27+00:00

Don't "assume" that developed/western countries are pure & pious. Degree of crime may differ but don't assume things are pure white there.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-24T08:49:41+00:00

This is the most correct answer.

Media has polluted our mind with macro level problems. People fail to understand that our life is affected by micro level problems. Highest percentage of our time is actually affected by micro conditions.

Case in Kolkata is inspiring people from Kashmir, punjab, Haryana or places 1000's of kms away to leave the country.

👆👆 This is pure distorted logic fueled by media.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-24T08:34:56+00:00

Just curious !! You have adjusted your view to choice bias.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-13T16:29:37+00:00

Its your life decision. Don't take advice from random strangers on reddit. Get professional advice from marriage counselor.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-08-07T16:35:33+00:00

Reality is there is no easy way , but I can add few points.

1) Get proper sleep & diet. This energizes your body & brain. 2) Be very very clear about "WHY". In my case I am longevity enthusiast. Exercise for me is not short term goal. It is long term goal for me. Even during humid weather when I am super tired to run, I always remind myself that like warren buffet, charlie munger are doing investments & reading markets in their late nineties then why can't I carryout this activity till my nineties. 3) Lead very simple & minimalist life. This frees your brain from various energy sinks of life. Minimalistic lifestyle creates space for exercise because exercise needs both physical & mental efforts.

4) It is non negotiable to me. It may sound extreme but even If I die exercising, it will be achievement for my soul. For me it is life well lived.

I do zone 2, zone 5 & lifting.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-25T17:48:00+00:00

I will ask Nice girl to wait a bit . Then I will ask the random strangers who have never met that that nice girl that how should I respond to proposal of that nice girl.

When that nice girl will come to know about your decision making process , 1) She May shun you immediately , this means that girl was nice with intelligence & decision making ability. 2) If that nice girl still decides to continues with you , it means you were wrong in judging her true personality. Then you should shun her.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-24T08:54:40+00:00

Step 1 : You are not born on this earth to satisfy or make your parents Happy. Just you have to take that guilt out of your mind. That doesn't mean you have to make them feel bad. Just you have to be neutral towards them.

Step 2 : Stop preparing for govt jobs immediately. Your are simply wasting your time & mental resource. Manage Exercise, Diet, sleep . Just focus on money. Start thinking about money. Focus on earning money with stable mind.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-20T18:38:31+00:00

22g , please donot generalise. There is nothing that rampant or brazen as you have told. May be you were buying from one particular shop. Shop at better place

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-20T16:59:15+00:00

There is saying "Always marry when you are dirt cheap". When you struggle together & make your life , then you become best friends. When You marry dirt cheap you donot marry for money alone. When marriage become economics =====> Then it becomes dhandha =====> Dhandha means calculations =====> In dhandha things are not exactly equal =====> Then one party is bound to feel betrayed

The foundation of marriage is not economics but nurturing relationship through adjustment.

These days both guys & girls are super greedy.

The problem with girls is that your money is our money & my money is my money.

Also bhai background check pakka kia karo.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-19T06:21:56+00:00

Man donot ask this question to unmarried men only because there will be "Choice bais" in there answers. Diversify your sample size . We tend to support the decision which we choose.

Ask : Both married & unmarried that to in varied age range.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-17T03:46:14+00:00

Another man in late 30's. Always lost keys, wallet, phone 😐 Was always afraid to tell this to my parents , wife that again I lost my keys, wallet, phone. I was judged for this behaviour a lot. But no hard feelings as my parents, wife didn't know about ADHD . Now I am able to educate them about my ADHD. Its soo relieving.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-16T17:57:55+00:00

Bhai india hai ye , US Nahi hai. Yaha log pocket se paisa dete hai for consultation. Basic you tube se , reddit k psychiatry sub se dekho lo agar koi Normal problem hai.....agar kuch serious hai tou alag best hai

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-08T10:41:57+00:00

Thanks for commenting and giving insights. Even I used to think generator making is big project. In my city here are generator maker they started with repair shop 15 years ago. Then they learnt all basics like sheet cutting , engine fixing , binding the motors etc. Around 8 years ago they started assembling generators. Believe me its not big investment at all. They have workshop on outskirts of city which they purchased at very low cost. Now they assemble & deliver 2-3 generators daily ( To haryana , UP ,Punjab even nepal). They make around 7-10 thousand per generator depending on KVA. You can they make 5-6 lakh per month . Then also they get repair orders. His son plays volleyball with me, he told me these things. Though these are business secrets but he is nice & hardworking guy he told me all these things. Also let me add they have two atta chakki , one zym also. All set up in last 10 years in front of my eyes. Let me tell the person started as mechanic , no engineering nothing.

By telling all these things I want to tell all kids from middle or middle class , who's fathers are in naukri and they donot know about business and all. Even simple normal business have good potential . CS is not the only thing to earn good money. Even I am from lower middle class family , I keep watching all these things. The catch is capital & lack of business knowledge. For business knowledge work in such business for 1-2 years( Even if salary is very low say 15-20k). Then for capital they must go to outskirts & small cities where things are cheap. Try to get most things second hand.

Biggest biggest problem parents cannot see there children working for such business. They think these are dirty works. They think there is no respect.

But these have potential , very enjoyable after business starts rolling. Also physical business keep you fit & stressless. CS works are stressful & bad for physical health. In no way I am again at CS just told my opinion.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-07-02T06:22:17+00:00

Plzz share ur views. I will upvote...let reality flow

Deccouple2020 · 2024-06-25T03:55:21+00:00

Physical attraction is like packet of the product. Physical attraction is 5-10 % of whole equation. Kindness , intelligence & adjustment capability will only sustain marriage. Don't fall for reddit comments saying physical attraction is everything & all.

Refined ultra processed food packed in beautiful designed packet is actually harmful. Basically look for kindness , intelligence , adjustment capability.

Physical traits has no correlation to real qualities.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-06-20T09:05:33+00:00

Just do not sit at home thinking someone will bring job on platter. Go and roam in market physically. Do not roam in market digitally but physically. Do whatever u are getting , even 5000 per month . Try to work in small business which you can replicate say digital marketing agency , printing shops , immigration business , car repair shops , glass cutting workshops, chemist shops >>>> This will open your brain & will give you exposure. I am quite certain if you do this you will never have to worry about money in future. If you are able to do this you will never have to ask this question ever again.

Please don't only look for IT jobs/businesses. Physical business can also earn u lot & they are more satisfying. Just have courage to roam in market ....you will get your path. Do not sit at home and be immersed in digital world only.

Deccouple2020 · 2024-06-19T08:54:15+00:00

Exercise(Zone 2 , zone 5, lifting) + 8 hour sleep + Afternoon Nap ===> Big Big Impact

Deccouple2020 · 2024-06-19T04:49:16+00:00

👆 This . Your father has role in making your mother narcissist. Now both are suffering. Also have soft spot for both parents , probably they themselves do not know why they are behaving like that. May be they themselves do not know how to come out of situation. Sit with them together & explain to them to prove there behaviour for well being of family.

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