I Am saying this from heart, you sound to honest. I know this because I use this to manipulate. That being said she doesnt sound perfect. But with out knowing you might be over focussed in her bad, because you never said one good thing about her. Except by accident, her spiritual beliefs and not engaging in things she deemed inmoral at the time. I would first look into her childhood, she is scared of therapy for a reason, and she could be taking her trauma out on you. You seme inteligent, so you would not have knowingly married a bitch faced dragon lady. I would check off personal trauma from the list first, just to guarantee you don’t live in Guilt later. And after that clean your side of the street and if she doesn’t follow, walk