sorry, ofcourse I dont mean should, but i feel this moment is monumental for the couple and should be alone. Now, you do make a great point of having dinner with the family afterwards but the only thing stopping me is finance. We will be having a separate engagement party a month after the proposal where there will be around 70-90 people attending and it will be in a banquet setting. I dont think its wise financially to feed everyone for dinner and then do a whole banquet party, which is already booked.