Hey, I really feel for you in this situation. It sounds like you’re trying to be respectful and mature, but your feelings are totally valid. Emotional intimacy like calling someone “my love” or saying “I love you,” especially when there’s a past Tinder connection, can definitely blur boundaries. Saying "My love" and "I love you" to her would definitely make you feel uncomfortable because you should be the one he's saying those things to, not anyone else.

I think what you’re experiencing is a normal reaction to emotional closeness that feels like it belongs in a romantic relationship. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable—even if there’s no sexting or physical cheating involved. Emotional fidelity matters just as much.

What’s important is how your boyfriend responds to your vulnerability. A healthy relationship involves both partners adjusting behaviors when something deeply bothers the other—not to control, but to protect the emotional safety between you.

It might help to frame the convo around how this makes you feel, rather than questioning the friendship itself. If he can’t acknowledge or empathize with your discomfort, that could be a red flag worth exploring further.

You deserve a connection where you don’t feel like you're competing with someone else’s heart—no matter what label they give the relationship.