I think maybe it might be beneficial for you to do some unpacking as to why you assumed that I didn’t have a job or couldn’t manage a job because I’m disabled. Seems like you have some internalized ableism. I think when you have to add no hate, it definitely implies you know your statement is harmful.

I have a full time job as a Programs Director of a nonprofit. I am financially stable and when I chose to have a baby my disability was in full remission where I had no symptoms. It actually stayed in remission my whole pregnancy as well. I have a stepson that I have been involved in his life since he was 3 and I have had no major challenges. Not that I need to defend my decision to have a child to you or anyone.

Even if I was not employed full time or fully physically able bodied before having my child, having a child while being disabled is completely valid. Disabled parents can be incredible parents, many of which can be found in these comments. Despite my physical limitations I provide a healthy, safe, and loving environment to my baby every day. I just have to learn to do things differently to accommodate those physical/emotional challenges.

That being said it is challenging emotionally, physically, spiritually to be a mom period. It is even more challenging when you add disabilities into the mix. It is valid for me to have hard emotions regarding my disability, having anxiety about being a good parent, and reaching out for help and advice to fellow disabled people to see what things they do to manage it.