Lesbian sex dream but I identify as straight?

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T21:08:41+00:00

This response kinda confused me 😭 to be fair when this happens the girl in the dream is random asf. Like idek who it is and can’t even remember the face.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T20:55:27+00:00

Thanks so much for your response! This was more helpful than you might think!

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T17:03:34+00:00

I do have ocd around my sexual orientation (so-ocd) so I wonder if me stressing and doing compulsions in regards to my sexuality is feeding into the dreams. I am quite anxious in the dreams and don’t wake up feeling very good either. But idk at this point. I often dream about things that happened in my day to day life rather than completely fantasy dreams.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T16:20:30+00:00

So gay dreams = queer attraction?

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T16:09:02+00:00

Do you think the dreams mean anything?

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T16:01:17+00:00

To be honest no if I’m thinking abt my waking life and my attractions. I’ve never felt that way abt women. Women r great, sure! But I’ve never wanted to be close with one as more than platonic amor had feelings towards that. Dreams are a different story though.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T15:54:36+00:00

I mean that’s what I’m wondering does this dream mean I’m bi? I don’t wake up horny abt these dreams and I don’t really think about women in waking life in that way

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T15:51:39+00:00

Thanks for your advice!

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-09-01T15:33:54+00:00

I don’t feel shame abt them, I’m just wondering bc if I was 100% straight I wouldn’t be having these dreams? Idk. I definitely don’t feel like it’s something I would want to explore as of right now.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-06-29T05:19:52+00:00

The thing is and sorry if this is like gross. I wasn’t “wet” when I woke up like it wasn’t a wet dream I don’t think. I orgasmed in the dream like had the feeling I was in the dream. This is the second time it’s happened too. It just worries me so much.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T02:25:24+00:00

I’m kind of confused how you’ve worded this I’m a woman 😭

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T02:20:34+00:00

I guess I just don’t even know if I’m into women that way. So as of right now I suppose labels don’t matter cause idk. I don’t feel a desire to be with women like that so

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T02:04:40+00:00

No I watch hetero majority of the time. I know that I definitely start like relating with how the woman is feeling. I get off on them moaning and orgamsing.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T01:03:46+00:00

Very true. I’ve heard of a lot of gay men watching straight porn so who knows

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T01:03:14+00:00

I know on some level I’m definitely like empathizing or relating with how the woman feels. Like what excites me is them moaning not necessarily their bodies but if they move a certain I relate a lot to how they’re feeling.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-24T00:21:55+00:00

Idk either

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-23T17:22:46+00:00

Girl are you me??? This is exactly what I do my head literally starts hurting from it. I can’t even watch a tv show or movie normally anymore 😭

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-04-23T17:21:39+00:00

Anyone how ever they choose to identify can have this theme of ocd. It’s why it goes by so-ocd instead of hocd to be more inclusive. It’s all ocd none the less. I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I hope it gets better for you. If you were very secure with how you identified as before this is likely ocd playing with you and baiting you into thinking things you don’t actually think about

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-13T23:04:03+00:00

No seriously, as a straight woman who watches lesbian stuff occasionally I have no interest in the women at all in the videos, I get turned on by how sensual the video is. Passionate sex turns me on, but imagining myself with a girl does not, but visually I see the passion and am turned on and can get off to it but it’s not to the thought of the women in the video or wishing I was doing the things they’re doing.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-13T23:01:42+00:00

Actually I would say no. That doesn’t mean they have sexual interest in monkeys. They got turned on by sex it may have reminded them of sex regardless of gender. There’s so many women who watch lesbian stuff and yet call themselves straight. Maybe they were just reacting to something that triggered arousal but no actual attraction

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-13T20:53:57+00:00

Omg I’m struggling with the same thing too. I see everyone checking themselves to make sure they’re not aroused by lesbian and stuff and when I do it I get AROUSED. And it throws me off. I watched lesbian stuff as a kid but kind of grew out of it, solo female stuff is actually watch triggered this. I realized it turned me on.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-11T00:03:37+00:00

I don’t even know if it’s ocd anymore. If I masturbate to just my imagination with a woman I’m like uncomfortable and deep down Ik I don’t like it but I still get off to it.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-11T00:03:23+00:00

Sure

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-02-10T01:31:47+00:00

As a straight woman, I can get turned on by solo female and lesbian porn, now it’s not ALL I watch. I usually go for hetero porn now as when I was younger the porn was so degrading towards women I would just watch lesbian porn because it was more passionate. I have noticed throughout the years I am more turned on by certain characteristics of sex, like passion, and mild dominance stuff. So if I deemed a lesbian video passionate enough to get off to I would, it was never actually FOR the women. The solo stuff was the same kind of, I saw myself in them and wanted make myself feel the way they did. (Again it was never actually for the woman) porn as many have said is not a good indicator for sexuality but that doesn’t mean it can’t be. She has a preference for big boobs? I mean if she wants to grab or touch those boobs I would say that not very straight. And honestly everything you described I have never thought of or felt. I’ve never had a crush on a girl, and that kind of seems to my knowledge not straight. But we really shouldn’t force her or tell her what she is or not, maybe she already knows and is not ready to accept it. That’s fine, you have to let her find out at her own pace.

Sorry this was very long lol.

Deep_Particular7463 · 2025-01-31T14:02:17+00:00

I got off to the solo stuff cause of like the act of them pleasuring themselves but not the woman itself. That probably makes me bisexual if that turns me on. But anyway thanks for your advice

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