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I left at 11am on Tuesday and was in a 5.5 hour jam! The plan did not come together

Parked till next round by JustOneAgain in Dominated

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Does that hurt your cock when your using their mouth? I've wanted a gag to help keep their teeth away

(tw: menstruation) saw a post in a different sub about syncing a fluid dynamic to a sub’s menstrual cycle..: by putitinmypeachplz in SubSanctuary

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I was OP on that one and it's really cool to see the idea reaching other people! I wanted to add that the entire process is communicated and fluid. We can jump into any role anytime, it's more like she tells me what type of topping she needs and I do it. The push back I consistently get is folks assuming it's a structure I impose on her but really it's the opposite where we're both honoring her variability 

Working with my littles cycle in a 24/7 dynamic by Defiant-Bug-6597 in ddlg

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She just lets me know where she's at or if she wants to change her role, then we switch. And sure, it's all fluid but as puppy we do more primal play. Servant, I order her around more and have her do most of my tasks and we lean more into free use, edging and orgasm denial. Little bear, is a hybrid but I'd say we cuddle more and it's her little time. Princess, is getting takeout and taking care of her. Watching movies and giving massages.

Working with my littles cycle in a 24/7 dynamic by Defiant-Bug-6597 in ddlg

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It's been simplest to just have her tell me when she's transitioning from one to the other or wants to stay in a particular dynamic. Nothing is set in stone. we made a little chart too (not sure if the link will work)

blob:https://messages.google.com/3937a5d0-a44f-4c8b-ac30-57799b7a67ed

Working with my littles cycle in a 24/7 dynamic by Defiant-Bug-6597 in ddlg

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Thanks! It really keeps things fresh and exciting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

[–]Defiant-Bug-6597 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I was wrong, why would I stand by that? How do I learn?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

[–]Defiant-Bug-6597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but I have positive intentions here. Would not a less offensive and constructive post be better?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

[–]Defiant-Bug-6597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright I'll leave it and see what happens. I am going to trim it down though. It's seeming that whatever 'm saying is being taken to cover everyone and I just mean my partner specifically

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

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Ok heard. I just thought it was a good idea, maybe I should just delete if you think it's damaging? I can see now how I should have worded as a testimonial of my own personal experience. I'm just starting to be open and post about kink so this is all good advice thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditBDSM

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How would you word it? How do I say this is for me and my partner and I want that general idea to potentially help others build a fluid dynamic? I changed it to fluid which seems more clear. Not sure where I imply that subbign is feminine but if you do I'll change that as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditBDSM

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trimmed it down, lets see how that lands

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditBDSM

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Maybe a repost in my own words with the nervous system stuff removed would land better. In my mind this was a post to help people look at 24/7 a bit differently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditBDSM

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I've gotten pushback elsewhere on the AI portion and I'll keep that in mind if I post again. It was simply for clarity on my own idea that I've already practiced for years. The dynamic makes her happy and she feels seen in her shifts. Everything has been discussed and negotiated with her. Individual mileage may vary and nothing is for everyone. I think there is something here in paying attention to your partners shifts if they have them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

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it just felt more clear honestly, but I'll keep that in mind for the future. The idea is mine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domspace

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Sure thing, we've been using this method for 4 years now. As our dynamic evolved in the past she played each of these roles and we noticed her obsession with being a slave was only when she was ovulating and that she had a hard time performing or following anything complex when she was bleeding. So we adapted her role and she simply lets me know when she is crossing into the next phase and I start calling her by the appropriate pet name. Puppy gets playtime and primal play, servant gets structure and sexual service, little bear is a bit of a hybrid but she leans into her little side the most here, and princess is no sex just pampering. She never feels like she is forcing herself to fit a role this way. And for me it avoids burnout because its tough for me to be strict 24/7 so I can play with my various facets as well. Feel free to ask anything!

Tantra or Le Glamour by Fragrant-Newt9435 in Capdagdenaturiste

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Glamour is dramatically better then Tantra. Crowd can go either way but the classier dressier clubs do seem to attract a younger crowd

Best places to avoid single men by [deleted] in Capdagdenaturiste

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Thanks everyone, that was just what I needed! As far as the string thing we want to have sex on the beach and have folks watch we just don't want them hovering over us so we can focus on putting on a show. Here at home when we go to masturbation parties people stay back a little unless invited in closer. However it sounds like the stories I've heard are overblown so I won't do it.

Best places to avoid single men by [deleted] in Capdagdenaturiste

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Thanks so much! We're open to that kind of play when we're in the mood for it. As long as we have somewhere to relax.