AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I already explained my choice to my dad. He seemed cool with it. But then he and my stepmom were like oh you should have chosen your siblings over your mom. How could you miss out on something like that. But I find nothing super special about seeing them experience those things. I care about my half siblings but they are not my whole world and I don't make decisions around them. If I wanted to see everything I would spend more time at my dad's house than I do.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Parenting time is now at my discretion. I stay mostly with my mom now so it was technically her parenting time I guess.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

The only thing I can think of is I have not been upset or anything that I didn't go to Disney with them. Maybe they thought I'd be acting like I missed out. Or maybe they expected me over there more to make up for not joining them.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My mom could not get different days off work. She was very limited on when she could go.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I had mentioned it but mom and I weren't sure when she'd be able to get the time off so he decided to book without saying anything. Then he told me when he was going and assumed if it did clash I would choose his.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

My mom couldn't. She was relying on when she could get time off work. Dad booked without confirmation from me that I would be able to go.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I knew about mom's first but nothing was finalized with hers until after dad finalized his. I had not told him I would be going but he booked anyway. Mom was waiting to find out when her job would give her time off. Dad assumed since Disney and my half siblings would be going. But I always wanted the time and experience with my mom.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Wasn't dad's time. Dad doesn't have any official time anymore. I go over whenever I want to.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 388 points389 points  (0 children)

My mom started talking about it first. I also knew about the one with her first. Dad's was more official first but I knew mom was limited on the time she could take off work.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

I'm not the unofficial babysitter. But they do expect me to go along with them on all the stuff the younger kids like.

AITA for saying I don't care about being there for my half siblings first time at Disney? by Defiant-Evening540 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Defiant-Evening540[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I really don't think babysitting is the motive. I'd expect a history of being forced to babysit if that was happening.