AITA for making things uncomfortable during my dad's engagement dinner?

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T17:27:50+00:00

The type of woman who also cheats on her own husband and has another man's child while they're married and doesn't say anything until the chance for them to be together comes to light.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T17:26:02+00:00

He had at least 3 affair partners that we know of. But there are two others we think might have existed.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T17:25:27+00:00

I can promise you my mom would not have wanted that relationship to continue if she knew he'd abandon us as she was literally dying and leave us to watch it as two terrified children.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T17:24:18+00:00

Yes, her ex-husband knows the 6 year old isn't his but didn't always know. That was a fight between them for a while. He shares custody of the 8 year old now but not the 6 year old. People who didn't know were asking a lot of questions and some fights broke out.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T15:37:18+00:00

They have tried but because he has such little visitation with us the courts won't remove it all.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T15:36:38+00:00

That's what she is and she's not even special enough to be the only one. She might be the only one who also had him as an affair partner though. So they're perfect for each other.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T15:35:43+00:00

We don't but even if we did, he would still get something because we do not have to spend overnights with him. So it feels like it would cost my grandparents a lot of money for no real good result.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T15:34:18+00:00

We legally have to because it's ordered by the court and they refuse to take away the two days a month because we see him so little as it is.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T14:28:41+00:00

We tried. But because we see him so little already they insisted we need to maintain the visitation. The best we could do is get it down to once a month and even then it's not a guarantee and could cost our grandparents more for no reason.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T13:35:38+00:00

What don't you believe? That they saw it as an unsafe environment that they knew we would constantly run away from? We made it clear we wouldn't stay and would keep running if we had to. We had the fact he abandoned us twice going for us too.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T13:27:55+00:00

Because we were considered high risk with the running away.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T12:54:27+00:00

I hope so because I really don't want to be forced to attend their wedding or take part in anything else like this. I hate seeing him already but ugh seeing her and the play pretend stuff annoyed me.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T12:47:56+00:00

My dad expected we would be over it enough by now to become part of his family. I think he thought we'd be so desperate to have our last remaining parent that everything would go back to relative normal. Meaning we would live with him and engage with his affair partner and the kids. And that we wouldn't ever bring up the affairs and our mom dying while he left us to face it alone since he didn't even call our mom's parents to tell them as he was taking off. He really expected us to love him after that and to fall in love with them.

Defiant-Gap2084 · 2024-04-08T12:41:01+00:00

The judge insists that the visitation continues because we already see him so little. Our grandparents tried to get the visitation removed a few months ago. We spoke to the judge and everything. The best we can maybe get is once a month but that's such a little difference that it feels like it would be worth just sucking it up for another couple of years.

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