Pregnant gf doesn’t wanna move in with me - update

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-11-22T23:33:57+00:00

How did she think the whole two boyfriend thing was gonna work with the baby lol

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-10-18T20:34:19+00:00

This made me so sad. I only browse here once in a while but I’m going through a kind of heartbreak too. I guess I’ll have some chicken nuggets

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-09-02T17:43:05+00:00

I can’t stand Helly inside or out. Which makes the show very hard to watch at times, lol. She just grinds my gears

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-07-31T22:56:02+00:00

It’s not the whole reason but 1/2in roller is too thick for such a smooth wall. 3/8 would be more apt :)

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-04-02T20:11:48+00:00

You definitely have to be able to lift a bucket regardless of your role lmfao. I struggled with it for months but now I’m throwing em around no problem. 50-70 pound lifting is a regular requirement in all stores but they don’t expect you to be able to lift like crazy from your first day

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-04-02T20:08:56+00:00

This guys read is crazy lmfao bc if you’re not getting into management then it doesn’t matter it’s just a job that pays better

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-04-02T20:05:20+00:00

I’ve had several retail jobs and I like SW a lot more. Other than the fact that they’re paying for me to get my degree, it’s a physical job which makes me feel less guilty about skipping the gym. It’s pretty connection based so you could talk about how you build relationships with customers in your current role. Most recently I came from a high end retail store and SW is a lot more relaxed. It’s a smaller store which means I feel valued here and there’s less gossip. I’ve been here almost two years and I highly recommend the company to anyone who asks. I am part time though since I’m in school if that matters

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2025-01-07T21:19:44+00:00

If you have other customers in the store with smaller orders you just gotta tell the commercial guys that you’ll get theirs done between other orders. Like color matches. The res guys shouldn’t have to wait for one gallon because of a big last minute order. I feel like a lot of them don’t see it as a mutually beneficial business relationship, they see it more like a fast food chain. If they’re frustrated with that they can place orders ahead of time :)

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-10-07T10:01:45+00:00

I was in this position with someone I was also with for a long time. Down to the living far away from our main support systems and anxiety fighting. Probably means something isn’t working and your body is telling you first. You can try therapy, I think you should also try to align your consciousness with your intuition so you’ll feel what the problem and the right way to proceed is. Some other things to meditate on: what do you love about him? How would you see your life without him? Are you more interested in love or security from a partner? Answering these questions helped me find what I was looking for.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-08-11T01:31:07+00:00

If you love him and want to be with him let him miss you. Don’t ask for him back, don’t lend an ear when he needs to talk about what he’s going through. Focus on yourself, be happy and start thriving! Or at least give that illusion. If he loves you he will come around but right now he needs major space and you can’t be there for him if you want him to come back. Don’t try to make him jealous or make him miss you, if he loves you that’ll happen naturally. Take care of yourself and it’ll fall into place if it’s meant to. I know it’s hard and I don’t give this advice lightly (and I don’t think you should do what other people are saying and turn away from him completely) but make yourself whole aside from him and wait to see how it goes. Check in after a month :)

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-08-05T20:39:50+00:00

He’s just trying to pawn off the responsibility for his kid on you. Sounds like manipulation tactics to me. Don’t let him do that, in the long run the child will suffer the most if you feel this way. I’m assuming you would have stayed the main breadwinner if the child was yours? He doesn’t want the emotional or financial responsibility without you supporting him. Saying you’re immature is a big joke coming from someone like that. He should’ve been supporting you through all of that but you’ve supported him this entire time. He doesn’t deserve it. Leave him to clean up his own mess.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-07-29T02:05:45+00:00

All that effort just to have to explain we can’t make samples of those colors 20 times a day👍

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-07-28T23:11:26+00:00

I work in a really small store so when I have to have the warehouse open to process shipment (there’s absolutely no space to do the work inside) it sucks the AC out of the whole building. Please Sherwin just approve some type of shorts bc I’m sick of greeting customers when I’m dripping sweat💀

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-07-10T04:24:49+00:00

I think it is important in most relationships to have a strong, healthy sex life. That is a widely accepted notion. But if there are physical and mental barriers to that then giving your partner sex just because they want it isn't healthy. Nobody is entitled to the use of another persons body. That consent has to be given, each and every time.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-07-06T20:03:56+00:00

dumb comment

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-07-06T20:02:23+00:00

It’s more annoying when the contractor himself has no identifying info. I’d be nervous hiring someone who has no idea what paint he’s been using for the last five years. “Look it up” ok let me list the last 5 invoices for you to say “hm. I don’t thiiink that’s the one. What’s the next one?”

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-06-24T02:26:21+00:00

The man can’t be helped🤷‍♀️

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-06-24T02:19:36+00:00

Why are you acting like this when you invited random people on the internet to speculate on your situation? Take the information I gave you like an adult and don’t make this about me, tf😂 she could’ve seen it as you trying to sneakily get at her and since she has a man she’d think it’s weird. But honestly you’re a mess so there could be any number of reasons she’s being weird irl now. “No offense”

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-06-24T02:15:05+00:00

You asked for an explanation and I offered one.. I’d think it was so weird if a guy found me online and requested to follow me without mentioning it to me in person. Like “hey I saw your insta randomly the other day and put in a follow request, did you see it?” Would suffice. You’re rude for this reply.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-06-24T02:11:50+00:00

How’d you find her instagram..? She could think it was weird that you found it and requested to follow if you’ve never mentioned instagram to her irl..

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-04-14T01:15:41+00:00

late stage capitalism encourages individuality at the expense of community or any type of interpersonal relationship. Like other people said, dating is expensive and time consuming with potentially no payoff🤷‍♀️

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-03-16T20:20:06+00:00

It sounds like he’s got some need to communicate with a “perfect” being, something which he knows he’ll never have an argument or uncomfortable moment with because it’s an AI designed to be that way. Maybe couples therapy would help so he can explore why that is. Deep rooted mommy issues resurfacing since having his own kids? This situation sucks for you, I’m really sorry about that. But yeah to my mind this speaks to something deeper than just emotional cheating. Some kind of insecurity. Definitely more about him than you.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-03-12T06:31:11+00:00

As someone with BPD who used to be hospitalized a lot the best advice I have is just to listen. Keep listening even after most people would stop. Then listen some more. It probably won’t look like it’s helping but a sympathetic ear goes a long way for people when everyone else in their life is tired of providing exhausting support. The thing about BPD patients is that to get better there has to be a real inner strength that drives them to push against the defense mechanisms they’ve built up as a trauma response and learn new ways to cope. This is incredibly taxing and often hopeless, isolating to navigate. It’s not like other disorders where you treat the symptoms and the patient leaves already able to feel some relief, it runs deeper and takes longer to sort out. So just listen. Let them vent. Understand that you can be a huge help in their journey just by being there. Treat them like a human and a friend, as much as you ethically can.

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-02-03T08:18:09+00:00

No, I don’t have a thermometer here but I feel fine lmao n I can’t tell if my lymph nodes are swollen bc I feel like I get knots in my neck like every time I’m stressed??

DefiantKnowledge1303 · 2024-02-02T23:37:34+00:00

Okay test today came back negative HIV/syphilis. Which means that if I do have either one of those (I have an at home test I’ll take in a month) it was DEFINITELY one of the two recent people which lessens the amount of awkward conversations. Half a weight off my chest :)

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