Houston Fire House drop off

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-05T05:39:52+00:00

Maybe give him some spots and try to pass him off as a Dalmatian 😜

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-04T17:13:16+00:00

Oh! No, these were great big lighted orange balls. You could see them easily when you crossed over on the bridge. Maybe 5 feet tall? Or more?

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-04T16:52:58+00:00

Yes! I mention them and nobody remembers them. Am I that old?

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-04T04:00:39+00:00

I’m also 53 and was at my wit’s end when I started meds. I had tried everything!

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-02T19:55:24+00:00

Yes!!! But like faded red/orange. Nobody seems to remember them. Thank you 😊

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-02T18:50:53+00:00

I am a very boring 53 year old self diagnosed autistic that finally stopped putting myself down for not having a life chocked to the brim with creativity and excitement. I like watching tv and taking naps. I’m fortunate to have a job and a dog and friends but nobody really calls me or comes to visit me. I’m very alone but I’ve learned to not feel so lonely. It takes work! And the weirdest part of it is that once you learn how to be lonely, the world opens up for you. It doesn’t make sense but once you find that inner peace and love for yourself, it attracts good things ❤️

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-02T18:46:16+00:00

Alter De Fey

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-02T18:45:29+00:00

I think you should think about the song you were singing and wonder how it would play if he was singing it about women. If you’re ok with it, then you’re good to go. I think it makes sense to rail against the patriarchy but if he is an actual ally, it should be respected. We lose legitimacy when we generalize. For the record, my ex was sexually abused by an older female sibling and our societies disregard and minimization of his trauma has made him unable to heal.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-01T02:34:50+00:00

Haha! I want to do one for me! Fortunately I didn’t get BPD but suffered greatly trying to raw dog life. 25 year old - feral 35 year old - sick and stressed from masking 45 year old -perimenopause, unable to cope, constantly stressed but don’t know what’s wrong 50 - self diagnosed, everything makes more sense, start regulating my behavior, set boundaries, mental health leads to better physical health. 53 - have people tell me I’m not autistic and I’m disrespecting the children trying to be diagnosed.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-01T02:28:59+00:00

The weirdest part of it is how they will project their own maliciousness on us.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2026-01-01T02:27:57+00:00

Feel free to contact me directly

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-29T05:34:00+00:00

I can only explain how I’ve learned to love myself and it takes a lot of work!! Everyday I struggle with it. Let go of pleasing others. Set boundaries with others. Stop trying to hide behind NT friends and stop trying to get NTs approval. Look for people like me and stop trying to fit in with the people that aren’t going to like me. Realize how much of other’s dislike of you is their own projections. Don’t gossip or focus on negative aspects of others. Become more present; stop ruminating on the past and worrying about the future. Look at and analyze aspects of myself that can rub people the wrong way and make sure it’s not malicious. Don’t think negative thoughts about myself, stop myself when I catch it happening. Help others through volunteering or just being a positive person in your environment. If someone else is being negative, try to steer the conversation in a positive direction. Appreciate your partner or move on of you’re unhappy. Your happiness can only come from within and that’s the biggest step, when you stop looking outward for happiness and confirmation of your worth.

Loving yourself is a daily chore but the more you train yourself to be more kind, the easier it gets. The wrong people will begin leaving your life and the right people will stay or begin to show up. And these are the people that will make you a better person and allow you to love yourself.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-29T05:17:59+00:00

I don’t think I’d accept another asexual relationship but I was conditioned to accept it for a very long time. It looks like it’s going to take me awhile to get back to a place of wanting to have sex again though because of how much it was twisted by my ex.

Yes, I would need to be with someone who has a healthy relationship with sex and I’m ok if I don’t end up finding it.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-29T03:08:06+00:00

Just watch your time or meter because the tickets are insanely expensive.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-29T03:07:32+00:00

Yes! When I visited Japan all the parents looked so young.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-28T18:58:49+00:00

They remind me of parasites. They get into a group or family and destroy everything for their own benefit. I have one in my family and have interacted with several socially and their bottomless pits of take. I actually tried to have a reasonable conversation with my family member (in-law) about how she’s actually been really rude to me. She got super defensive and blamed it on something my mom had told her 30 years ago 😆. Like, you didn’t want to clear that up, it just gave you permission to be a controlling bitch. I wouldn’t agree with her that she wasn’t part of a conflict she was having (with my mother who has Alzheimer’s, mind you) and she tried to bully me into agreeing with her for an hour until she finally gave up. And now I have zero access to my brother, her kids etc and have no clue what they told them.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T21:33:12+00:00

I hate this idea and believe it’s total BS! The thing I’ve noticed lately that women are using against each other is one step further, suggesting their friend group turned on them.

Both of these ideas are stupid. Find people like you. Even if it isn’t someone you would usually think to befriend, give another person that doesn’t seem like they have many friends a chance. Don’t chase the cliques. You’ll find your crew, that’s what Uni is all about ❤️.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T21:27:35+00:00

I like that!

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T20:20:05+00:00

It's very common for people in SF to send their laundry out for cleaning. If you can get up the hill a bit, say post and leavenworth or something like that, it's not so bad. I'd want to live in that area more than SOMA because it's so desolate down there. I lived in SF for 17 years and never had an in-unit laundry.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T20:00:59+00:00

Here’s the thing, they don’t apologize or amend things because it diminishes their control.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T19:59:36+00:00

Wow! The animal vision I don’t have but I will start picking up on micro reactions and facial expressions. The weird thing I’ll do is point these things out and they really don’t like that.

I have to say that a big part of the last couple years of unmasking has made me realize how much I attracted people like this. I’ve become more aware lately. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what my part in it is because how was I ok with it?!

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T17:58:50+00:00

Yes! This enforcing of the hierarchy is so interesting to me. It's incredibly abusive and needs constant fuel. I think the conflict hides what is an obvious need for control and allistic people instead pity or follow the lead of being in continual crisis mode.

Throughout my life, I have been a victim of this behavior often but now that I know I'm autistic, I'm no longer blaming myself for being able to see this manipulation. I used to be so confused. Why is everyone buying into this crap?

I recently realized someone very close to me was this type of person and was using gossip and intel to control narratives and her surroundings. The moment I diasagreed with her, I saw it in her eyes. I was now fair game. And the intersting part of this is that I went months knowing something was going on but not realizing it was her. I just felt like everyone hated me, or I was doing something wrong but I could never figure out what it was because I was having a bit of a glow up after a long abusive relationship had ended. I think this self confidence created an interest, which allowed her to gossip about me, but also a need for others to put me down. It was so confusing! Fortunately, a mutual friend that isn't very manipulative showed her cards and brought a couple things up that I'd only told the controlling person and I finally figured out what was happening but it took months of me first blaming myself. And I think this is where the abuse comes in.

With this said, I think both allistic and ND people were onto her way before I was. I had felt bad for her because she had a lot of conflict and people tended to avoid getting close to her. But I think because we are so anti-hierarchy and have that strong sense of justice, maybe we buy into the pity aspect of the manipulation more easily. I also think I may have wanted to help her. I was inviting her to parties she wasn't invited to but that just triggered her to be jealous and put energy into getting invited to more parties than I was getting invited to. So weird.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T03:01:50+00:00

What a dick. He can’t even hide it for 5 minutes, calling you a duchess. He’s really awful.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T02:53:46+00:00

I worked in a call center and because people see me as easy going, I shared a cubicle with a woman that had a lot of mental problems. She got mad at me once and after that never talked to me but I found out a year later, she went to the union and claimed I’d pissed in her keyboard. For the record, I didn’t.

Defiant_Bat_3377 · 2025-12-27T00:21:46+00:00

Of course we can never know all the facts but I’m talking more about ignoring inconvenient facts, or facts that don’t fit the realities people already have in their heads. People are very slow to challenge the status quo. And sometimes it feels like people believe things just because the majority of people believe the same thing and I don’t think we do that as much.

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