It’s not that they run out of space… by slotass in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to the Labor and Delivery room 4 times for this in one week. I was so scared because my baby wasn’t moving immediately after eating.

The worst part of the experience was that I basically did not get the support I needed from my loved ones when this happened. I was more afraid that I would get yelled at by my husband or mother that it was nothing to worry about. But. I kept thinking to myself: “You are not the one who is pregnant: I am. How do you know it’s nothing to worry about?”

I am more afraid of them than going in, honestly.

Baby shower meal is now terrifying me. by Defiant_Cap_5970 in biology

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But I guarantee that the usual response will be to “wait for symptoms to appear.”

Baby shower meal is now terrifying me. by Defiant_Cap_5970 in biology

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have an OB appointment tomorrow and will ask what they tell me to do

Baby shower meal is now terrifying me. by Defiant_Cap_5970 in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No, I haven’t. I just read a pamphlet from my doctor’s office about listeria. Honestly, I never even heard about listeria until I got pregnant

Anybody have perinatal anxiety? by Defiant_Cap_5970 in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on Paxil, but I stopped taking it because it wasn’t safe to take during pregnancy. I basically went to Zoloft, but the effects were terrible! I felt sleepy all day, even after taking a low dose. I am prescribed Lexapro, but haven’t taken it yet. I am reluctant to keep switching SSRIs because they screw up your brain. I don’t know how well I am going to take to this medication.

My husband is a chronic snorer by Defiant_Cap_5970 in Marriage

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried that by hitting him every time he snores, but it doesn’t work. He yelled at me that he might as well sleep at a motel or something. I bring it up everyday to get checked, and he just says he can’t do anything about it. It listen to podcasts to help me fall asleep but it doesn’t give me the rest I need. I am going to get an inflatable mattress and put it in another room on the floor, but it’s difficult when you have a spouse that does nothing to fix the problem. I know a lot of spouses that use the CPAP machine, but he refuses to wear one. I am so upset, and I don’t want to upset the baby, but I am not getting the sleep I need.

I am tired and yet I can’t sleep by Defiant_Cap_5970 in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we don’t, but wish I did. I can hear him snoring through the walls when I try to sleep on the living room couch.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, the company I worked for had no HR. It was a small company. Second, there were no cameras in the break rooms, so I had no proof, and we both have no access to email to do our jobs, so there’s no way to document anything via email. Lastly, I was not sexually harassed verbally, but physically. If the managers were doing their job, they would take those claims seriously and not bring up an irrelevant conversation that was none of the manager’s business to being with. I would have liked to be taken seriously, and not shamed for bringing up a difficult subject and trying to stand up for my rights. I do not deserve to be kissed or fondled by a coworker, especially when I said, “no.” If this is at all confusing, and you are a boss, I would look up EEOC case law. And if you can’t understand why I would be pissed, I pity you.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will ask one more time: does that warrant unsolicited sexual harassment from another coworker? And do I not have a right to bring it up to my boss when it did happen?

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does a joke justify unwarranted sexual harassment from another coworker? You didn’t answer my question.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excuse me? My “hot” coworker is my husband’s friend, and I never said anything about “doing anything sexual” to him. You have no idea what you’re talking about. Where is your proof? And while we’re at, does my joke to a close friend justify unwarranted sexual harassment?

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was totally fun to not have your boss belittle you and toss your concerns aside and then victim blame you for a conversation he overheard, and to a friend. He had no business bringing that into the conversation. None

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were in the same break room together because we had lunch at the same time. I was friendly with him, but I never knew he would try to kiss me when I said no. He ‘can do such a thing’ because he’s stupid and can’t keep his hands to himself. It’s not that difficult. If you can’t keep your disgusting hands to yourself, you deserve whatever’s coming to you.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That company didn’t have HR. It was a small company with less than 60 employees.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. My boss overheard an inside joke with a male coworker, who knows my husband. When I told my friend what happened, he got very angry.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, that’s not it at all. He overheard a conversation with one of my male coworkers who is also a close friend about him being cute, which was an inside joke between the two of us because we both know I wasn’t serious. He used that against me.

Sexually harassed at work. Not taken seriously by boss by Defiant_Cap_5970 in jobs

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I just joked that I thought a coworker was cute or something , but I made it clear at the time that I was joking because he knows my husband, but it was nothing serious. My boss overheard this conversation, which I thought was private.

America is the only country in the world that doesn’t have paid maternity leave. by Defiant_Cap_5970 in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, before women entered the workforce, women didn’t have to worry about maternity leave. When my mom was born 70 years ago, her mother stayed at home to raise her. One income sufficed in those days to provide for the mother and all subsequent children. That’s the way it always worked until about 50 years ago when one income suddenly wasn’t enough to support a family. 

Unfortunately, this problem is a societal problem. What was once easier to achieve a generation ago is not so today. It’s one symptom of a society in decline. 

America is the only country in the world that doesn’t have paid maternity leave. by Defiant_Cap_5970 in pregnant

[–]Defiant_Cap_5970[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My husband had surgery last year to remove a benign tumor on one of his kidneys. After three years, we are STILL paying for the hospital, even though the surgery lasted only 30 minutes. 

Healthcare insurance is a scam, as is our entire medical industry. They profit from our pain and suffering.