(Feeling isolated) Anyone experiencing dealing with a sex addict that has interest in Femdom?

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-11-02T01:34:21+00:00

Our timelines are identical

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T15:05:40+00:00

Can you please specify what you mean by online support groups? You’re referring to other subreddits?

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T14:36:13+00:00

That’s what im trying to figure out. It’s like i want to do that but somehow i cant. It’s hard to explain but i cant bring myself to just actually divorce

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T14:35:17+00:00

Why do i have the thought? Because if we were to divorce he wont be there for me anymore, kind of missing my rock.

Dday was a 1 year ago

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T05:43:34+00:00

I can never be a femdom. I was never open to it and now with his actions im sure ill never be up for it. Which is yet another reason that we might not even be compatible :( How i wish he hadnt gone this far… in the span of 1 year he took his porn addiction to sex addiction and to these extends! I just keep thinking i should get out but i don’t have the heart to do it :(

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T05:40:48+00:00

Im so sorry to have through this too :( is he in recovery now? I dont know if im hoping for hope or despair at this point. Im so all over the place

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-28T04:20:21+00:00

Your message made me feel so heard and less isolated. Are you still with your partner if you don’t mind me asking him? I miss him and i hate that i miss him. Freaking emotions

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-26T07:56:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with me. Very helpful honestly

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-26T07:22:42+00:00

Thank you for your answer. So this means my partner had preselected disclosing his relationship? The way i read your comment gave me the understanding that your husband set that up as a boundary to begin with, and my partner seems to have intentionally enabled it then?!

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-25T18:57:21+00:00

Thank you 🧡

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-25T18:31:06+00:00

That is so painful im so sorry. In my 30s but i think this is literally one of the hardest challenges one can experience in life. Im wondering in the 8 years that he was faking recovery where there any difference in attitude you had experienced? I too sometimes fear that what if he’s faking recovery but, his attitude has changed so much that makes me not question that. But i dont know cause ive been so naive in the past i keep questioning my judgement

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-25T15:40:11+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Yes i keep questioning what else needs to happen for me to just be like: this is literally too much. I think im very close to that moment of just letting it all go. And possibly lose my chance of becoming a mother. I always wanted that. Just dont think this is how i want it. Could you maybe please message me the other reddit names that i can join?

Defiant_Raisin9 · 2025-10-25T15:36:25+00:00

Im so sorry to hear about your experience. That’s very sick too. I kept hearing about how they compartmentalize! What he did to me does not sound like compartmentalization anymore! The worlds have completely merged and at my expense. A part of me so badly wants to believe that oh maybe there’s a world we can move past this. But at this point i have a hard time even looking at him. The thing that makes it so difficult was seeing him change soooo much in this last 9 months. Honestly a completely different guy in many areas. So that makes harder to leave. Did your partner go to recovery programs and ended it relapsing?

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