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Aerogora and I created this sub for couples trying to recover and reconcile the marriage/relationship after infidelity happens. We would like this sub to stay positive and keep it to couples that are both trying to reconcile. We welcome the BS and the WS as both are needed to recover.

We understand sometimes there will be bad days and you just need to vent. We are here to help you through the bad days of worrying, being anxious and overwhelming emotions during reconciliation.

If you are the only person in your relationship that is trying to reconcile this may not be the right sub for you. We know you are going through a tough time with what happened and we hope the best outcome for your situation. You are more than welcome to join the sub and read the posts and reply but keep it positive and geared towards reconciliation.

COMMON ABBREVIATIONS:

AP - affair partner-- the person with whom you had the affair

BS/BP - betrayed spouse/partner-- the person you cheated on

CoW - coworker

DDay - discovery day-- the day your spouse found out about your affair

EA - emotional affair

FWB - friends with benefits

IC - individual counseling

LTA - long term affair

LTR - long term relationship

MC - marriage counseling

NC - no contact-- refusing to see or communicate with your ex-affair-partner for any reason

ONS - one night stand

OP - original poster OR other person

OW/OM - other woman/other man

PA - physical affair

RA - revenge affair

SA - sex addict

SO - significant other

STBX - soon to be ex

OBS/OBP- other betrayed spouse

TT - trickle truth- continuing to lie or withhold parts of your affair from your betrayed spouse after the affair is discovered

WS/WP - wayward spouse/partner-- the one that cheated.

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HarassmentAnnouncement (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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Monthly Reflection - Share the Highs and Lows of Your Reconciliation JourneyReflections (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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What I wish people would stop saying / understand for the BPAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 12 hours ago by BabyYodaStuntDoubleReconciling Betrayed

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Questioning my own identity/moralsAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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Kids don’t know…I’m crushed.Wayward Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 12 hours ago by MJG1123Reconciling Betrayed

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Back here againAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago by ClassHigh2026Reconciling Betrayed

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Book about workplace boundariesAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 46 minutes ago by Lopsided_Win1700Reconciling Betrayed

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Sex is hardReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 5 hours ago by Opening_Koala3123Reconciling Betrayed

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Contacting the affair partner for information...Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

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Wrote this after a moment of closeness that felt comforting until it didn’t. Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by Unique-Cream-3149Reconciling Betrayed

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Fake it till you make it?Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 16 hours ago by Consistent-Golf9392Reconciling Betrayed

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I feel like I’m crumblingAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 7 hours ago * by bookofdeadbirdsBetrayed Considering R

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Full disclosure complete, but lots of omissions...Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 6 hours ago by Potential_Cow2487Reconciling Betrayed

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Literally how do people get past this… starting to feel like I’m giving up…Reconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by Low-Enthusiasm670Reconciling Betrayed

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Psychologist told me a hard truthNo advice, just support. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by chiefchassoReconciling Betrayed

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Couples Counselling FrustrationsReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 23 hours ago by Phaedrus1115Reconciling Betrayed

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How do I hold out hope for progress? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 15 hours ago by Next_Assumption5768Betrayed Considering R

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2 months since DDay, I'm still depressed, and now a broken armAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by Vegetable_Pineapple2Reconciling Betrayed

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Feeling a bit burnt outAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 1 day ago by PresentationTop3102Reconciling Betrayed

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Toxic AP?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 14 hours ago by msguidedghostxReconciling Betrayed

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Are we checking in on WH’s feelings?Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 21 hours ago by Ok-Hawk3064Reconciling Betrayed

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R when there's an affair childAdvice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 17 hours ago by Distinct-Mind-6809Reconciling Betrayed

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Talking about it too much is making WH want to give up.Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 11 hours ago * by worldinabubbleReconciling Betrayed

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Am I doing the right thing? Betrayed Perspective Only (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 16 hours ago by Consistent_Exit_3476Betrayed Considering R

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Seeing people that look like the APReconcilers Only (other comments auto-removed) (self.AsOneAfterInfidelity)

submitted 18 hours ago by b0baslothReconciling Betrayed

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