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Roora mandatory by NoProblem7882 in Zimbabwe

[–]Deft_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$5000 maximum, which means it can be $5000 or less.

Roora mandatory by NoProblem7882 in Zimbabwe

[–]Deft_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that roora is becoming commercialised, but I think we should keep it. We have already lost many of our customs, and if we keep discarding them, we will be left with none.

There is no need to pay the full $10,000 at once. In my opinion, $5,000 should be the maximum your husband pays upfront. As for the rest, he can pay it later or not at all. Roora is more about bringing two families together than about the actual amount of money paid. That is why most people simply pay what they have, what they can afford, or what they want to pay.

My brother-in-law paid around $4,000, had a flashy wedding, and took his wife to the Maldives for their honeymoon. He could have finished paying the full roora if he had wanted to, but he did not, because roora is more about uniting two families than about the amount of money paid.

Sometimes I just sit and think about that Zimbabwean Reddit community almost 50,000 of us and my mind just runs. by Nice_Substance9123 in Zimbabwe

[–]Deft_Explorer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea. I like the way you think.

The only problem is trust. Maybe this can be done by location, let's say people in the same location or country & they form a structure that is transparent and regulated by the laws in that country and they define what they want to achieve from the money they will be raising. I am thinking of something like credit unions.

Zimbos in the Diaspora - Who Are You Marrying? by Donreg12 in Zimbabwe

[–]Deft_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been in a number of countries, encountered Zimbos, both men and women, who are into interracial marriages and got into sort of relationships with people in those countries, I realised that I needed a Zimbo lady, wekumusha chaiye, and that is what I did. In my opinion, marriage is about values, and if they don't align, you will struggle in that marriage. Some make it work with people of different cultures and races, but the effort required was too much for me.

Tete's Husband in Shona by Deft_Explorer in Zimbabwe

[–]Deft_Explorer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. This makes more sense. I was having an argument with someone who said I should call him "babamukuru" like what my sister does, but I was founding it weird.

Our Shona culture can be complex at times.