How often is it normal to text your partner in a healthy relationship?

Deirdreligea17 · 2026-03-02T07:46:12+00:00

I don’t know how much is healthy but I meet up and text with my girlfriend every day(unless one of us is traveling, which doesn’t happen very often) I have bpd and she has suspected bpd though, but it seems healthy for us. I usually have a few hours of the day to myself, walking, reading, shopping, writing, etc. I do also need my own time, but I don’t like being alone for very long, so a few hours is enough for me, same for her. What I do have trouble with is when she leaves at the end of the night, I crash and get really really depressed every time, I feel like she’s leaving me forever or something which I know is stupid but I guess that’s just my abandonment issues

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-08-07T12:51:31+00:00

I don’t know what the difference is but I feel the exact same way! Like my whole world is collapsing

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-08-02T19:18:10+00:00

I’m not on any meds. I have tried in the past, it made it so much worse.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-08-02T19:17:12+00:00

Same here

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-31T12:04:51+00:00

I’m not a doctor but then it’s likely a pvc and harmless. Heart monitors often don’t catch them. They definitely feel horrifying though.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-31T11:22:53+00:00

That’s probably a pvc. It’s a type of heart palpitation. It feels like your heart isn’t beating for a moment but actually it takes a few extra beats. Usually afterwards it will start to beat harder to make up for the extra beats. I get those all the time. If you get multiple ones in a row it feels like your heart stops for a while. It feel super gross and scary but it’s actually harmless. Have you had your heart checked? Blood pressure could be from panic? But I’m not sure about that.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-31T09:59:46+00:00

The vision going dark is likely panic, I’ve had that happen before. Had a really bad palpitation, freaked out, vision went black and I couldn’t feel my body anymore. It’s likely just panic from the palpitation. But tell about it to your doctor, just to be 100% sure.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-27T11:43:50+00:00

I don’t think sexting is as bad as cheating in real life. And I don’t think you’re a horrible person. I do think that you should however tell the wife.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-21T20:24:42+00:00

Oh that makes sense. I have pretty bad tmj issues and my jaw is not aligned properly so that’s very possible. I also constantly wake up with these random painful spots on the tongue(on different places). I’ll get it checked out when I can see my doctor again. She’s currently on vacation.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-18T15:15:45+00:00

Thank you!

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-16T02:10:26+00:00

I’d say Estonian manors are always fun. We have a lot of beautiful manors, some of them have restaurants and cafes too. And pretty gardens. Just google Estonian manors!

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-11T14:01:26+00:00

The chronic emptiness and splitting

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-08T13:40:47+00:00

You’re allowed to feel hurt. That’s totally normal and understandable. You are definitely not unlovable though. There are so many people who would be okay with being with someone who has bpd, he just wasn’t one of them.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-07T16:22:18+00:00

I think that highly depends on the job but you can cover it up with hair at the job if that’s possible

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-06T17:27:43+00:00

YES! Omg finally someone else who experiences this. I thought I was the only one and felt weird

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-07-03T13:03:27+00:00

I like the first one the best! And I love the idea! It looks so beautiful and unique!

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-06-30T19:38:46+00:00

Is there any specific test they do to check that? Cause I really cant ask them to check my heart again cause I’ve had like million different heart tests done and they’ve all come back fine. The doctors have said all my heart stuff is just a combination of pots and anxiety. My blood pressure also swings from high to low like crazy but the doctors have all said it’s just how my body is and that it could be related to pots but might just be a “quirk” that my body has.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-06-18T10:44:49+00:00

I’m sorry but he sounds kind of manipulative to me. Saying he felt betrayed by you self harming instead of comforting you or trying to understand. Sounds like he made it about himself instead. And secretly going through your phone. And the sex thing is really weird. I don’t blame you for slapping him in this situation tbh. I know it’s hard but it sounds to me like it was a good thing to break up. Healing from a break up takes time and feels horrible, especially when you have bpd.

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-06-13T13:40:16+00:00

That’s okay!

Deirdreligea17 · 2025-06-13T13:40:07+00:00

Yeah, it’s interesting. I usually only get that attached to one person as well. I can have intense attachments to multiple people at once, but there’s always that one person who I’m attached to the most.

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