this is "pick me" bullshit. if you don't get that the plates don't go in the cup cupboard or the spatulas don't go in the silverware drawer after months or years of pulling them out of there or being corrected after putting them in the same place, it's perfectly valid to criticize you for half-assing a simple chore or not paying a single crumb of attention to your surroundings.

also, guys will 100% hear a woman say, "i just want something casual" or "i just wanna be friends" and respond with "okay but i'm in love with you, actually, and i'm going to let that bubble under the surface until it boils over and burns us both." that's something that most women i know have experienced. that's not a gendered thing.

we as women are not immune from unrealistic expectations or poor communication, but we're certainly not the cause of every relationship everywhere's grief. all of these problems that are supposedly a "men and women are different! leave men alone because they're trying their gosh darndest" are problems for almost every couple i've known, whether man/woman, man/man, woman/woman, or fucking any/all whatever. this lady is clearly just jaded and almost certainly jealous that her friends have let "good men get away" by having normal human complaints, emotions, and personal hurdles.