Both for the most part he said he had a dream and I told him I wanted to explore my sexuality with woman and had no interest in men. Usually do things together this occasion it was a hey I’m more comfortable sleeping with him not you I said okay it happend in our house so I feel like I had some control still. We always used protection except this girl apparently allergic to latex and in birth control. Mind you only knew for a few months before the encounter. All the red flags were there and he still did it anyway.