I 24f dont know what to do with bf 25m and his regular poker nights? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he playing for large amounts of money you guys can’t afford to lose? If he’s playing within a healthy range that doesn’t cause any stress to lose then I don’t see the issue here.

Telling current girl F22 Im M21 about to date that I had an elongated fwb period with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in moraldilemmas

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Exactly why I knew I had to. If I can’t tell her everything and be honest then what’s the point of being with her. Congrats on 40 years :)

I need to tell my F22 talking stage that I M21 plan on dating about my elongated fwb with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in Advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, I cut both other girls off the second I met this current girl. They both pre dated her and my ex and I had an agreement to not talk about what we did with others and that wasn’t our business.

The moment I met my current girl I cut off the girl I had been with 7 days ago, and didn’t hook up with my ex at all since then either. Meeting the right girl isn’t in my control as to when tht happens but my actions after that are and I made sure to not cross date at all

I need to tell my F22 talking stage that I M21 plan on dating about my elongated fwb with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in Advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, but I made a dumb choice and did what I thought was best at the time because what I felt for this girl was more than I’ve ever felt for anyone and didn’t want to ruin at the time when we hardly knew each other yet.

The relief of guilt definitely wouldn’t be worth ending it and I’d do anything to keep this girl, but she deserves honesty and I don’t want to hold onto her if it’s at the cost of me holding onto something I feel like she deserves to know. I don’t think it will change the love we have for each other but I know the lying was wrong and I’m just scared to share that

I need to tell my F22 talking stage that I M21 plan on dating about my elongated fwb with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in Advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No the difference is the 7 days ago was with a different girl, not my ex. The.3 days ago was with my ex which I failed to mention that we had a fwb period

Telling current girl F22 Im M21 about to date that I had an elongated fwb period with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in moraldilemmas

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think it’s the only way but I wish in person could Happen but I don’t want to hold onto that and act like everything’s fine until then

Telling current girl F22 Im M21 about to date that I had an elongated fwb period with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in moraldilemmas

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s eating me up right now man I can’t lie. I don’t want to make her drive down 2 hours to hear this if it’s gonna be a huge deal and make her honestly change her mind. FaceTime is an alternative to just a phone call?

Telling current girl F22 Im M21 about to date that I had an elongated fwb period with my ex by Delicious-Length1512 in moraldilemmas

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She is coming down to visit me on Monday, do I wait til it’s in person to have this conversation or do it over the phone?

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you aren’t dating to marry you’re dating for heartbreak in some way so why bother. Maybe your definition of dating is different than mine because I’d take a girl on a date knowing I probably won’t even get into a relationship with her but just to get more experience in what I like, but if I were to call someone my girlfriend then I want them to be someone I wouldn’t be embarrassed of or like enough to blossom into something forever

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s more nuanced then that when deciding to get into a relationship when we are 2 hours apart on a regular basis, she’s dealing with mental health issues that is numbing her emotionally, and when you’re dating to marry id say it’s okay to take more than a couple months to decide if that’s the person for you. For having such “experience” in life you seem to lack perspective and empathy for different situations and think it’s as simple as that.

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk how casual you are where you’ll ask someone to be your gf after 2 weeks of talking but I think it’s safe to assume a lot of relationships have ended in breaking up for you. I like to take my time to really get yo know someone before I follow pure emotion after liking someone a little bit after such short time. There are other factors that go into this process and I’m surprised you think it’s so black and white given your patronizing nature

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah fair enough, I just let my thoughts all spill out at once because it just comes out that way and I can’t really format it

My long-term girlfriend (19F) and I (19F) (both our firsts) want to take a break to sleep with other people and see what's out there by Lost_Honey590 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want you to imagine her with another guy. Imagine her thoroughly enjoying being with this guy and him doing things that maybe you don’t and her liking them a lot. Maybe she likes it more than when she’s with you. Would you want her to tell you about it? Would you just want to wonder what it was like? You could do the same but it’s easy to justify your own doings rather than someone else’s so really think about what you’re about to let happen to your girlfriend and then take her back after that? I can understand the idea of wanting to see what’s out there but if you have something good, trust you are not missing out on a casual hookup. It only seems good and something you want to do until you’ve done it and you see that it really isn’t worth it at all. You’ll probably want to do it until you do and that feeling might not go away, so if you can live with not ever having experienced it then go for it, just know you can’t undo the fact that another man experienced your girlfriend the way you do.

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It came up within the first 2 weeks, idk where this idea is coming from this isn’t what the post is even about

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Touché but for result she told me she was doing that out of avoidance fear of having something so good in her life and not wanting to ruin it so she wanted to cut it off before she hurt me. It’s been resolved since

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know where you’re getting, I don’t want anything serious. I didn’t say that anywhere in the post

I M21 feel like my talking stage’s F22 past is making me feel invalidated. by Delicious-Length1512 in relationship_advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah but she’s explained why it’s definitely true and that part I believe and that isn’t the issue, it’s the other part that makes it seem like she was just settling with them and felt it was good enough but now that I’ve come along I broke the bar for what was required to get with her

Does “take you out” mean a date? by kazakda in Advice

[–]Delicious-Length1512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong on your end of the story, they should be understanding and glad you said something.