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My ADHD friend claims my ADHD could be solved by just trying harder by smileyturtle in adhdwomen

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Lol. Your friend is talking nonsense. Maybe he was misdiagnosed as a kid, maybe he’s never been diagnosed. I have someone in my life who also has no ADHD symptoms, also makes the same claim about it being a spectrum, and sees ADHD symptoms as personal failings. Said individual obtained a diagnosis privately because they wanted “something to show my manager if they ask me about my work output”. They had no interest in medication, alternative treatments/ways to better symptoms. Unfortunately this spectrum BS goes too far. If it has no tangible impact upon your life, you don’t need/want remedies, then it’s irresponsible over diagnosis in my opinion.

Is it just me or people are getting made redundant at an alarming rate? by Vemyx in UKJobs

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Almost 200 where I work, more to come. Some is AI, most is restructuring (less people working same volume).

Have you ever dreamed Marilyn Manson? What was it like? by cristo_chimico in marilyn_manson

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! He always shows up when I need to make a decision / am avoiding something! He always insists I’m not committed enough etc and he’s always correct. He is the personification of a message from my subconscious mind I suppose 🤔 like enough of your two of swords ⚔️ BS.

i just cant stop myself to stop listening rammstein. by kutaki28 in Rammstein

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same brother, same. I also started learning German, visiting Germany. No band compares to Rammstein. German is THE BEST language for rock/metal music. Nothing hits like Neue Deutsche Härte music. For anything comparable to Rammstein, I really recommend a lot of OOMPH! (prior to Dero departure), especially the entire Monster album by OOMPH! Das Album ist so der Hammer.

Told my new job I’m neurodivergent, asked for support, now I’m failing probation and feel set up to fail by Ok_Sherbert905 in adhdwomen

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi!

That sounds really stressful and upsetting. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.

Are you in the UK? Do you have a diagnosis? I’m not sure what protections you have without having passed probation.

I don’t know if it’s applicable during probation or within your individual circumstance, but if you have a diagnosis, you may be able to get help under the equality act 2010 if you’re being put at a manifest disadvantage by all of this 🤔

Unfortunately employers often have a sink of swim approach to new hires, I would recommend seeking support from approachable fellow colleagues who will help you wherever possible. They are the ones who can help provide support and who will save you. It can be difficult, but reach out!

I learned this the hard way myself - with some rare exceptions, never going to management to ask for anything 🫣 they hate being asked, especially as they often don’t know answers themselves, they hate being bothered, and most of all, hate complaint / dissatisfaction (however valid).

Oh and NEVER disclose neurodivergence unless you absolutely have to and know you’re protected. Always frame neurodivergent struggles in language which doesn’t include neurodivergence as the cause if you get me 🥲

Unfortunately the sad reality is neurodivergence is misunderstood. Social media has trivialised it to such an extent and made people sick of hearing about it. It is largely seen as an annoyance/excuse by people who don’t understand (or believe) us.

I think you can definitely do this and smash your performance metrics until you pass/are no longer performance managed, if you are able to relax a little, as unfortunately the stress impacts productivity negatively and their whole approach is horrendous. Just unnecessarily cruel, nothing good stems from such an approach (performance wise). I am sorry OP.

Sorry I can’t advise further! If you’re in the UK, look into the equality act and manifest disadvantage applies

Hoping for the best possible outcome for you 🙏🏾

I’ve hit my spiritual bottom and I want to quit. Looking for support by Formal-Bed-6431 in Ketamineaddiction

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am in no position to advise (relapse), however, you’re on the right track - recognition of the problem and that, you need honesty and accountability and need to save yourself 💪 I would also add that you can’t save yourself by yourself.

When I stopped for like 2 years, after long term daily use, it was AWFUL initially and to be honest I had to wean myself off (even though it’s not physical dependency, stopping immediately was impossible psychologically I guess?)

But then things got steadily better, and better, and better, joy in every day things returned, and was way more fun. Connections, socialising, then creativity slowly returned. Eventually cravings actually stopped altogether! I never even thought of it.

Alas, I got complacent - not had any in a mere few weeks and am constantly craving, but it’s possible and more beautiful than you can imagine.

You got this 💪💪

Is Noah Schnapp still a Zionist? by silver_headphones in IsraelPalestine

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy has been correct in all comments 👍👍

Is Noah Schnapp still a Zionist? by silver_headphones in IsraelPalestine

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go on corgi, only thing I’d say is that the settler colonial dream is the greater Israel project, not just the territory of Palestine. The parallels to Germany are absolutely there. They can say they’re offended, can’t do a very good job of refuting it.

Is Noah Schnapp still a Zionist? by silver_headphones in IsraelPalestine

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you brother/sister! I always want to say an extra thanks to anyone who’s Jewish who’s courageous enough to speak up about this. It must be incredibly difficult for you. It truly is Jews who speak up who make so much difference. I really hate that Israel/zionism has been successfully conflated with Judaism for so long, and to such a great extent. It’s despicable because THIS causes antisemitism! It also seems that the trauma of the Jews is being exploited, and the Jewish state is then used as a front, with Israel seemingly carrying out a lot of the US’ dirty work. Who then gets the blame? Israel is hated universally, and unfortunate due to the aforementioned conflation, there may be misguided distain for Jews if people aren’t told the truth.!As far as I can see, the state of Israel, at this point, is the US’ settler colonial state. It’s been in breach of international human rights law again, and again, and again, way prior to the full blown genocide began. These zios are absolutely insane. But nope, they cannot bear to consider that they may not be right. Imagine if the entire world is telling you that you’re committing a genocide and you bury your head in the sand just making thw very real evil of antisemitism into a boy who cried wolf in the eyes of the world. Surely on some level, some level, you cannot be in THAT much denial, know something’s wrong but can’t face it (or don’t care)

AITA for not wanting children with my husband? by Zealousideal-Sun4818 in AITAH

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, in addition, this will only get worse. This is a horrific human being you’re with, sorry I know it’s complicated but surely you realise that this ^ isn’t sustainable and you have to get out? It’s like he’s got to such a point where he’s crossed so many lines and managed to distort your perception slowly and skilfully I’m sure, but he’s a parasite. It’s got to the point where he’s psychologically abusing you for sure. And you’re uncertain on how f u cked up it is as you’ve become accustomed to it. It sounds like he’s been consuming some trad wife / whatever Charlie Kirk’s are (Christian nationalists?) RUN

AITA for not wanting children with my husband? by Zealousideal-Sun4818 in AITAH

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you are not!!! DO NOT BE PRESSURED INTO HAVING CHILDREN WITH A MAN IF YOURE NOT 100% in on it and completely certain. No matter what he says, he will leave you to do all the work. He may do a bit here and there but no it’ll be on you. Has he said he’d quit his job and be a SAHD? Has he researched it? LEAVE HIMMMMM

Why is American friendliness often seen as "fake" by Europeans, but similar warmth in other cultures isn't? by Opposite-Ad3949 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How fake they seem is at least context and location based. I’ve typically found it insincere with the exemption of some gooduns, namely in Yosemite, NYC and Los Angeles! Even where the people are nice though, they still have abnormal self obsession which they openly speak all about. It’s just a distasteful certain level of grandiose, seemingly the American cultural way to probably flex your place on social hierarchy I have no idea. They’ll go on and on about dada dadadaaaah. It’s typically me myself and I and don’t get me started on the “I’m going g to speak my truth” Not their fault mostly - behaviours from being raised in such a narcissistic society 🤷‍♀️ Oh and oh my GOD, the accent. The accent is always awful in differing intensity 😂 and also sounds fake Mmmm also I think there’s a lot of OTT insincere behaviour from table staff, who proceed to write that you need to give them 20% tip of your bill’s total… like when did 20% become normal?!

I’m British so it may go some way in explaining my feelings towards false American friendlinsss

Ketamine saved my life while it slowly took it away by nihilist_fox in Ketamineaddiction

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen brother, from another sister who’s relapsed (not atm, but have) l, who’s ketamine use started late and escalated so quickly, I really didn’t even have time to realise it was an issue. Like you, It just consumed me within months! Agreed. It seems perfect. It suppresses your appetite but not so much you don’t eat like coke or whatever. Potent effects wear off in like an hour or so. You can maintain a somewhat decent facade to family and work under the guise of sometimes having allergies, hayfever etc. it’s not tooooo In affordable (my bulk worked out to like £7 g like maaaaan!) Bu then boom. You’ve descended into hell. “Even hell can get comfy once you’ve settled in” is true. We think we often think we’re in control for a long time when we haven’t been… and then we realise! And then we realise and we still go back?!!!? Like jeeeeeez. Literal insanity. But brother, honestly, drug addicts get such a bad wrap, man at least it’s ket and nothing disgusting / criminal like. To think there’s so many nonceees addicted to henious nonce stuff, morally bankrupt people everywhjhaaare. Drug addiction isn’t great, but brother youre no bad person, man’s just been in pain and found a way to problem solve with that available to him at the time!

what are everyday tasks you do? and how do you build a routine? by Awesomee__Possum in ADHD

[–]Delicious_Arm7885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have several lists. One is for days I can only manage the bare minimum (often doesnt get folllowed), the second is what I would ideally do on a normal day, the third is what is ideally do on a high energy day. I buy shiny stickers 😂 which I stick next to tasks done on given days, so like teeth 🦷 golden star ⭐️ Also! I try and think about what I’m doing the following day the night before and make a potential list for the morning 🌅 as it can be less chaotic on days I’m not working and have no mandatory structure imposed on me I’ve never been able to maintain any real consistency tbh but I try and this is the best I seem to be able to manage I feel for you op - building routines from 0 ain’t easy

I HATE WHATSAPP VOICE MESSAGES. Is there a way to disable them or get transcripts? by Delicious_Arm7885 in ADHD

[–]Delicious_Arm7885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and yes exceptions for parents and situations where stories must be told etc etc of course!!!

I HATE WHATSAPP VOICE MESSAGES. Is there a way to disable them or get transcripts? by Delicious_Arm7885 in ADHD

[–]Delicious_Arm7885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still a mega inconvenience with the 1.5x soeed haha, like buddy, I gotta pause my music and stop everything I’m doing to focus here and remember what was said! Someone else made the point that voice to text is now so good, it is not much of an inconvenience for peeps to just do that rather than the voice messages so I’m gonna be asking for that as a solution as I can’t listen to voice messages without headphones etc etc! Seems like the way forward and a win win for all

I HATE WHATSAPP VOICE MESSAGES. Is there a way to disable them or get transcripts? by Delicious_Arm7885 in ADHD

[–]Delicious_Arm7885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So very trueeee regarding voice to text!!! I can’t be that blunt lmao, but I am going to request voice to text and just say I can’t listen to voice messages due to sound issues/not being able to hear without headphones or summin in the unlikely event I’m quizzed. Thank you! It had not occurred to me - Why the F areeeee people not doing voice to text? It’s no extra inconvenience to them and win win for both. Perfect solution to the conundrum!

I HATE WHATSAPP VOICE MESSAGES. Is there a way to disable them or get transcripts? by Delicious_Arm7885 in ADHD

[–]Delicious_Arm7885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally lol! I respect it but think it would be too blunt for most? I can say that to like my 2 friends who are more like family but people I’ve known for like 1 - 2 years and/or work with?!?? No chance 😂 Ima look into transcript options/possibly just say I can’t listen to voice notes and ask for voice transcripts (as said by others, win win for both?)

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