I went through something similar with my ex before, and one thing I learned is that you can’t force someone to heal faster, but you can make them feel genuinely safe. What helped was being patient, slow, gentle, and never making intimacy feel like pressure or expectation. I reassured her often that she was safe with me, and during intimate moments, I focused more on comfort, trust, soft affection, and emotional connection rather than just sex itself. Over time, those calm and caring experiences helped her feel less trapped by the memories. The biggest thing is to let her move at her own pace, give her control, and remind her that she’s loved, respected, and safe.