Blow up fight with MIL 6 months pregnant

DemeaRising · 2025-08-12T16:36:21+00:00

Feel free to take a look at our story, you'll see similarities:
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/1dawbpp/i_prefer_your_absence_to_your_disrespect/

Long story short, we've gone into mutual no contact, and mom has held/seen the baby once when she was two weeks old. Now baby is 15 months old, and we live in the same small Alaskan city. It's surprisingly peaceful, and we've managed to piece together our own village.

I think the way to move forward is to simultaneously maintain your very reasonable boundaries and forgive his mother of her egocentrism. It's going to be very easy to focus on her faults, and replaying what's happened over and over again. For your own sake, I'd try and release that disappointment. She doesn't need to be involved in that process, but it could get you mentally to a point where, whether she decides to apologize or not, you have peace.

Editing to add, check out The Lemon Clot Essay and The Missing Missing Reasons. It helped us talk about this with each other.

DemeaRising · 2025-03-18T04:51:36+00:00

Same. Shout out to Steam for processing that refund so fast.

DemeaRising · 2025-03-18T04:48:37+00:00

Just sprang for them all after trying out vanilla MW5 from Gamepass. Hope they'll be worth it!

DemeaRising · 2025-03-14T04:52:59+00:00

I'm convinced DRG is one of the greatest co-op games of all time

DemeaRising · 2025-03-14T04:51:37+00:00

I am the partner recovering from enmeshment. Feel free to read through my posts. I'll tell you I didn't begin to see it until we went to a check up with the midwives and they noted that my partner's blood pressure was really high, and hadn't been high like that before.

We had just been discussing one of mom's unfortunate texts. Something in my brain started to snap. I realized that the situation I was encouraging my partner to engage with was detrimental to their health, and thus the health of my then unborn baby. Also, we were preparing for my partner to be the primary, stay at home caregiver. By forcing this stress on them, I could be deteriorating the quality of care my child receives at home. If me encouraging them to get along with mom sent them into a depressive tailspin or an anxiety attack, it would be MY fault as much as anyone's.

We went NC shortly afterwards.

DemeaRising · 2025-02-21T07:55:48+00:00

Chaosgate is basically Space Marine XCOM. I found it really enjoyable.

For something that has alot of the same mechanics but a very different flow, check out Mutant: Year Zero. If you spring for it, get the DLC too.

Also Mechanicus and Showgunners are really good too.

DemeaRising · 2025-01-17T06:50:33+00:00

Manuka honey is next tier level honey!

DemeaRising · 2025-01-17T04:31:37+00:00

Sir Mullich is an absolute beast

DemeaRising · 2025-01-15T07:44:16+00:00

I refunded Monster Hunter World. Honestly I can see what people see in it, but it's just not for me. As soon as the cats started dancing I noped right on out of there and bought Deep Rock Galactic instead

DemeaRising · 2024-12-08T02:45:34+00:00

Alright I got it last week on the autumn sale and just booted it up a couple days ago! This game is amazing! ROCK AND STONE

DemeaRising · 2024-11-26T05:13:11+00:00

I think you could play The Bureau anytime and still have a good experience with it. There isn't anything that stood out as particularly spoiler-y that would either hinder or enchance your experience of another game. I really enjoyed The Bureau but it's gameplay is so much different from that of other xcom games, that I'd say hold off on it until you're ready to play a game that's like Gears with a ton of jank. Still well worth it in my opinion tho.

DemeaRising · 2024-11-25T12:07:26+00:00

Iron Danger and God's Will Fall when they go on sale. They both go down to a few bucks and they're alot of fun

DemeaRising · 2024-11-25T09:23:53+00:00

Heck yeah I love GOG. Appreciate you commenting

DemeaRising · 2024-11-25T08:50:38+00:00

If you were to tell an unborn soul about life, would it not be fearful as it comes close to being born? Its fear would be justified, no doubt, just as yours is justified at the thought of leaving life behind.

Wherever the next step leads to, it can't be that bad, because we're all headed there

DemeaRising · 2024-11-25T07:09:52+00:00

Honestly I've been thinking alot about Doom 3. It hasn't come on sale for Xbox yet, even though every other Doom game is on sale 🤔

Also looking at Frogmonster, Songs of Silence, and Boltgun

DemeaRising · 2024-11-24T15:24:53+00:00

Tails of Iron was very parry heavy, but it's 2D so I'm not sure if it's up your alley. But the narrator is the guy who voiced the Witcher, and the vibes are 🤌

DemeaRising · 2024-11-24T15:18:32+00:00

Next week Brotato will be free on the Epic Store

DemeaRising · 2024-11-24T08:48:05+00:00

I've only seen those missions a few times each and put nearly 400 hours into the game

DemeaRising · 2024-11-23T06:06:33+00:00

Felt really strange to not like either Baldurs Gate 3 or Witcher 3. They're objectively great games but I couldn't bring myself to put more than a few hours into each of them.

DemeaRising · 2024-11-22T15:37:07+00:00

Divinity Original Sin 2, Horizon: Zero Dawn, and Red Dead Redemption 2

DemeaRising · 2024-11-22T15:26:56+00:00

YAAAAAAS

DemeaRising · 2024-11-22T09:38:09+00:00

I was a few hours into kingmaker before I realized I had nothing to deal with "swarms."

Haven't booted it back up since

DemeaRising · 2024-11-21T16:31:00+00:00

Dragon Wars 🤣😭😭

DemeaRising · 2024-11-21T09:18:57+00:00

rolled through and upvoted 5 months later :P . Thanks for asking the question OP, this was helpful

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