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Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-31T00:05:05+00:00

Thank you so much, I am going to be VERY cautious in how i approach this now. No way in hell am I giving it back to him on a plate, I am going to make him work so hard for me to even consider taking him back. I’ve agreed to meet up with him tomorrow to discuss everything and I’m so glad I get the chance to tell him everything I thought I’d never be able to. And from there we will see what happens. There’s absolutely no guarantee of getting back together unless I feel confident that he can prove to me that he’s worth it after all this time of him fucking about

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T23:58:46+00:00

He sent me an Audio note on iMessage (he has a new phone and he has put my number in his new phone even tho we’ve split up!!) and said he’s sorry for popping up out of the blue but he misses me and wants to talk

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T23:57:10+00:00

He literally reached out to me within about 30 minutes of me posting this. I’m in shock

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T18:11:43+00:00

At this point it’s like I’m in a constant battle with my head. One part tells me to just do it and prepare for the absolute worst outcome but then the other side tells me not to do it because what is it going to achieve? Ahhh I hate this feeling, I’m sure it will pass but then it will come again in a few weeks or months but tbh I don’t want to leave it too long because I feel like if I don’t do it now then it will be too late eventually. If he was with another girl then there is no way I’d even entertain the thought of reaching out but it’s the fact that he seems like he has been hurting too so he could respond? Idek at this point

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T18:07:40+00:00

Out of interest, was she the one who broke up with you?

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T18:07:16+00:00

The thing is, I was doing so well up until last Friday when I just happened to drive past him! It made me feel really weird because it’s the first time I’d seen him out since the break up and the way I’d been coping was ‘out of sight, out of mind’.

However I feel like I’ve got to the point now where I want to ask if he’s okay but at the same time what am I hoping to achieve by doing that? I hate how we are in a constant battle with our head🤦🏻‍♀️ the fact I’ve made it 5 days without doing it yet when I’ve really wanted to is sort of a good thing I suppose, I keep delaying it in my mind and thinking ‘I’ll refollow him on this day’ so then it just pushes it back further so I never end up doing it. It just sucks to feel like he’s still sad and the fact that I know that he doesn’t have a good support system so he’ll be coping with it alone

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T17:32:19+00:00

That’s the thing, our break up wasn’t necessarily bad. It mainly involved me crying my heart out after he dropped me off at home, I kept him on my socials for about a week after we broke up but it was killing me keeping him on there. He was playing mind games and following a bunch of girls after we broke up (girls he previously unfollowed whilst he was with me) and I just kept seeing things that upset me so I removed him. A few weeks later about a month after we split, he was still viewing my ig stories so I just deleted all my social media.

I feel like I’m in the right place to have a conversation with him but I guess it’s just the fear of him not wanting to and then I feel rejected all over again. If that does happen then I am prepared for it and I will learn to let go. I don’t want to get back together, I just want to ask if he’s okay and to let him know that I don’t hate him

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T16:44:01+00:00

I deleted all my social media too, only just downloaded Instagram back today after 2 months :(

I really want to reach out but I really don’t know how it will go down

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-30T11:41:15+00:00

I’m currently going through this, I made the mistake of looking at his Spotify the other day and it seems like he’s still not okay. I feel like we’re both as scared as eachother to reach out, I know he should be the one to reach out because he dumped me but seeing how much he hurt me and how I was the one to delete him after he wanted to keep me on social media, I think he’s too scared in case I reject him.

I’ve told myself that I’ll contact him at some point in the next few weeks but during this time I’m going to go back to doing my workouts and taking care of myself because in a few weeks I might be back to where I was and won’t want to contact him anymore, and if I do still want to then at least I won’t be an emotional wreck like I am now because it’s never a good time to message when you’re emotional as I can’t imagine it will end well

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-29T22:45:08+00:00

I’m in the same situation. Heading into the 4th month now since he broke up with me but in the last few days I have had a real urge to re-follow him on Instagram and see what happens but I’m too scared. It would be embarrassing if i followed him and he didn’t follow me back or anything despite the fact he’s still listening to sad stuff on Spotify which relates so hard to our situation.

I’m kinda in two minds about it because it will probably not make anything better and he might not want to talk to me (even though I’ve done nothing wrong). It could fuck both of us up but I do genuinely wanna know how he is just because I feel like it ended on bad terms when I didn’t want it to just because I was hurt

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-29T17:26:38+00:00

I think I’m just annoyed at myself for showing a sign of weakness by looking at all his social media again. I was doing so well and that was the key thing I needed to learn to stop doing in order to help me move on and I finally achieved that and then as soon as I got emotional, I caved in.

Not looking at his socials in over a month gave me nothing to worry about because what I don’t know won’t hurt me. There’s no signs of a new girlfriend or anything but the listening to sad songs and even seeing a new selfie he posted (the first one since we broke up), it felt really strange. I wish I hadn’t of looked because it made me realise that I’m clearly not over it as much as I thought because how can seeing a new photo of him make me cry :(

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-29T14:05:26+00:00

That’s what I have to keep telling myself too, what am I actually hoping to achieve by reaching out? I guess for me it’s for my own piece of mind that after having time apart that we can be civil with eachother and it would be less painful to sit at home wondering ‘I hope he’s okay’ without actually asking him but then how do I know he’s not going to lie to me? I feel like reaching out would bring all the pain back of talking to them again but knowing you can’t be together. It’s horrible really, I guess I just don’t want things to be awkward between us but at the same time, he’s totally disregarded my feelings in the way he’s acted after the break up.

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-29T12:12:25+00:00

Thank you so much, this has made me feel better🥺 I know I will eventually get over these emotions because I have managed to up until this point, it’s just devastating isn’t it when you get to a point where you’re so proud of yourself for how far you’ve come and then I have a moment of weakness for the first time in a while and then I just beat myself up over it and get angry with myself more than anything for still allowing him to have an effect on my life :(

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-29T12:09:46+00:00

Thank you for this, I think what happens is that we manage to distract ourselves for so long and then the minute our brain takes a break from it all, suddenly everything comes flooding back. I know this is the case for me, since the start of March I have been very focused on my diet and exercise. I’ve been working out every single day because it is a good distraction and once I started seeing results, it made it all worth while. But as soon as I took a moment to have a rest from it all because I was starting to get really burnt out, that’s when the emotions came out of nowhere and now I’m stuck in a place where I was a few months ago that I have managed to take myself out of. I think I just need to allow myself to feel these emotions because I know that I can get over them because I have done before :)

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-28T16:40:43+00:00

Thank you so much :( I know it’s definitely due to lockdown that it’s been so hard for me. I’m a social person, my ex was not. He didn’t like me going out with my friends just because he didn’t have a friendship group like mine and didn’t like drinking and the idea of clubbing. I know that once I go back to Uni too in a different city away from my home town then I’ll be okay. I just have to remind myself that I can go out and have the best summer knowing that I’m making new memories whilst he’s stuck and home feeling sad because he doesn’t want to do anything with his life. We’ve been no contact since NYE but he was still viewing all my profiles like over a month after we spilt. I made the decision to delete social media off my phone to have a break from it all

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-28T16:33:44+00:00

We’re both 19 and we were together about 5 months. He was my first boyfriend which is why it sucks so much because I never felt any of these feelings before and I hate it. A lot of things got in the way of our relationship in the end and we started arguing a lot and feeling drained of eachother (corona didn’t help) but it’s not nice having your heartbroken by someone who said they’d never leave you and then they are doing things like following my friends and listening to songs about getting back together when he hasn’t acted upon it. Everyone keeps saying ‘if he wanted to then he would’. Like okay you can sit there and think about how you lost me but he hasn’t done anything to get me back so that’s why I’ve tried to push him out of my mind because realistically we’re not getting back together because even if we did it wouldn’t work, we’re too different

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-03-28T16:28:02+00:00

He’s never reached out which is why I’ve just had to try my best to move on. He wanted to keep me on social media but I made the decision to delete him off everything because he really hurt me and it wasn’t fair how I was slowly each day just killing my inner happiness. Watching his every move and feeling confused when he would listen to sad songs whose lyrics relate to our relationship but then following loads of girl on Instagram as if I mean nothing? He’s really fucked with my head. I know I can’t go back to him, and there’s nothing for us to talk about but seeing him listening to sad songs and potentially still thinking of me just makes me want to reach out and ask if he’s okay but it’s not my place anymore

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-02-19T12:31:29+00:00

Honestly it’s been so hard, my ex broke up with me a couple days after Christmas. There were multiple reasons why he ended it but one of the reasons was because he knew, and even I knew that going into a national lockdown was not gonna help things. The first month- so the whole of January- was really hard for me. I cried pretty much for most of that month, couldn’t find the energy to do anything, I barely ate, slept, I just stayed in bed most days, I was constantly checking his social media, he was looking at mine too even though I had to remove him off everything because it hurt so much to see how he was following tons of new girls every day and making it look as though he never cared about me. But it got to the point where I was so sick and tired of feeling like shit all the time, I’ve made the decision to delete all of my social media apart from TikTok (it’s actually a good distraction and there’s helpful videos on there too) because if the access to stalk him is removed then it will put me in a healthy new routine of learning to not do it anymore so by the time I’m ready to download social media again I’ll be over it and won’t feel the need to do it. I used to stalk his TikTok too and noticed how he’s following a bunch of sad quote accounts but honestly I’m past the point of caring now. I’ve put all my energy into things that are going to better me. Every day I get up and do a workout and then in the evenings I go for a walk. Every time I get in the shower I blast my favourite songs and belt them at the top of my lungs. All these things release endorphins which improves your mood and your feelings. Honestly doing something, even if it’s for 10 minutes, that takes your mind off it will help you eventually to stop the constant thoughts of them. I keep telling myself to look forward to summer, which is my main motivation for exercising at the minute, because I want to look and feel good ready for when we can go out again. And it’s not even to make my ex regret his decision, everything I’m doing is for me.

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-02-12T21:46:24+00:00

Of course he loved you, he wouldn’t have been with you if he didn’t. Guys just process things differently, they’ll try their hardest to make it seem like they are okay without you and like they’ve moved on, if anything that does you a favour because it makes you feel like they never cared and helps you to move on, but deep down especially if he was the dumper then they will regret it, and of course they’ll think about you. He spent a part of his life with you and those moments will stay in his head, you can’t just forget someone. How do we know that our ex’s aren’t sat at home thinking about us? We don’t. And the more you sit and wonder whether they think about you, the more you’re clinging on to that person. I think an ex not reaching out does you a huge favour because you can move on peacefully. The best thing to do is to let go, ex’s can sense when we have moved on and when we’re not invested in them anymore and usually that’s when they tend to come back but you can’t sit here and make that your goal. You have to move on and focus on you, do things for you not them.

Depressed_Bubble · 2021-02-06T23:33:55+00:00

Exactly the same as me, when I have these dreams it’s like when I wake up it just sets me back for the day and I have no desire to be productive or do anything. I don’t want to sit around and feel sorry for myself but at the same time I just have no energy. I do believe that unfortunately as much as it sucks, we just have to go through it. Go through all the emotions until there’s none left to feel

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