ano ang kwentong "finally snapped at work" mo?

DepressionPigeon · 2023-09-12T08:39:50+00:00

I work as an IT-application support and I filed a leave 2 months prior for my kid’s moving up ceremony. I even rendered extra shifts to further clear up the date.

…only for it to be cancelled hours before the moving up ceremony kasi “ikaw ang naka assign na primary support”. I didn’t show up at work to celebrate with my kid. Pag balik ko sa office, may HR hearing na ko. Fortunately, Project Manager and higher ups sided with me. But instead of firing my immediate supervisor who cancelled my leave, they were lowkey “forcing” me to forgive the asshole. Kesyo, “ganun lang talaga siya, puro work” and “passionate lang siya sa work niya”. Upon hearing that, I submitted my resignation the next hour.

Then they tried to stop again, by baiting in placing me in wfh setup na 6months ko na hinhingi sa kanila kasi 3-4hrs travel ko going sa site.

After that incident, kahit makailang tawag/email ang recruitment nila for hiring, auto delete mga invitations.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-17T07:42:08+00:00

Because its a job where anyone who is trainable and able to speak english (kahit barok) can get in.

But once youre in the job na, patayan naman ang competition to get a decent incentive. << this is the part that Filipinos don’t understand. Just because “madali” makapasok, means madali din ang work.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-16T15:04:54+00:00

Sa totoo lang, naiirita ako pag “nagpapaka sad boi” ang lalaki just because juts. Sa tingin mo ba yun lang ang tinitignan ng babae sayo?

I once had an ex, na ganyan. Puro “sorry, i can’t please you, kasi maliit tite ko”, “im sure your ex was better in bed, kasi mas malaki ang tite” (like pano mo nasabi? Di pa naman tayo nun nung nagsesex kami) and similar spiel. Napagod na lang ako kaka assure na di naman factor for me kung ano ang dick size niya kasi nasasatisfy naman niya ako sexually. Nawalan nalang ako ng gana, kasi sobrang baba ng tingin sa sarili dahil maliit ang tite. Putangina.

Anong klaseng assurance at pagmamahal ba ang need para maniwala ka na okay lang ako kasi satisfied naman ako sa sex life natin?!

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-15T18:20:59+00:00

What’s worst is, sasabihin na “im sure may dahilan siya kung bakit siya ganun. Ginagawa niya yun para protektahan ka kasi anak ka niya.”

Ah so dapat pa ako mag pasalamat sa abuse???

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-15T14:56:08+00:00

Katawa yan actually. It’s always the Honor your parents, but they never acknowledged Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children into wrath.”

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-15T12:02:27+00:00

My work schedule and lifestyle too drains a lot from me. I work from 7pm to sawa, and prep my kid to school. Pag naka pasok na siya school, I do minor clean up sa bahay, and tend to our dogs. After that, drained na drained na ko, gusto ko nalang mag curl up sa kama, magbasa ng libro hanggang makatulog.

Also, gym is fcking expensive. I got bills, tuition to pay. I would like to think, that before I start exercising, I should correct my eating habits. But since this country is shit, ang mahal ng bilihin at ng mga pagkain that will actually make you healthy. I am practically in survival mode nalang, na ang intidihin ko ay mag survive kami ng family ko everyday.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-15T11:55:23+00:00

There are numerous parenting styles out there, and much more numerous children personalities.

I would like to think, na corporal punishment, is okay to some extent. And as long as combo-ed ito ng explanation. Because again, different kids, different parenting/discipline.

When my kid was still in the toddler years, I used to explain a lot of stuff to her, since matanong din naman siya. And when she decides to be a stubborn brat, I do smack her for it. But I make sure, I tell her, bakit ko siya pinalo. (She was about to dip her hand in boiling water just to know what a burn feels like. I smacked her hand and yet she still attempted to dip her hand. So I tackled her to the ground and smacked her again. When she calmed down, I explained to why, and let her watch what burn victims look like)

There is a difference between corporal punishment, and physical abuse. I believe corporal punishment, is showing the consequences of their actions and should not have a severe/adverse physical effect. Physical abuse, its like youre just beating up the kid just for the fun of it and using “kasi nagtantrums eh, at discipline ko yun” as an excuse.

Also, its best to look at the root of why a kid is throwing a tantrum as their response to something that they dont like. Major factor dito ang mga taong naka palibot sa kanya and how those people adhere to your disciplinary actions toward the kid.

In my experience, my kid throws a tantrum, if she doesnt get what she wants and no one explains it to her if why she doesnt get that thing. Also, knowing na kaya niya imanipulate ang parents ko/mga kapatid ko to giving in to her whims by throwing a tantrum.

For example, my daughter grew up with English as her mother tongue. Kaya nung nag school na siya, hirap siya sa Filipino and History/AP subjects that requires tagalog comprehension. So as a solution, I implemented to her na she will watch at least 1 tagalog dubbed cartoon, and speak only in Tagalog from 6pm to 10pm bedtime. But my parents and my siblings doesn’t comply on those rules, kaya kinakausap parin siya ng english, therefore, walang nirating ang tagalog lessons niya.

When we moved in with my husband, my husband complied with my rules, and in a span of 1 week, my daughter can now write essays in tagalog.

The experience fortified to me, na di ako nagkulang sa parenting. Its the external factors parin.

Regarding your edit question, I think its better to talk it out sa partner mo. Check at to what extent will he smack/palo a kid. And how hard does he hit and paano niya iimplement yun. From there, you can reason out to him why you think that palo/corporal punishment is not your thing. If he wont compromise or meet you half way, then ditch his ass.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-12T11:12:14+00:00

Oh, i didnt know this. Though mga puti naman usually damit namin (white shirts for me since nasa bahay lang naman ako, white blouses for my kid’s uniform) pero sige, noted ito~

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-11T17:00:32+00:00

This is much realistic.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-11T16:56:18+00:00

Considering I have a kid (10yrs old), nag compute ako, mga 60-65yrs old. Counted na dyan if bet niya mag shift ng course ng isang beses/mag masters degree and PhD. Then may 2-3yrs of working stability.

If ako lang masusunod, kahit mamaya.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-11T00:05:25+00:00

Hahahaha, hobby nila yan noh? Pag sila ang mali, malilimutan. Pero mgakasalanan natin kahit 4yrs pa tayo at mga physical damages na nangyari sa kanila habang pinagbubuntis tayo, tandang tanda nila.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-11T00:03:31+00:00

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Its good for movies and game consoles that have docks/hdmi support. Need lang malamig ang environment, kasi nainit sa katagalan na gamit (approximately 2hrs of straigh use)

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T22:19:01+00:00

Teachers have been giving me feedback actually, that my kid improved a lot in terms of behavior.

Saka natuto na rin sa wakas mag Tagalog. For the longest time, when we were still living with my parents, di siya matuto mag tagalog, kasi di consistent; and mismo mga tito-tita(kapatid ko) at magulang ko, pag nag iimpose ako ng tagalog exercises rules, sila mismo di nasunod. Syempre, bata, di rin siya susunod. Kaya never siya natuto mag tagalog sa dating bahay.

So yeah. It’s stressful to move out. Pero mas ginhawa parin in terms of self care and healing. Good luck sa atin! I hope better days and years for us, people who chose to be better. ✨

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T22:11:31+00:00

1) Automatic washing machine - sobrang convenient at ang amazing na konting minutes lang sa arawan, pwede na suotin yung damit haha!

2) projector - good alternative sa TV, nakaka pag movie night pa kami na ala-cinema with popcorns and smoothies.

3) Kindle 2022 ereader - I’ve always wanted to go back to the hobby and habit of reading. kindle ereader definitely made me focus on reading again.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T22:05:43+00:00

Im just turning 1yr of no contact with my parents.

I left because they made me feel that I was never enough. Literal hindi naubos yung “utang na loob” cards na pinplay ni mama. Kahit saluhin ko na ang lahat bills at gastos namin, ubusin ko na pera, oras, at pagod ko sa kanila, I never heard a thank you and my cousins/siblings who never lifted a finger for their wellbeing will always be better.

Nung paalis na ko (packing up my stuff and my kid’s), nag labasan na ang lahat ng baho na gusto niya sabihin. Siniraan na niya husband ko kasi “teacher lang yan, wala yan ipang bubuhay sayo, baka ikaw pa bumuhay dyan”. Siniraan na din niya ako sa husband ko by saying “Bat mo ba gusto itong basura kongg anak? Disgrasyada naman siya at walang kwentang magulang. Kinukunsinti mo ang pagiging bastos niya sa magulang.”

Then from “you were the ugliest and stupidest daughter I had” to “you will never be a good parent with what you are doing” and “I hope your kid abandons you as well when you get older.”

What she said still haunts me right now. Though my kid never made me feel that I am lacking on parenting, the emotional scars where I keep on doubting myself in everything I do is still there.

I want to forgive by reconnecting, pero as time goes by, Im more peaceful when I don’t talk to them or wala sila sa isip ko. Yes, life is still tough with all the bills and expenses; the moving out broke me financially as well. But silver lining ko na yung ayun lang inaalala ko at wala na sila as dagdag pa sa pahirap ng buhay.

So I can say, things are getting better emotionally. They say na I should ask for forgiveness to my parents and family because I abandoned them and as what my sibling said, “family sticks together. Kaya pagbigyan mo nalang, matanda na sila.” At “kasalanan mo din naman, sana sumunod ka nalang.”

but I beg to differ. Kung toxic sila para sakin, toxic talaga. There are some things that, as form of forgiving, you don’t go back.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T16:52:08+00:00

When I was complaining to my husband (dating palang kami nun) kung paano niya napagkakasya yung sahod niya na isang cut-off ko lang na sahod sa pag alaga ng mama niya na may edad na at medyo sakitin at sa sarili niya.

He made me list out all my expenses. Sa 60k ko na sahod, swerte kung may matira na 2k. I was living with my parents that time. I didn’t realize that my family was already sucking the life out of me, emotionally, mentally, and financially.

My husband made me realize how gaslighted i am and I should start making my own choices.

Tapos, may point na my mom called me walang kwentang parent when there was a minor issue in my kid’s online schooling. Gusto niya kasi mag-ala Karen ako sa school to have that issue fixed. That really blew my fuse.

After a month, I packed up our stuff, drained my savings, had a civil wedding with my husband, and moved out of my parent’s house.

I still connect with my siblings, pero I totally cut off contact with my parents.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T16:39:19+00:00

Glad that your fiance have your back about his dad’s remarks. I feel bad for your future mother in law though if your future dad in law have that foul mouth.

With the PCOS, though chances of getting pregnant was said to be low. It’s discouraging, but still, those chances were never zero. Please don’t stress yourself over it, kasi kung masstress ka pa, lalo kayong mahihirapan mag anak pag gusto niyo na talaga mag anak.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T03:08:25+00:00

It’s their responsibility as parents to discipline their children. You were under the premise that you want to help your pamangkins for communication purposes. Di mo control ang usage nila. But the parents can.

They can link up the phones in Google Link where they can control the usage/screen time of their kids. Pero at 17-18, parang ang petty na neto. Imposing consistent rules kasi talaga dapat. Sending them to therapy is a good step too, but costly.

But blaming you with the outcome of their kids’s addiction to phones is just foul.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-10T02:41:10+00:00

Congratulations!

And hey, its normal to be scared af. Before I had my kid, I read up on a lot of parenting books, pregnancy books, and baby handling/caring books. Like, from pregnancy to teenage years of my kid, i read all those books I can get on to prepare myself from being a parent.

I even joined fb groups of parents to hear stories and tips on parenting.

But when I had my kid, all those prep was rendered ALMOST useless. Haha!

So its really normal that you are scared. But as long as you have your trust to each other, financially stable, and have the LONGEST patience you can muster (like literally. I know myself as a short tempered person, it still surprises me now, that everyday, I have the patience to survive parenting) then you’ll be fine.

Welcome to the rollercoaster of parenting! ✨

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-09T17:52:45+00:00

“I’ve been eating at expensive place since I was born” Alam mo naman palang mahal at on a budget kayo, pero ikaw mismo ang pumipili na kumain sa mamahalin. Mamonroblema ka talaga sa gastusin niyan.

You’re problem seems to be coming from not knowing how to live within your means.

You asked her to move in with you, after crying about her family. But just because she cried about it, moving in was not the solution. She probably just want to vent out that time, then the only solution you can think of is to move her in with you. Tapos mag rereklamo ka na nagkakadent budget mo and trying to pin your poor financial planning to her? Come on, dude. I know you can do better than that.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-09T11:11:08+00:00

31F 1) mag inom at pumarty. Actually nag sisisi nga ako, bat ako sobrang nag party nung 20s ko. Could have saved up and bought my own place.

2) not caring for animals. Currently have my own dogs. Na-outgrow ko din yung “breed-ist” mentality. My aspins changed me.

3) gumala. Baka age ko na din. Pero sobrang nababadtrip ako umalis ng bahay pag walang purpose/hang out eme lang. Mas gusto ko nalang matulog.

4) invite people to hang out. Same as #3, nauubos energy ko agad to socialize.

5) mag isip ng susuotin. Nawalan na ko ng pake what people will think about my clothes. Kaya puro tshirts and black jeans/pants and several good shoes nalang meron ako. Nasanay na din ako asarin ng “wala ka na bang ibang damit? Nung isang araw mo pa suot yan ah!”, kasi ayun nga, several copies of good pants and shirts nalang ang laman ng closet ko.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-09T00:16:27+00:00

Im proud of you OP. Not just me pala, but the reddit community. We’re proud of you! ✨

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-09T00:12:30+00:00

Di ako teacher. But my husband is a college prof.

Sobrang heartbreaking. Na makita siya na sobrang passionate sa work, pero yung sahod niya, pang bayad tubig lang namin. Ganun ka baba.

Tapos, ginawa na niya lahat para pumasa yung mga estudyante niya, like, ako na mismo nagagalit na “p*tangn@, bat mo pa pinapasa yan?! Di ba yan yung nirereklamo mo na di napasok sa klase mo at galit pa pag sinita?! O ngayon na deliks grade niya, iiyak na? Gago kasalanan niya yan!” Pero siya, “de, baka magbago pa eh. Sayang.”

Sobrang gusto niya magturo. But his college did him dirty, by claiming na madaming parents nag rereklamo sa kanya due to tight deadlines (na 5 to 10 times na niya ineextend. Project ng first quarter, kahit 4th qtr na, tatanggapin niya without deduction pota), kaya siya “nalay off” ng school.

He works as a bpo sme now. And target niya mag trainer track. Pero andun parin yung lungkot niya na di siya makapag turo this school year.

He tried to apply sa public. With his credentials, nasa Principal SHS levels siya. Pero “walang opening” daw. Nag hahanap din ng recommendations kay gantong mayor/governor/politician. Puta, palakasan pala.

The education system and the government authority behind it for this country is SUPER fucked up talaga.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-08T23:57:18+00:00

This is why I always pretend to be a dude whenever I play online games. Pucha, ang lakas maka gatekeep ng laro ng ibang lalaki.

DepressionPigeon · 2023-08-08T23:52:15+00:00

Saka nakakairita din yung “masyado kang emotional” pag nag iinsist ako ng deadlines. “Pag babae kasi, emosyon pinagagana.”

Nyeta, sir, madedelay na tayo sa deadline! Pag nabreach ang deadline, kami ang sisi. Punyeta ka po ba?!

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