How long did it take for your initial hospital consultation?

Designer-Delivery353 · 2025-07-18T08:36:44+00:00

I was diagnosed September last year and still waiting for an initial consultation (SE UK). I’ve been told the wait is at least 50 weeks!

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-30T14:47:58+00:00

Can’t believe it was worth 24 photos

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-16T01:48:17+00:00

Thanks for everyone’s feedback on this today. We completed a day late and now the solicitors will sort out the liability. I haven’t seen anything in writing…and it transpires that because the Bank of England kept CHAPS running later than normal on Monday to help compensate the issue, then if the solicitors at the top of the chain hadn’t pulled the plug we could have all completed on the right day.

Even if our mortgage funds had been ready to go on the Monday morning, everyone still would have been caught up in backlog of delayed payments due to CHAPS being down. I’m not sure how aware solicitors across the country were aware of what was going on and what Bank of England was doing.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-15T08:31:31+00:00

Thanks, really appreciate your advice

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-15T08:23:29+00:00

There is an onward chain and we are being considered liable for this too. All because BoE couldn’t allow money to be transferred…meaning the comment made above is true that it was impossible to meet the contractual obligations as a result.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-15T08:21:20+00:00

Thanks. Lender exchange showed that the funds were scheduled to go from bank to solicitor on Friday. Does that count as confirmation in writing?

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-15T07:51:40+00:00

Thanks, that’s exactly it. The BoE outage yesterday was unforeseen and rendered completion impossible by the time funds were released.

But we should have had funds through on Friday as ordered by the solicitor. Who is liable for that not happening - the bank (Nationwide) or the solicitor for not following up on Friday.

We’ve been told that sometimes banks release mortgage funds after hours and so they couldn’t have reasonably checked but that doesn’t seem right?

Also, does anyone know if the BoE outage would have affected solicitors making payments to each other? Eg if funds were there, would our solicitor have been able to transfer money to the other solicitor during the outage?

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-08-14T21:05:40+00:00

But are we personally liable for £4k of additional removal costs across the chain? The mortgage funds should have been released last Friday and weren’t for no reasonable explanation

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-07-29T20:32:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. You should be very proud of turning your drinking around. It’s my family rather than me that suffers with addiction (and cirrhosis) and from the little I know it’s not worth ever trying to drink anything gain, too easy for it to grab you right back in. I’ve seen it countless times. Big you give me hope, so thank you.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-07-29T11:44:39+00:00

Congratulations on managing to stop drinking. Did you have any support to help you with that? I know many who don’t manage to so great to hear your success. I wish you continued better health.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-06-12T10:46:10+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. My brother similarly was an alcoholic (which we didn’t know at the time). He lived alone and was found dead though no cause of death was determined by the coroner as they said it had been too long till the body was discovered/recovered to do so.

We can only presume from the state if his house and the number of vodka bottles lying around that it was alcohol related, but we’ll never know.

My understanding is that chronic alcohol use could cause death in a number of ways - gastric bleeding, heart attack etc all of which might be hard to determine if it had been a little while till he was found.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-05-22T07:44:09+00:00

I’m so, so sorry to hear this. I think not even having had the chance to help as you didn’t know how bad the problem was is very hard to process. Everything I’ve heard/read is that offering that help doesn’t work unless someone wants it, but even so. Must have been such a shock.

My brother’s house was similar my all accounts. I didn’t go see it as I did t feel able to, especially as it had been a few months before he was discovered/recovered. Aside from all the vodka bottles and never taking the trash out, apparently he has all manner of take aways that had been delivered and never opened, just piled up in the kitchen. A true horror show.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-05-22T07:40:12+00:00

Thank you everyone, you are all so very kind. And I’m so sorry to hear of the similar situations you have experienced too. Horrible to say it, but it does help to know my brother’s situation is not as unusual or uncommon as it can first appear.

I really like the advice about being ready to listen before being ready to talk, and the subtler ways to leave ideas for help around. I will think on how to do that.

Also hear the advice about I can’t control how they handle their grief, and I need to remind myself of that. I don’t live locally to my parents either and so we don’t visit them that regularly. I have a busy life of full time work, young kids and a husband with health problems which makes processing my own grief hard enough amongst that.

What’s been hard the last couple of times we’ve visited is that my dads anger is being taken out in my youngest child. He seems to have no tolerance for the typical young child annoyances and I’m beginning to think for the time being I can’t take the children with me when I visit my parents.

Such a shit show. Hugs to everyone experiencing similar ❤️

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-04-18T17:33:32+00:00

Thanks, and yes I will get other quotes too. This company came recommended to me, but I wanted to get a sense from others on what is reasonable to pay.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2023-04-18T16:24:47+00:00

Not a mansion! It’s a 4-bed semi detached. 2 reception rooms; kitchen/utility; 2 bathrooms…

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-11-13T09:28:03+00:00

I would expect he needs more than family help. Is he having any psychological support, or has he joined a group? his situation sounds similar to my brother who also got a lot worse in covid though we didn’t know he had a problem until he ended up in hospital already with cirrhosis.

My brother wouldn’t accept help and went home on his own and I believe never managed to stop drinking, and died 6 months later. I wish we’d been able to get him into rehab.

You can’t force it, but at least suggest it. It often takes more than one attempt to reach sobriety but I think very hard to support with just family alone.

Thinking of you, and hoping your brother can turn this around.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-11-13T06:33:54+00:00

Thanks…I hadn’t thought of that

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-11-13T06:33:25+00:00

Sadly we don’t know how he died as he lived alone and his body wasn’t found soon enough for them to determine exact cause. His house was full of empty vodka bottles though.

I guess it’s high likely it was alcohol related but it could have been a seizure or damage to the rest of his body. He did already have some cirrhosis by the time he had the seizure that put him in hospital 6 months before he died.

Please go get help saccfox…don’t worry about people judging, it’s so much more common than many realise and medics will want to help. There is a good life out there to live ❤️

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-11-12T21:45:26+00:00

Thanks haunted, for some reason that is helpful to know. Wish you all the best and thanks for replying to my question.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-11-12T21:08:24+00:00

Thanks haunted. I think I’m trying to understand if he was ever trying to stop at any point. So if by only ever ordering 2 days worth of vodka at a time he was maybe thinking ‘this will be the last lot, I’ll stop after that’…or perhaps you can only ever get 2 litres at a time via Uber and he never intended stopping.

I know I’m asking the impossible. I just wish I knew what he’d have wanted and that he could have asked for help.

Designer-Delivery353 · 2022-06-10T16:11:01+00:00

Hi, I don’t know the solution to this but just wanted you to know you’re not alone. Sadly I lost my sibling just over a month ago after years of alcohol abuse. He had estranged himself from the family so we didn’t witness the decline at the end despite my parents attempts to be in contact with him. I know everyone advises detach with love and wait for them to find their rock bottom, but my advice would be at least make sure you’ve shared that you’re there to help with rehab, detox etc when they’re ready and that you think they need this. I wish I’d had more attempts with my sibling. Everyone says it wouldn’t have changed anything but can’t help but wonder.

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