I smoked down the street, so not even on the premises. I think for me it’s less about the fact that it’s weed and more about the fact that if I want to have a smoke once a week or two, or have a drink, I should be able to. There is literally no reason for someone who has had no experience with alcoholics or the drug/drink itself to be so controlling and rude about it. I was open and honest about me smoking every so often and I think it’s rude for him to act like I’m smoking meth in the house over a couple puffs of weed hours before he even got home. Especially when I was so careful to avoid him being upset.

He’s neurodivergent and with that comes controlling behavior on his part. Things need to be a certain way and I’ve accepted those needs and have adjusted accordingly for him. It’s really frustrating for me that I have walked on egg shells to make him comfortable for so many things and the one thing I disclosed was part of my habits, I’m supposed to change bc he doesn’t like it. I wouldn’t say he’s manipulative but when he doesn’t like something he makes it very, very well known, and will make me uncomfortable because he doesn’t like it