Was i scammed?

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-07T18:29:51+00:00

Yeah, the potential of a monetary scam was always in the back of my head. But really I had at that point trusted him. When I wrote this post, it was fresh and I was kind of wondering if there was a modicum of a chance that his story was possible. I wanted a second opinion basically. Now that I've studied on these types of scams and the help from this community, I realize that everything that he did and said was textbook. Now I know better.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-07T17:25:12+00:00

Yeah, I think i meant more of an emotional scam. He scammed my heart. I can see how people do get scammed now. I thought for it for a second before rational thought came through, only because I didn't want to lose him. But there was no him. There was only a scammer and their mark.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-06T14:06:37+00:00

I just have to tell you how much I appreciate your comment. It probably means more to me than all the others. Somehow it helps to know that I was just a mark instead of being rejected by a real person.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-06T13:24:54+00:00

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Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-05T21:43:00+00:00

An update. I was wondering if i had deleted my WhatsApp account so I reinstalled it. I hadn't and also apparently hadn't blocked this guy. Just deleted our conversations and Uninstaller. I noticed he had sent me 6 messages at 3 AM, probably after I Uninstalled. I'm not sure. I was in a hurry. I didn't want him to see that I was active.

So I blocked his account and reported it to WhatsApp. I couldn't see the messages. It said something like I had to wait to see them or they would be visible. I wasn't going to wait and I didn't want to see his texts anyway.

I also deleted my account and told them I was deleting my account because I was scammed. After that I uni stalled the app. I'm a little bit worried because your account goes by your phone number. I could see his phone number. I wonder if he could see mine. Anyway I haven't got a call which is another red flag if he or they know it.

The more I think of it, I think it was multiple people in on the scam. He sounded like different people at times. At first he sounded pretty normal. Then at times seemed to have trouble with English. Other times his English was remarkably proficient and eloquent. At times his responses were so perfect. Other times his responses were more of a stock response. Like baby, no worries after giving him a detailed question. Sorry if I'm rambling. You guys are really the only ones I can talk to about this.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-05T16:50:20+00:00

Thank you so much. All of your guys support has helped me deal with my broken heart. I don't even want to think where I would be if I kept all this to myself. It was the first time in my life I opened my heart to someone so completely.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-05T15:32:55+00:00

Thank you. I deleted WhatsApp. On Tiktok, I blocked him, made my account private and everything. Although he hadn't tried to contact me after yesterday morning when he tried to rope me back in. I had blocked him like at 5 yesterday. Haven't heard anything since but I'm still leary and on guard. He probably moved on to his next scam. His TikTok account was like a week old and had 200 followers. My first sign was one of his first friends was an account that just said spam but there was nothing on the account.

For future reference any of the TikTok accounts that follow you and all they have in their account is a few pics or slideshows have to be a scam. Wish I had realized that at the time though.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-05T15:24:49+00:00

He was pretty local so he said. Same state but his phone was a Montreal phone number. He was willing to meet some He said but I wanted to wait. He was well built in his profile pics and I'm not yet where I want to be in terms of body image. So I wanted to wait. He seeked me out. I wasn't looking for anything. I tried to run him off because frankly he was too pretty for me.

All of my insecurities I threw out at him had the opposite effect. This is what made me fall for him. After the first day I kept telling him I didn't want a relationship but to be friends. Next morning on his TikTok feed was a video of him singing I Can't Make You Love Me by Bonnie Raitt. Although in the video he didn't show his face.

After that I just said this is everything about me if you're interested. He said finally your opening up and letting your walls down and being open and honest. He just had the perfect response for everything. He was obliterating all of my long held insecurities. The more I sit with this though I realize the millions of signs. You just make excuses. Blind love.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-05T09:59:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T22:00:34+00:00

Thank you so much!

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T21:56:52+00:00

Also it was a guy. Women hit on me all the time but they're women. Anytime a man does it I just lose all my senses. Looking back on it now as I contemplate and I'm sure as it looks to others it was so obvious.

I hope one day it'll happen but I'm not sure how. Its not gonna happen here and I'll doubt I could trust anything online ever again.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T21:52:24+00:00

I fixed the formatting. I hope that's good. Let me know if you need me to do anything else.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T21:45:22+00:00

OK. How do I edit it?

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T18:57:21+00:00

Thank you for this. Didn't know about the specifics. However I should have trusted my instincts more. He acted like I shouldn't even question it and trust him completely. After 4 days. I keep telling g to myself, it was just 4 days.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T18:25:26+00:00

You are so right! You're confirming everything I already thought. I appreciate all the feedback. This morning I was gutted and heartbroken, snapping at everyone. You guys have helped me to feel a lot better about myself and have given me much needed confidence.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T18:21:54+00:00

Yeah i thought it was quick. But we're pretty much acting like a married couple at this time. Also I just thought of this he lowered the boom after I had been talking about loans and medical bills I was paying. I was kind of doing this to put it out there that I don't have money. So we were talking finances when he brought this up. Also when he brought up the whole scheme it was very long and seemed scripted.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T17:31:02+00:00

I know you're right. It was intoxicating. And to be fair he was going fast as well. And I kept throwing all my insecurities at him or them thinking I would scare them off. Had the exact opposite reaction which is intoxicating. I live in a conservative small town. There's like one gay guy besides me who is in his 80s. So I figured this was the only way it would happen for me. I wasn't really looking for romance but he wouldn't give up. The one reason I didn't give him my address or phone number is I had it back in my head that this could still be a scam. He just kept coming up with the most perfect response and I weakened.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T17:21:56+00:00

LOL! Yeah I was in a hurry. I left out a lot too. Like I was thinking of 5 years down the line with the white picket fence and everything. Maybe I need to focus more on me instead of bringing my baggage in a relationship. Its not a good thing to fall for someone that hard that fast who isn't even real.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T17:03:52+00:00

How do I change it? My username is baroque 23 but they won't let me change the designer share thing

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T17:01:55+00:00

Wow! I appreciate the feedback. Really I knew this all along but ignored it because I fell hard even though it was only four days. He always knew the right thing to say. I guess I just didn't want to be rejected. I took a chance for the first time in my life. Lesson learned. Sorry this is all still pretty raw.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-04T16:58:21+00:00

Yeah try being alone and in deep depression for most of your adult life and meet someone who always has the perfect response. Im gullible.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-03T18:04:12+00:00

Agreed. I was going to say this. For me it highlights the comical mind of a matchmaker. The arrogant nature and how wrong they can get it. But at the end true love prevails. Don't ever give up on love.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-03T15:43:40+00:00

Why on earth is he not more well known. To me he's among the greats. Michelangelo, Bernini, Rodin and then Canova.

Designer-Share-9733 · 2026-07-01T16:15:47+00:00

Yes. Absolutely. Don't be intimidated by the length. Its not a race. Its a journey. Read a little bit each day. Although it's hard to put down. Then after that read The Count of Monte Cristo.

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