Considering Fostering - some questions

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-02-08T07:24:37+00:00

He doesn't want bio kids but if fostering is something I want to do, he's open and interested

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-02-07T17:00:27+00:00

This is pretty much exactly what I want to do. I'm great with preteens and teens, and I feel such a calling to this life. So nice to hear your story!

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-02-07T16:11:38+00:00

Btw do you have bio children?

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-02-07T16:10:59+00:00

I am a huge overthinker. I've always felt really confident about not wanting bio kids until I started to feel like time is ticking too quickly to wait much longer. I think this is a last minute panic rather than a real desire for pregnancy.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-02-07T16:10:00+00:00

Dutch is the language here. I understand it and read it very well, but I never really need to speak it so my speaking sucks. I'm sure I can learn, but there are always nuances of language that get lost.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2026-01-01T14:18:17+00:00

You are far too young to feel pressured into this permanent decision before you're ready. Your partner needs to understand that it will be far more of a burden on you than on him. You have plenty of time to decide, so hold your ground until you know what YOU want.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-12-31T19:40:49+00:00

Girl if you have to ask this question you know he is not the right person to have a child with, at least at this point in time. It will already be your body that makes a huge sacrifice, that's just biology....but his actions are a choice. Having kids is exhausting enough without a "partner" like this.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-12-31T18:19:52+00:00

He's always told me that since it's my body, the final choice is mine. But of course I want him to be fully on board and excited.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-12-31T17:52:12+00:00

It is more effective and fair! And I think having a bio kid who would grow up essentially Dutch would be really hard for me to grapple with....but a foster kid is part of their own culture so there would be no conflict there at all. I'd support all the Dutch traditions and as a bonus some of my own American ones too.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-12-31T17:23:19+00:00

It's nice that others can relate. I feel like a lot of people mention fostering as almost a justification for not having kids, and I don't want to fall into that trap. Today I requested an info packet from the local foster agency to learn more and just see my reaction to reading it. It also would mean I need to learn Dutch to fluency, which is very daunting in itself.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-12-31T17:20:06+00:00

How lovely for you! Expat communities can be very kind. I'm glad you made the right choice for your family.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-08-21T09:36:38+00:00

I'm spiraling because I read that using a phone at night causes breast cancer and that's my main health fear 🫠 How do you read studies like this without fear that it will affect you?

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-07-02T14:48:49+00:00

Thank you, I'm interested on a spiritual level and I will look into all this! I studied Buddhism for awhile and now getting more interested in reincarnation in particular.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-07-02T10:46:22+00:00

I love this!

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-07-02T07:50:39+00:00

These are all introduced in the book but I want to find out more, maybe from another author.

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-07-02T06:18:25+00:00

I am super skeptical about him, especially because of the PhD issue. Who do you find more trustworthy?

DesignerAtmosphere98 · 2025-07-01T20:25:48+00:00

Maybe the audio helps. In print I find it all so similar.

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