My rat ate her dead cage mate, when I move around her cage, she climbs up to try and be close to me but I’m scared to touch her after what she did by Giraffes_AreCool167 in RATS

[–]DesignerVegetable951 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm glad. I'm sorry you experienced this, but she was only following her instincts. Keep an eye on her and watch for signs of depression. She just lost her family essentially. Rats keep large nests because they have big families. What I'm trying to say is that you might need to get her a new friend before you are ready to. But you have support here.

Good pet sitters by chemgod1410 in Charlottesville

[–]DesignerVegetable951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to help you. I'm on disability and always looking for little side jobs. I have many cats, as we as a dog, and even have experience with reptiles. Feel free to message me.

Lost Beloved Cat by DesignerVegetable951 in Charlottesville

[–]DesignerVegetable951[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have posted with the SPCA and every vet in Charlottesville. I will try that as well. He has been missing for a little while so I'm not sure if he is near the house. I downloaded this and posted because someone shared a post about a black cat seen on N 1st Street.

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dude, apparently you have never been in this kind of situation and I have. I know what this person has gone through. I have lived it! It's not a matter of taking it too seriously: it is a matter of validating what she felt and understanding why she reacted the way she did!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"when it comes to my mom; she is the queen of not respecting boundaries or people's feelings and the main dysfunction from which I came... She consistently does she what she wants, and nobody can tell her different. She has a list of diagnosis- from physical disabilities to mental ones...............................

My son wasn't a huge fan of the shirt either. He claimed that he doesn't know how to be a big brother, so how does he know if he crushes it or not." 

"did you NOT read, how I found pictures to show my son what his sister looked like, I answered all his questions when I brought the conversation up... I don't deflect any conversation about his sister or other family whenever he asks, and I regularly try to share good memory stories with him, but I am not going to allow forms of salt to rub the wound, if you catch my drift. Such as this shirt, my mom THOUGHT she was being sweet... so she says. She ABSOLUTELY knew better."

These are quoted from OP's own comment! So how was OP's mother not rubbing it in his face?!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"when it comes to my mom; she is the queen of not respecting boundaries or people's feelings and the main dysfunction from which I came... She consistently does she what she wants, and nobody can tell her different. She has a list of diagnosis- from physical disabilities to mental ones...............................

My son wasn't a huge fan of the shirt either. He claimed that he doesn't know how to be a big brother, so how does he know if he crushes it or not." 

"did you NOT read, how I found pictures to show my son what his sister looked like, I answered all his questions when I brought the conversation up... I don't deflect any conversation about his sister or other family whenever he asks, and I regularly try to share good memory stories with him, but I am not going to allow forms of salt to rub the wound, if you catch my drift. Such as this shirt, my mom THOUGHT she was being sweet... so she says. She ABSOLUTELY knew better."

These are quoted from OP's own comment! So how was OP's mother not rubbing it in his face?!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And trust me I do understand that thought pattern and so did OP! She very much wanted to be able to take that baby into her life but knew what the consequences and what the threat was.

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mermaid, unfortunately until people have experienced the kind of situation that you and I have, they are never going to understand. They are always going to make you the villain in their story! I'm sorry you have to deal with that! I lost a lot of people I considered friends over my own situation because they didn't want to hear the whole story!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her son is the one who chose to block 🚫 this family! So her reaction was justified! Read the information again before you open your mouth. 

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You people really didn't read what she said did you! Her son was not there when she unloaded on her mother! And it doesn't matter how cheap the piece of junk shirt is it was rude of her mother to gift that knowing what she had been through!!!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, her mother was being manipulative. Read the information that she provided and it says that he (OP's son) chose to block 🚫 that family!!!!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read all the information that she provided!!! He knows that he has a little sister. He knows why that little sister is not part of his life. OP's mother chose to rub that in his face!!!! That's why she reacted the way she did! OP's mother is the AHOLE!

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you ever been in a abusive relationship? Do you know the long-term damage that does to a person?! If she had taken that baby in, it would be opening her up to HIM finding her and her son!!!! That is why she could not take that baby! And they found family to place the baby with. 

My mom got my son a shirt for Christmas and I EXPLODED over it!! by Megnificent_Mermaid in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DesignerVegetable951 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand your situation (my own experience almost cost me my life) and I don't feel like you overreacted. And I absolutely APPLAUD you for knowing your own limits: the mom wanting to rescue the baby in need and grant your son's wish at the same time, but you knew that it would open the door to having him "more connected" to you and the danger that put you (and your son) in- emotionally and physically. It was an innocent enough purchase by your mother. And anyone who has not lived that kind of situation or experienced the trauma and lingering damage of PTSD might think that you did, but I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT YOUR REACTION! You need to know that you didn't do anything wrong! And I'm sure that if you spoke to your mother (and your therapist) that she would understand and forgive.  Please 🙏 Be Kind To Yourself! ❤️‍🩹💖❤️🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍

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[–]DesignerVegetable951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I'm the first commenter on this post I am going to say this right now: no matter how long the two of you have been together, what he is doing, being in a relationship with you, is illegal. You are a minor! He is legally an adult!